Please help?

Question

How do you stop yourself from falling into bad memories and thoughts?

Answer 1

Mind management is a way to control one’s mind. To do this, we need to be cautious about our thinking process and also need a high level of understanding and meditation as well.

Understanding is wisdom — 80 per cent of people are knowledgeable while 20 per cent are wise. Knowledgeable men take sides without reason. They feel sad seeing deprived people but jealous when they see happy people. They work in the guidance of others’ inspiration, take unnecessary responsibility to keep themselves disturbed.

A wise person does not stand for or against any idea without concrete reason. He works according to the situation and capacity. He looks at everything intellectually. To him, failure is a stepping stone for future success. So depression and conflict are not seen. Like the phrase ‘Stop, Look, Go’, first one should see, and this needs patience. Meditation is necessary to control and manage mind which then becomes an easy task.

Why do we need mind management?
Unless we control or manage our mind, it is difficult to achieve success and peace. Psychologists say every interest is first born in the mind as a seed. Then it continues to grow. Later it takes its real form which everybody can see. The interest that first appears in the mind remains weak for the first three minutes and it becomes strong within the next five minutes.

All the negative aspects should be deleted within the first three minutes. If not taken out, they would become stronger later and you can never throw them out. After taking control over the mind, we can control passion, interest and unrest. Mind management is essential for a peaceful, successful and healthy life.

The age of computers has thrown us on the escalator of aspirations but has robbed us of simple charms like falling asleep. The compulsions of hectic schedules burden the mind and cause stress.

However, the joys that elude us can be regained by practising power meditation. It creates tranquillity, simplifies life and cleanses the mind. It helps control indolence, ego and anger, and builds confidence and patience. With power meditation, negative thoughts get dissipated and a sense of happiness is achieved.

With happiness and spiritual knowledge, one can relearn the meaning of life. The picture of life’s journey also becomes clearer. Osho said, “As science is not based on orthodox and blind beliefs and functions only on the principle of cause and effect, similarly power meditation doesn’t function on age-old theories or communal thoughts but originates from rational and divine experience. It strives to make an individual free from the confining pressures of daily life’’.

The beauty of meditation is that it is independent of religion. According to modern medical science, combinations of factors like pollutants, imbalanced diet and high aspirations have rendered the human mind restless, thereby making the body perpetually ill.

Here is a meditation method, which will enable you to control stress.
Sit in the padmasan or sukhasan, cross-legged and erect. Keep your back, spine and neck straight. Keep your eyes closed. Sit in this position for 10 minutes. The method has two stages: for the first five minutes, breathe in slowly, hold it and then release it very slowly. Again, for the next five minutes, breathe and release your breath slowly.

Answer 2

Well you can avoid thinking of them and live in denial, or you can distract yourself until you are home in the evening. Get into comfy clothes, have some comfort food, a fluffy pillow and warm blanket and turn the tv to some thing not to distracting but soothing. Then Remember, think. Obviously you keep thinking of this or that. think it all out, then analyze that and keep remembering. Crying is good, put all the peices together, then look at that picture. Study it, think about things that you feel you need to. Eventually you will work everything out in your head, and then you will be able to only have those memories when you want them. This may take more than one think and remember session, but it will help. Also consider forgiving yourself. For whatever it is you may have done..

Answer 3

Start training yourself to realize when you are going down that path, and tell yourself that these bad memories and thoughts are just bad memories and thoughts. They are not reality. Once you have identified you were just listening to an internal dialogue that was doing you no good, try to tell yourself some positive things.

For me, the trick is telling myself positive things that I really believe. "Being positive" isn't enough. Finding something positive you can believe is much more effective.

Answer 4

You are actress.
You must learn by heart daily, a little but daily, in a different way your memory rust.
You learn in the evening and rehearse in the morning. When you learn or rehearse, you don't eat.
You are beautiful, but your deadly foe is the mirror. The mirror empty your mind. You don't learn or rehearse in front of mirror.

Answer 5

You can avoid them sure, but they will never go away and stop coming up to bite you in the rear until you make your peace with them, whatever they may be. The way out is through, unfortunately, and not around them.

Answer 6

i focus on the scripture Philippians 4:8
finally brethren,whatsoever things are true,
whatsoever things are honest
whatsoever things just
whatsoever things are pure
whatsoever things are lovely
whatsoever things are of good report, if there be any virtue , and if there be any praise, think on these things.
we have so many things to praise him for our family , our health , the sky, mountains, beaches , birds, flowers & then i fall asleep, i pray you will also, may god bless you with his peace. please keep this verse where you can learn it by heart & use it even in the middle of the nite.

Answer 7

Keep yourself occupied. Find something that you really like to do that requires a lot of concentration.

Answer 8

go out with friendz like maybe shopping to the mall and have a great time..that might keep you interested in something else

Answer 9

I don't. Because of that I perpetually wallow in my own misery

Answer 10

Keep busy!