Okay so i have a problem.....I am not happy with my boyfriend anymore..(he lives with me)...I mean i dont hate his guts or anything but...I dont like who ive become...since ive been with him! I dont want to be the one to end it with him...Id rather he be the one leaving me...I mean how hard could it be for him to its not like he his ever here at home with me!! What kind of things can i do "BESIDES CHEATING" to get him to wanna leave me??? I know this sounds like a strange question...but it seems like everytime"I" have left him he always weasles his way back...Please help me!!!!!!Im tired of this!!!!!!!!
P.S. Havent seen him since Friday!!!!
2006-10-01 06:39:08 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just tell him you want to end the relationship cause apparently he doesn't care for you that much if he hasn't seen you for days. I doubt he would be that hurt and it would solve your problem. You may not want to do it this way but it's better than hiding your feelings and projecting him away with your actions. Just tell him striaght up and see how it goes. Maybe once he realizes you aren't happy he'll change his ways, and if not, there are always more fish in the big sea. Hope it works out!
2006-10-01 06:45:26 · answer #1 · answered by slayr101@verizon.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect yourself and make him leave while you still have some dignity. It's not love keeping you together, it's a twisted need. You don't want to be the one to do the hurting. He's already been hurting you enough! He sounds just like my exBF who was a drunk and lived with me and repeatedly disappeared for days on end. There was no trust between us. I was faithful to him for the entire 5 years we were together, while he chipped away at my self esteem and treated me like dirt, accusing me of being deceitful, unfaithful, not kinky enough, etc.... I kept believing that if I could show him I loved him enough, stick it out with him through thick and thin, he would finally figure it out and be thankful to have me in his life. Once in a while he would be sweet (giving me enough "crumbs" to hold on) and I would get to thinking that things were changing for the better FINALLY! He ended up giving me two incurable sexually transmitted diseases (which he never admitted to, even after I insisted he be tested and his tests came back positive-- he even accused me of having my doctor, who read the results to him, lie to him about his results just so I could place the blame on him). I stuck it out with him, making excuses for him to reason it out in my mind so I wouldn't have to accept the actual facts and could believe his words and I questioned my own judgement. I didn't like the person I had become. I lost my identity in that relationship. It resulted in a lot of hurt, wasted time, and lessons learned. When I got away from him, my thoughts really cleared and I learned that if I don't respect myself, no one else will. That's what you should do. Don't waste any more time waiting for him to end it. It wont feel any better to you if he ends it. Salvage your dignity and self respect and boot his azz to the curb.
2006-10-01 06:56:43 · answer #2 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HIM. You do not have to take that. You do not have to be with anyone who you do not want to be with. You say that you do not want to be with him, but you always take him back. You need to ask yourself why you want to be in a relationship with somebody who mistreats you. You need to work on yourself. Get away from him, no matter what it takes. Good luck, but you cannot stay with him. Reading between the lines, you are in a very unhealthy relationship and you feel trapped. You are never trapped, and don't forget that.
2006-10-01 06:47:09 · answer #3 · answered by black mamba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on whos name is on the lease or rental agreement!!!! if your name - pack his stuff up in bags and put on porch, change the locks, goto folks for vacation (couple weeks), and dont tell him. If its his - Pack up your stuff leave a note Saying If you can't come Home to me who needs you.. Go back to folks and restart your life.. you deserve better.. Time heals all wounds, not to mention Family support is always good
2006-10-01 06:47:38 · answer #4 · answered by dogowner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just walk out the door move your things and leave if he hasn't seen you since Friday and you guys live together he must not care that much.
2006-10-01 06:41:54 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are old enough to live with a person, you are old enough to dump him. this is one of your lessons in life. unfortunately it took me a long time to learn it also. sometimes things in life are hard to do, but they have to be done. take a deep breath, and do it. break up with him. once that is done, you just have to stay strong and dont let him come back. once you break up with him, stay busy, and if he wants to talk tell him you're going out, dont have time, whatever. dont give him a chance to weasle his way back!!!!!
2006-10-01 06:47:53 · answer #6 · answered by melinda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him all the time go around looking for him pop up where he goes his favorite spots befriend his friends have them come over have your male friends over all times of the night have one of your call you in the middle of the night act like its one of your male friends and he needs you and just jump up and leave stay gone to the next night he will be tried of you and leave
2006-10-01 06:47:09 · answer #7 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, you made a commitment to him and its your responsibility to fulfill it or not. He hasn't been unfairly betraying you with false feelings has he? Even if he has...Its not right for you to do this. Be true to you...and him...This is only going to be a bad consequence that you will have to deal with if you don't do right by you as well as him.
GOOD LUCK
2006-10-01 06:44:02 · answer #8 · answered by JEM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u see him u want an answer for him and if u don't believe him than without telling him pack his suff and without telling him on the front door change your locks on the your door and than u call him up and say i would hav never had to do it if u told the tufe to u i know u don't want to but it is he only way
2006-10-01 06:59:31 · answer #9 · answered by Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haven't seen him since FRIDAY and your worried about how to break the news to get him to break up with you??? HMMMMMMMMM....
GO to his closet..get his clothes..put them in a bag..VERY NEATLY..since you are so concerned with his feelings and place them outside the door very carefully with a well written note that says: GET TO STEPPIN BIOTCH
2006-10-01 06:42:13 · answer #10 · answered by princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋