yesterday i had a serious talk with my bf..telling him the flaws i dont like about him.. and how he should change..like the way hes rude..he should be nicer..and how he shouldnt take things for granted..and this morning he broke up wiht me and said..I DONT ACCEPT HIM for who he is.. and now he doesnt want to talk/be with me anymore.. is he hardheaded because he does have a bad attitude and not willing to change.. i know you shouldnt try to change someone but sometimes its neccsary for their own good will.. but yeah im guessing me wants me to come crawling back to him..but i always do..what should i do
2006-10-01 05:47:28 · 25 answers · asked by girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let him go. DO NOT CRAWL BACK TO HIM. he is not worth your time.It does not sound like u told him anything he should not have already known. u didn't mention his. age but not being rude is something u learn as a child. leave him alone and let him come to grips with his faults. u be the bigger person and move on. good luck
2006-10-01 05:54:56 · answer #1 · answered by Lady B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey chica,
I can try to help. Being a guy I understand two major things when it comes to relationships. 1. Guys are guys and you can never change him only he can change himself, if he finds the value of the relationship to be worth the pain of change. I am not saying the value he finds in you, but in your relationship. 2. If you go running back to a guy that ( in his mind) shattered your world, carelessly throwing away your feeling and your opinion; he will without a doubt never respect or love you. My suggestion to you is go out and find a hopeless guy that will desperately need you and worship the ground you walk on. He probably will not be the best looking guy in the world but a cute guy. Go out and have fun w/ him and learn what it feels like to be truly loved. From there you will have to decide if you want someone that loves you or someone that just likes you.
2006-10-01 06:13:09 · answer #2 · answered by bigsatdaddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that if you have a long list of things that you would like him to change, then you should try to find someone else who already fits what you want. I had a girlfriend that I thought i really had a thing for, but then when I cane up with a list of things that i didnt like aabout her, then i realized that she wasn't the one for me. I really hope that things work out for you because I know exactly how you feel. Good Luck!!
2006-10-01 05:51:30 · answer #3 · answered by monkeyspeed13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like him the way he is, and its not something he's willing to change, forget him and find someone new! If he's rude and takes things for granted, it doesn't seem as if you were enjoying the relationship anyway.
2006-10-01 05:50:26 · answer #4 · answered by kabash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody likes to have their faults pointed out. In relationships, it's important to realize that nobody is perfect. You have to pick your battles. Is the habit something that is really important in the long run? Or is it something as trival as how the dishwasher is loaded (forks up vs. down)? Once you know that, ask "How can WE resolve this?" Remember you're a team - if you act like a team, you'll be happy, if you act like two individuals it may not work out.
2006-10-01 05:58:36 · answer #5 · answered by moroni33 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-01 05:58:26 · answer #6 · answered by anna a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's not hard headed.... he is right.... you didnt accept him.... if you wanted him to change you should have asked him if he would mind being a little less rude.... apologize if he doesnt answer the phone/ walks away from you leave him a message saying how sorry you are and anything else you can think of to fix the situation
2006-10-01 05:52:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of being in a long lasting relationship is accepting your partners faults. If you cant do that now then you never will but dont try to change him because he will just resent you for it...nag nag nag. Good luck
2006-10-01 05:53:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really don't know wat i should tell you! i think that if you love him and like him you wouldnt have to change him, because if you loved him from the start (before you tryed to change him) you would be lovin him for the person that he already was!!!!! if he asked you out, you should have said no, if you did not like his personality!! so if you tryed to change him then it is not love , it is not anything!!! you cant change a person!!!! and yes all couples r goin to fight but i think you should just probely think this over, if you do decide to go crawling back to him!!!!!
2006-10-01 06:02:55 · answer #9 · answered by candy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi you cant change someone they have to change they self you can try to help him improve his attitude.If his attitude is always rude and nasty acting towards you, you don't need him move on it might be hard but you don't need him if he cant at least try to change to help the relationship then let it go. good luck!
2006-10-01 05:58:17 · answer #10 · answered by leeleemd1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋