I went out with an amazing guy about two years ago. He was so wonderful and we had this connection that i have never felt before. we would talk on the phone forat leats 5 hours and the only reason why it would end was because of my cel phone battery. well we went out for a little over 6 months and he wanted to take things further as far as sexualy and i wasnt ready so he broke up with me. I was devistated I cryed for 3 months striaght. i would run ino him occasionaly and we had this spark between us that people said they can feel. well hes been going out with this girl whos slept with more than 30 people and this is no joke. they have been together for a year now and ive tryed to move on but the though of him still haunts me. I even tryed to go out with other people but even after two years the thought of him still hautnts me. I still cry and wish i had him. can anyone help me? please
2006-10-01 06:25:56 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Time to start putting out...
2006-10-01 06:28:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Guys have a physical need that I think some women just don't understand. If you weren't ready for sex that's completely understandable, but obviously he was and that was important to him, so you two weren't on the same wave length and that put a rift in the relationship. Not the first time that has happened, beleive me. The past is the past and you can't change it. Just let this be a lesson. All guys are horndogs, it's how we are designed by nature. You never hear of a girl wanting sex and the guy not beingready, so she breaks up with him. You see, it's biological. If a guy wants/needs sexual relief and you don't for whatever reason, you could probably compromise by offering a handjob or blojob or something less than sex. You may even still be able to get you ex back, if you were a little more open to his advances, but you'd have to ask yourself, do you want him back after he's been with a girl that been with more than 30 guys?
2006-10-01 06:40:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a big jerk and you don't need to give him another thought about him cause he isn't thinking when he broke up with you and not now either so you need to stop the pain and go on with your life which i know myself it is not easy but you are not along in this pretty much all of us have had a broken heart before including me and it does take time to heal and this first thing in healing is that you do love yourself to say no to him wanting to have sex and you sound like a very respectable person that any man should be worshiping the ground you walk on. Take Care.
2006-10-01 06:41:33 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me. Of course the circumstances were different but I was literally HAUNTED by the thoughts of this guy for two years straight. He was sooooo nice to me and we would talk for hours and hours on the phone. He was like the "ONE" ya know. He mentioned us sleeping together and I was afraid that it would run him off if I did.
Another party broke he and I up. He did not leave me because I didn't sleep with him like in your situation. He was even telling me he loved me etc. I would think of him everyday. I would listen to music wondering if he was listening to the same thing and thinking of me. He and his gf would go on trips and I would think ..that could have been me.
I actually met another guy about a month ago that I really fell for. Believe it or not, it actually took my mind off of that guy that I have had on my mind for 2 years. Thing is..now I cant get this other one out of my head and he's gone now..ha ha....
I think we may have addictive personalities..co dependent...whatever....it may just be us...ya know? start looking hard to find someone else. But this someone else must have a lot of chemistry. Any ol joe blow wont work..He has to turn your thoughts around..but beware...if he leaves then you will have another one to think about ..ha ha..
2006-10-01 06:32:44 · answer #4 · answered by princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to know that although you had a "spark" with this man he was not respectful enough towards you when you didnt want to have sex with him so he dumps you and goes sleepping around what a JERK you deserve better and you need to move on and find someone that will stick with you rather your ready to have sex or not a real guy would have been respectful and waited for you
HUGS
2006-10-01 06:29:07 · answer #5 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend of 2 years cant respect the fact that you were not ready for sex and broke up with you. Dont waste your breath hun. There are plenty of other fish in the sea and plenty of other guys who are willing to wait a lifetime until you are ready. Take your time and find other things and guys to get your mind off of him. good luck sweetie, you'll find the one
2006-10-01 06:34:59 · answer #6 · answered by aricalyn10<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your pain.....in some ways you may never stop thinking about him but do a reality check. If he broke up with you simply because you wouldn't sleep with him, then despite your wonderful connection on other levels, he's not a keeper! Let him have the loose chick..you can find better! Good luck to you!
2006-10-01 06:30:50 · answer #7 · answered by K B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think u should still try to go out with other people and forget this guy. If he broke up with u because u weren't prepared to sleep with him, he doesn't deserve u at all.
Would u like to be with someone that's with u just because u make love with him, that doesn't really care about u? If he respected or liked u, he'd wait.
I know it's hard to forget, like I still think about my first "boyfriend" but life goes on, I'm even married now.
Think about it!
2006-10-01 06:36:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We're in the same situation right now, well most of it. I can't get over my ex neither, and I tells him that too. Maybe ya'll should have a little talk about that and maybe things will get better.
2006-10-01 06:41:33 · answer #9 · answered by Angel G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you were young, and you were very impressed by his attention.
what you don't know is how genuine he was.
perhaps he only sweet-talked you so he could get sex.
the point is that you were not ready, so maybe you had some deep feeling he was only trying to use you.
it can be difficult to get revenge for past humiliation, so I suggest you grow up and let it go.
2006-10-01 06:33:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant force anyone to like you.... and yeah it sucks! But you have to move on eventually. I miss and cant stop thinking about my ex but we broke up about a week ago. You have to move on at somt time and i think that now is that time. Obvously he is happy with this other girl and i know that it truley sucks that you feel like this but you have to move on! Im sorry you feel like this......
= ) Try to be happy!
2006-10-01 06:35:12 · answer #11 · answered by ♥ Sunshine ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋