I met a guy a couple weeks ago I was instantly attracted to. So when our mutual acquaintance, him, and I went out last weekend, he gave me oral sex after he asked to make out with me. We ended up talking and we went no further as I'm still a virgin.
However, there are several issues that I'm scared about. The first is that his ex had herpes. The second is that we both just got out of long-term relationships. He basically called me 2 days after the oral sex and told me he wanted to talk to me again, as friends, and do nothing physical.
He invited me to a party last night and I went. Before that I was eating dinner with a male friend of mine. Basically at the party he kept insinuating that he liked "older women" (I'm younger than him), kept hugging other girls, but when I left the room to get beer, he followed me outside. And when I left the kitchen to go to the bathroom, he called me on my cellphone. He was flirting with other girls, but when he, our acquaintance, and I left the party
2006-10-01 06:47:27 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he basically told me he needed to use the bathroom in my apartment. So i let him in. We ended up making out, and nothing more. Then it was 2 am and he was trying to decide whether or not to leave and go home, but he ended up spending the night in my bed. We did NOT cuddle or anything, but we ended up talking as we both woke up a few times in the night.
2006-10-01 06:48:23 · update #1
In the morning when he left, he hugged me and then he left. That's basically it.
I'm just scared because his ex had herpes, and I made out with him twice. I also don't know what's going on as he said he wanted to just be friends and hang out, but he keeps wanting to touch me. At the party he'd flirt with other girls, but then he'd ask me what went on with my guy friend. He also asked if my guy friend was hot--the one I went on a dinner with_ and if I liked him. Then he said my guy friend sounded like a douche and that I shouldn't talk to him.
2006-10-01 06:49:45 · update #2
So, 1) Should I stop socializing with him because he has herpes? I am physically and mentally attractred to him, so I figure if we do hang out, I would make out with him. 2) Are we just friends or what? I don't want a relationship either right now, but I'm so confused. 3) What's going to happen?
2006-10-01 06:50:39 · update #3
Also, I really enjoy talking to him as we do speak about crap a lot. I'm just confused. Please tell me what to do.
2006-10-01 06:51:29 · update #4
About the sex bit, the weird thing is he never tried to take his pants off the second night. And I told him I would not have sex with a guy I didn't love. Plus, he might have herpes.
The bad thing is, I am physically and mentally attracted to him....I don't know what to do. I am rarely attracted to guys.
2006-10-01 06:56:22 · update #5
I didn't know he had herpes when he gave me oral....he told me afterwards. But he said he did not have it, just his ex.
Now he tells me he does not trust me and asked me if I had herpes.
Ok so basically, I think we both like each other, but we both BS each other a lot. I date other guys; he dates other girls. I don't know what to do. I'm confused. I actually really like him, and I don't like the guys I date.
2006-10-01 06:58:01 · update #6
LISTEN VERY CAREFULLY. Please stop romanticizing that fact some guy gave you head when you just meant him. There is nothing romantic about that. That should explain why the word herpes and him are used in the same sentence. His ex had/ has herpes, there is a chance that he may have it too. And you allowed him to perform oral sex on you. This is what you should do, go and get yourself tested and tell him to come along with you. If you are going to do grown up things then you should be doing all the other grown up things. If he shys away from going to get tested with you, then my dear, you run and get tested and run away from him. If he does go with you, and everything comes back negative, then discuss possible taking it to the next step. In my opinion, neither of you are responsible enough for what comes next. he just preformed oral sex on you, and a couple of days later, flirting with other girls etc.. Herpes,,, there is no cure for that.
2006-10-01 06:56:40 · answer #1 · answered by upfromnutin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This relationship is going MUCH too fast physically. You guys barely know each other at all. I think you should either recognize that and break it off, or go back to step one and stop 90% of the physical stuff while you learn to balance out the friendship. I'm not a prude or anything, but this track so far makes you both look cheap. Not that I never did anything so foolish myself, because I used to, but I learned it's definitely not the best way.
2006-10-01 06:51:25 · answer #2 · answered by catintrepid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy doesn't sound as though he is really serious...Meaning, he wants you for one thing and one thing only--SEX. You have every right to be concerned about his ex having genital herpes because you don't know if he has it? You don't know if he has been tested for it. Don't further involve yourself with this guy--he sounds like a player plus he is messing with your mind. Find someone who is less "risky".
2006-10-01 06:54:16 · answer #3 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy wants to pop your cherry dear !!!! hes playing you
2006-10-01 06:51:01 · answer #4 · answered by dogowner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he likes you and wants to see how much you like him by making you jealous!!! Take your time and have fun!!!!
2006-10-01 06:51:03 · answer #5 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋