My husband and I have one baby and don't know if we want to have another.
2006-10-01 06:27:16 · 9 answers · asked by boski 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
we had two but all most 5 years apart so one can help out the other when we are no longer around and so they we have one another when we do pass on so they can always have each other to lean on in good times and bad---
2006-10-01 06:32:07 · answer #1 · answered by Ladder Captain-29 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
With one child and then bringing a second into the family you will have a bit of jealousy. This is normal as the child is not use to there being another child around. You have more time to spend with your child when he/she is an only child. With two children your child learns how to share and to play with other children. And even with two children there will still be jealousy. Or maybe competition for their parents attention. You will just have to give equal attention to both children. If you do decide to have a new baby let your oldest child be a big part in the care taking of the new little one. He/She can help get stuff ready for bath time and meal time. This will make he/she feel like they are needed and make them feel like a big boy/girl.
2006-10-01 13:35:54 · answer #2 · answered by Deidre C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As an only child, I was bored and lonely most of the time. As a teen, I was always in trouble because there were no other siblings to take the focus away from me. As a mother of two (planned), I love watching my son and daughter together. Sure they annoy each other and "big brother" does pick on "little sis" sometimes, but I've never seen two people so close. They share the same interests and engage in a lot of the same activities. They are affectionate toward each other. It's been wonderful! My 11 1/2 year old son and 9 year old daughter are each others best friends and constant companions.
2006-10-01 13:46:00 · answer #3 · answered by Angela B 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm an only child and all I can say is I HATE it! Yeah, I get lots of gifts, money, and attention from my parents but I'd rather have a sibling. I'm 26 and married now and I hate not having siblings to have a bond with. My hubby is lucky, he has a brother and sister, and I get so jealous watching how connected they are. I used to cry myeslf to sleep every night as a child, praying for a sibling. And yes, I was very behind on social skills, very shy, and yes, even today, I think the world pretty much revolves around me, lol. My hubby and I are trying for our first child right now, we really want two - I never want to put anyone else through what I went through. Yeah, I might not be able to buy both of my kids everything under the son like my parentsd did for me, but I think the special love/bond between siblings is WAY more valuable gift.
2006-10-01 14:49:01 · answer #4 · answered by Cookie On My Mind 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I am an only child, I had noone to play with growing up but I was spoiled and had alot of attention and love as a child.
I have 2 children, sometimes they get along, some times they don't. But it is costly to have more than one child.
However.....
when my father died last year, it was just my mom and me. It is very hard when there is only one child to do all of the work.
I am very grateful that I had 2 children. I have a boy and a girl
2006-10-01 13:32:00 · answer #5 · answered by I love the flipflops 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
One child: Pros- financially you will be able to provide more for the child, you will be able to give the child more attention.
Cons-Unless the child is involved with social activities, he/she may be a little behind in social skills, they will deal with aging parents alone, they wont get to enjoy the special bond that comes with having siblings, they wont get to be a blood aunt/uncle
2006-10-01 13:30:52 · answer #6 · answered by Melissa 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Pros:
More love to share
The children will have someone to play with when no one else is available.
2006-10-01 19:09:50 · answer #7 · answered by Why's the rum gone? ☺☮♥ ツ♫ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a discussion that you have to have with your husband because it is up to the both of you..
2006-10-01 14:16:57 · answer #8 · answered by Vicky 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I THINK ONLY CHILDREN HAVE A HARDER TIME IN LIFE. SHARING IS NOT NECCESARY. KINDNESS IS NOT OFTEN SEEN. THEY TEND TO RULE THE HOUSE, THEIR LITTLE WORLD REVOLVES AROUND THEM. WHICH TO ME IS DANGEROUS. LIFE IS NOT LIKE THAT. A SIBLING USUALLY PUTS THINGS INTO PERSPECTIVE FOR THE CHILD AND THE PARENTS.
2006-10-01 13:32:51 · answer #9 · answered by lkjsigns1 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋