Do parents raise their kids with values anymore?

Question

Please dont take offense. But it just seems that kids these days are selfish brats! Example...my mom has sent birthday gifts...halloween gifts....christmas gifts...bags of candy..and coloring books to her grandchildren who live in another state. They dont care. They dont even acknowledget they get them.
WHY!

Answer 1

Sadly I don't think many people are teaching their kids manners anymore! It's really sad that kids now days are socially inept. It's a reflection of their parents.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Let me begin by saying that if you don't want someone to take offense, you shouldn't be hostile with your question.

Now to answer your question: I am a military mom, whose children are states away from their grandparents. My parents do exactly what you claim your mom does - she sends gifts for every and any occasion. My children call her as soon as they get/open the gifts. Now that my boys are getting older, I am teaching them to send thank you notes and letters for the gifts received because I don't want them to grow up thinking that they should expect things from people - even their grandparents. My parents also call at least once a week to talk to my boys. They have a wonderful relationship with my parents even though they only get to see them 3-4 times a year. Now my children rarely receive anything (even phone calls) from my in-laws, and they have the same respect for them as they do for my parents. I can also add though that the relationship is not as close to my in laws as it is woth my parents.

If you've ever learned anything about child pyschology, you would know that ALL children are egocentric. Which means that everything in their world revolves around them. It has been my experience as a mom that children feel loved and close to the people who make an effort to be involved in their lives. For children that means buying them things that they are interested in and just having regular contact with them. If you feel this makes them selfish, then you are the one with the problem. Kids are only doing what is in their nature to do.

So back to your question - my husband and I are raising our children to have values and to value the things they are given.

Now I have a question for you: Are you jealous of your nieces and nephews?? Because it seems that you have a problem with them getting attention from your mom.

Answer 4

The problem is not the parents, it's the children because they are so spoiled that they do not appreciate little things. Not all children are that way some are very appreciative...

I recently went to a birthday party at a friends house and I brouhgt a toy for the child and I handed it too him and he just looked at it and dropped it on the floor. I was so hurt that I felt like taking the toy back and giving it to one of my children... How rude was that and he was not a baby, he was at lease 8 or 9 yrs. old...

Answer 5

It's not just the parents. It's very hard to be one of the only parents that still disciplines and isn't afraid to. Now a days, parents have to respect the kids and not the other way around. I think they went a little overboard with the rules, regulations, stipulations, and severe consequences to parents for disciplining our kids. It's unfathomable to me that in some places they take away the responsibility of discipline from the parents but they hold parents responsible for our kids' actions. Some parents have just lost total control for fear of such consequences. The lack of parents not being choosy of our children's toys, friends, and activities plays a significant role in it as well. And I do agree that we have to show not just tell our kids how to be decent human beings.

Answer 6

I think that the reason is that a lot of parents are so self-absorbed that they do not take the time to teach their kids the most basic manners. I know that I tried my best with my kids(meaning repeatedly nagged them about their manners as they were growing up) and now that they are teenagers, good manners just come naturally.

Answer 7

As a parent, and I can only speak for myself. I try, but in order to do so, one would have to shelter their children from society, if you look at society as a whole, it is selfish, it does not care, it takes too much for granted. So I sit and do my part by trying to show my children that society should not be determinant of how we are to live our lives. I must say it is difficult, but I know that my two adult children, and my young son do in fact respect and understand this.
So to answer your very generalized question, yes some of us try, but it is up to society to show us a positive life to lead, we can only go on our own personal values. and what is values to one, may not be for another.
your mother feels it necessary to do this for her grandchildren, she loves them, but the parents do not show the children how to appreciate what they have. They should try being poor for a while, it helps. (at least it helped my children, growing up my two adult daughters didnt have much, now i am workin on the boy, as he has so much more than my girls did, so we still go without if only to show that you cannot have everything you want in life, unless you work hard to get it)

Answer 8

I have my kids call to thank. my preschoolers made a picture for grandpa when he got hurt. They both say please,thank you,excuse me,your welcome. They both get a snack for the other when they do for themselves. Theyre very good kids. There is this book series called "help me be good". Theyre helpful but I agree seems like theyre are alot of ungrateful children but maybe its because parents arent thanking their kids and it takes showing,not just telling.

Answer 9

Yah I have neices like that. I send gifts or money to them and I have no idea if they got them or not.
I make sure my kids make a phone call, or write to them and say thank you. I wish all kids/ parents would do the same.

Answer 10

i hate my peers. my generation is screwed. i wouldn't solely blame parents, i think media and what american views as"important" or "acceptable" effects how someone turns out. me, i have a pretty good head on my shoulders. how lucky i am.:)

oh, and to huskymom- i have not been raised with strong religious values, i currently dont even know what i believe, so i really dont think religion has that much effect on people. but who knows, maybe it does for some.