my bf and i of a year were having a discussion on friday night, i am feeling unsure about things, i want to go to U.F. and he is still trying to get his GED i do love him but the thing is that this relationship is already affecting my education and this is something that i hvae been working very hard for...i'm confused and on friday he told me too F*C* off and this is the way he used to act with me.. my mom says no to call him (i haven't) and that i deserve better because he is just hurting me...and he still hasn't called...do you think its meant to be....any advice will greatly be appreciated...thank you
2006-10-01 05:21:12 · 17 answers · asked by ...i <3 Xavi... 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NO! This is NOT love. Your mom's right, you deserve better. Do not call him under any circumstances. If you continue in this relationship, you"re going to get hurt not only emotionally, but it could turn physical. Don't let him interfer with your education anymore, it's too important. Stand in front of a mirror & repeat, " I am better, I deserve better, I am worthy, several times a day if need be. If he calls, tell him not to call again & hang up. Don't give him a chance to say anything, just hang up. Continue with your studies, get involved with some extra-curricular activities, stay busy, don't give yourself time to think about him, he's not worth it. You've spent a yr. in this relationship, that's a yr. too long & you'll never get it back. If he's verbally abusive now, it could turn physical later, & you don't need that. Good Luck!
2006-10-01 06:02:02 · answer #1 · answered by louise b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is hard to hear, but it's honest nonetheless.
If you are pursuing a higher education, it's most likely that you and he will outgrow each other at some point.
He some how knows that. He is using games to put guilt in your heart for going off "educationally" and leaving him. So he is trying to reduce your ability to be the best YOU that is possible.
You can give up your education and make him happy, but you will be feeling resentful and mentally wasted in the long run.
True love wants whats best for you even if it doesn't involve the other person. His love is for himself, not for you.
Please consider that it was great for awhile, but for your best interest, it needs to end before it gets deeper and harder to move on. Let him go. It would be nice if you could talk to him and tell him that your committment to bettering yourself is very important to you and that you wish him the best.
Women make too many sacrifices in the name of LOVE and then we do all the suffering.
2006-10-01 05:31:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There`s no real love without tears...things like this happen in a relationship...you have both a lot of stress,and you need both some time to calm down,but I think you should meet and make things work,support eachother in what you both do,and be there when the other one needs you.I know exacltly what mothers say,they never want their children to hurt,this is why she is telling you to forget about him,but mothers don`t always know whats better for you.If you love him,then go for him,and don`t let him go,but this only if youre sure if he loves you to.My mum always used to tell me the same ,when me and my fiance had a fight,cause they can`t stand it to see us hurt,but they loved to,and thats why we are here,and I can`t belive they never had any argument with oer fathers...but you must go on,and forget about words said in anger.This if you think it`s worth,if not,then it`s time to let him go.But see that you take the right decision,and that you won`t be sorry later,you know the best if he has to stay or go.
kiss.lot`s of luck
2006-10-01 05:33:25 · answer #3 · answered by donatella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the head games my ex played with me when I was leaving for college.
Let him go - he is obviously having issues with you taking your education seriously. No matter what happens GET YOUR DEGREE. You will be able to get better jobs with it. It will be a building block for your life and there is no guarantee that the BF will be around.
If he truly loved you, he would support your choices, not jerk you around.
2006-10-01 05:26:34 · answer #4 · answered by tequila_girl98 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's taking the fact that you value your education over him too personally. If he loved you, he would be HONORED to have you as his girl and he would want you to be happy, even if it conflicts with his schedule. If he says these things to you now and you let it slide, it wont ever change, except to perhaps get worse. Obviously he is immature to say that to someone he supposedly loves and wants to keep in his life. Seems to me your mom wants what's best for you and is looking at things more objectively than you. I'd listen to her wise words.
2006-10-01 05:29:22 · answer #5 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is meant to be will always find its way. Thats the quote I live by. Do for yourself because no one else is going to. Get your education and if you and him are supposed to be together you will meet up again when the time is right.
2006-10-01 05:31:37 · answer #6 · answered by rn.student 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all if education is that important to you and he doesn't respect your opinion then it's worthless to be with him. And especially if he talks to you like that without talking it out...who does he think he is. Don't call him...you DO deserve better than that. You need a man who will care for you and respect you. He's hurting you and no man is worth the pain. Best of luck to you hun.
2006-10-01 05:24:51 · answer #7 · answered by Veronica K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mom knows best. If hes holding you back from getting your education,,then you need to leave him alone. If he is cussing at you because you want to better your life,then hes no good for you. You should be concentrating on school..and bettering yourself first before anything else. Especially a man. (BOY)....Dont worry about him...dont take his phone calls....dont call him. Do what you have to do FOR YOU!!!!
2006-10-01 05:26:31 · answer #8 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love and hate are both truly good thoughts. even with the actuality that they look so, i do not imagine they're truly the polar opposites. i imagine the option- and remedy to love- is a weak emotion, to wrestle the best easily one of love. So no, hate would not remedy- if some thing i imagine it makes it worse :]
2016-12-04 02:32:45 · answer #9 · answered by scialpi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to focus on your education. That is what is going to help you in the long run, help you get that high paying job, and be independant. By him reacting that way, it shows he doesnt support you and you need to find someone who will.
2006-10-01 05:25:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋