I went to homecoming last night. I asked my stepdad what a reasoable time was to be home. and he said being almsot 18 and this was my last homecoming, 1 oclock would be fine. my mom calls me at 12 screaming at me about being home. my step dad sides with her and tries to yell at my boyfriend for not taking me home. i am 2 months away from being 18. am i over reacting or do my parents have too strict curfew. and was my stepdad being a jerk?
2006-10-01 07:21:42 · 25 answers · asked by Alexis 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He knew that if he did not side with your mom in yelling about the time then she would cut him off in bed. He did a quick assessment of the relative importance of things and decided that it would be prudent and the best course of action for him to side with her and also yell about the time, otherwise he would get the cold shoulder in bed.
I wouldn't worry about it too much. He does not think you were out too late, he just did what he had to do under the circumstances to get what he wanted under the covers. AEN
2006-10-01 07:36:44 · answer #1 · answered by Kokopelli 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that WAS unfair of your stepdad to say 1 AM and then he acts as if he never said that. That's REALLY messed up. Your curfew sounds reasonable, on the weekend there's a LOT of crazy drunks ready to kidnap anybody they see.
What's NOT reasonable is that you are being yelled at for not being home after your stepdad said 1 AM. He was acting really dishonest and as a stepfather he shouldn't be like that.
Talk to your parents and ask your stepfather why the heck he had said 1 AM and then he gets mad at you with your mom.
You're almost 18 and you're getting to that age where you are a mature adult. So take matters into your own hands and work through them maturely. If your folks don't listen to you when you try to talk it out with them just remember you only have a few more years of living with your parents then you can get your own place.
2006-10-01 07:28:27 · answer #2 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, first off, it sounds like your mom and step-dad are having communication issues...UNLESS, you knew your mom would say an earlier time for curfew, and deliberately went to your step-dad knowing he'd say later. That's called playing your parents against each other, and even though parents shouldn't fall for it, they do. On the parental unfairness issue, in my house you'd have to be home by midnight, because that's my daughter's curfew, and she's in 11th grade and almost 17. So, if you don't like the rules in your parents house, you can do 3 things, you can break the rules and have privileges removed, you can move out, and support yourself, OR you can just keep the rules of the family.
2006-10-01 07:48:05 · answer #3 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, that is very unfair if your stepdad told you 1:00 and then screams at you like he told you otherwise. Try to sit down with your mom and explain to her what happened. Even better, have your stepdad there too. He needs to be a real man and own up to saying that 1:00 was fine, instead of acting like he never said anything like that.
2006-10-01 08:08:00 · answer #4 · answered by Mallory B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You step-dad should have been a real man and owned up to telling your mom he said "1 o'clock would be fine". On the other hand, your mom IS the boss as long as you live under her roof. Parents set curfews for a reason - because they CARE! Don't sweat the small stuff, make amends and make it a great day!
2006-10-01 07:28:02 · answer #5 · answered by kcgsister 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not sure that unfair is the word. But they obviously arent communicating with each other. Or perhaps you're 'playing' your parents. Did you ask your dad cuz you thought he'd have a better answer than your mom?
At any rate, the whole situation needs discussion between all 3 of you. And your date should NOT have been involved. It was a 'family' issue.
2006-10-01 08:01:05 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Curfew time aside (BTW, 12am is reasonable, 1am is generous)sounds like your stepdad and your mom need to communicate more. Maybe you can be smarter about it too and ask the both of them, while they are both together, what time you should be home. That way, each will know what the other told you.
2006-10-01 07:29:08 · answer #7 · answered by elk312 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yea your stepdad was being a jerk. If he told you 1, then he told you 1. It was messed up for him to take back his word. But you are young and you will have plenty of time to stay out late, so i wouldnt sweat it. Tell your stepdad you need it in writing next time lol
2006-10-01 07:24:49 · answer #8 · answered by sandee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wait your step-dad said 1 and the mom calls screaming at 12, hmmm sounds as if they didn't discuss the curfew. So it's not that they are unfair it's that they are goofy.
2006-10-01 07:26:25 · answer #9 · answered by hnz57txn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Midnight is reasonable. As far as your step dad is concerned well if he told you 1 then make sure you mom knows this and if he denys it next time go to you mom about issues regarding curfew .. Seeing how your step dad is a JERK
2006-10-01 07:25:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋