Well, jjust a few short weeks ago I met this really great girl and once we got talking we got on really well. REALLY. Although she has the wreckage of her past to deal with, we got on so well and we have so much in common that not only I, but seemingly everyone arround us thought we were going somewhere.
When I started to talk about maybe going further than just being incredibly good freinds though, she said that she's "Really not that great" and that I "shouldnt let her destroy me". That's the problem though, I'm totally hung up on her and it is so very painful and confusing. I think she is that great. What do I do? I live in hope that one day she might recover and we'll be more than always there for each other.
Again, what do I do? Do i try and wait it out? Please help me here...
2006-10-01 05:33:10 · 5 answers · asked by MindStrider 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if a girl tells u that, believe me, she knows what she's talking about. She has problems that she has to sort out on her own. She might like you too but she's probably not sure if u knew everything about her, u'd still feel and think the same of her. U sound young, don't rush. Have you thought about the worst thing about her? And lets just say if u did, are you still going to feel the same? After u ask urself the question, u'll know whether u want to stick around or not.The gal might have experienced not being accepted thus she's keeping things in check. If she's serious about wanting u to back off, respect her decision. Gd luck.
2006-10-01 06:00:49 · answer #1 · answered by Milie88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same ocean you are bro. probly the same boat, but been there for a year now.. Some days I spend with her I dont want to end, and the memory of the day keeps me positive.. other times I wana give up... Only thing that can fix it I found is to give her space.. although it hurts.. Time, support, and every so often suprise her.. Send flowers, a lunch date, Chocolet works great, or just a short conversation helps ease the tension... Don't push it to fast and wait for the right time to do things...
2006-10-01 05:45:29 · answer #2 · answered by dogowner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh...hmmm.....said that on many ocassions myself. It means that she's really not that into you. She may have liked you initially, chemistry and looks but doesnt see you fitting into her lifestyle. She doesnt want to root you....and cant see herself wanting to in any time soon....even if you have a good personality.
How many times have you met a girl that was into you but you had no idea why...and may have even given her a date but the first thoughts still stuck. Unrequited love is more normal that requited love......so take it as a buggery chemistry thing and leave her be. Very few love interests feel the same way back....and you cant stalk everyone...so keep looking.
2006-10-01 06:05:24 · answer #3 · answered by Scully 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in exactly in the same situation as u, he is not ready...
If u really like her, give her space, dun be like me, I think i screw the whole thing up. I cling on too much and was too tensed thinking i would lose him...
if u like her, wait and still care for her. the rest is up to her...
by giving her space, u r allowing urself another chance, by clinging on more, suffocate her and push her further away..
I pushed my man away and there is no turning back... so take my advise...
2006-10-01 05:42:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she got hurt pretty badly. You need to be really patient and supportive with her. It's a tough place to be, but if you can stick it out, it might just be worth it.
Good luck.
2006-10-01 05:39:52 · answer #5 · answered by tequila_girl98 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋