Im sick of this one chick who I cannot stand. She tried to involve me in her life, but I feel its only out of a "kind nature" and not because she actually likes me around. I know personally I cannot stand her around , because there is always something unexpected going on. I sometimes blame myself like "why cant I be more like here, she seems so nice and just this angry person" but we go way back. I had her as a roommate in college and it was dreadful. I hated that year, and I think that I am still mad at her for that. But I gotta let it go. Problem is she lives right next to me and if thats not enough, she and my current roommate are seemingly good friends. I hate this, I feel boxed in and my roommate and I are concidering moving out however, she took initiative afew days ago with my ex-roomate to look for housing, only letting me know through a phone call. I was pissed, so I called someone for advice. She said talk about it, but I have yet to , Im sacred.
courage is so hard...
2006-10-01 07:26:13 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Sounds like a good thing that she is moving. Don't be scared, just plan what to say in advance, that always helps.Say this without sarcasm. "Thanks for letting me know you are going to move, I really appreciated it. I'm sorry things did not work out."
That way, you are not being mean, and you can be proud of yourself, you did the polite adult thing to do. And you do not leave her with any room to say anything but something nice right back.
2006-10-01 07:43:05 · answer #1 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, it sounds like you are making a big deal out of nothing. Even if you don't think this girl totally likes you, at least she's making an effort to be nice and involve you. You should learn from her and do the same. If you just let go of the anger and LET yourself like her, you two may become very good friends! College is hard enough without all the drama. If you try to be kinder to people whether you like them or not, you may find out you really do like them after all... just try it!
2006-10-01 07:36:40 · answer #2 · answered by Lindsay M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think you're just being totally immature about this whole issue. I don't know, maybe it's the way some people deal with relationships and all, but I can't fake liking someone. If I don't like a person, I simply stay away and do not associate with them in anyway. That way, there's no awkward moments like you've described.
Maybe you just need to let everything go. Forget about it!
2006-10-01 07:59:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From your description it seems she has done nothing wrong. The problem seems to be more your reaction to her which I read as perhaps jealousy. It is natural to have this shadow side, if you learn to admit to it then you can much better deal with it. Just come out and tell you friend, be honest and she may be better able to help you.
2006-10-01 07:33:48 · answer #4 · answered by Chris C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks like its not her maybe its you.Try humbling your heart you will find it there
2006-10-01 07:34:21 · answer #5 · answered by Love_iz_Therapy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋