behavior that is emotionally and mentally unhealthy for themselves?
for example, staying in an abusive relationship where you are used for your money but yet not good enough in any other area of your life?
I know a couple of people like this and it is beyond my realm of conprehension as to why they would stay like this.............when they are fully aware they have a choice.
2006-10-01 05:20:09 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Fear. They are afraid of being alone. They have hopes the person they are with will change. They figure they have been with this person so long, no one else will want them, or that they have no right to bring this sort of baggage into a new relationship. They feel it must be THEIR fault, that they have done something wrong to be treated like this.
2006-10-01 05:30:02 · answer #1 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
People who stay in an abusive relationship most often have self-esteem issues severe enough that they are easily manipulated and believe the abusers comments about them. They feel guilty as if they have truly pushed the other person over the edge. It happens to people more often when they grew up with no proper role models or role models with poor boundaries. People who are not instilled from an early age what healthy relationships are fall easily into this pattern. Please note, the abuser also suffers from low self-esteem (possibly even lower) - they compliment each other in a dependent relationship, often no one wants to leave it for fear of being left alone. People often stay because change is very hard without the right kind of guidance. It's hard to stop being dependent, even if it is hurting you to be.
2006-10-01 12:35:38 · answer #2 · answered by DanaZ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They might be aware of their choices but not mentally strong enough at this time to follow through with actions. When someone is "there", it seems very difficult to have the needed strength to do something about it. If we can distance ourselves from the issue, it seems very simple.
2006-10-01 12:36:10 · answer #3 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many people have low self-esteem, and think that no one else would have them, or feel that they don't care enough about themselves to put an end to these behaviors.
2006-10-01 12:26:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Each of us is born with a void in our spirit. God intended this void to be filled with His love and a relationship with Him. Many, many people, however, attempt unsuccessfully to fill the void with other things. Some people attempt to fill the void with food (obesity is becoming the number one health problem in the U.S.). Some people attempt to fill the void with gambling (gambling addiction is on the rise). Some people attempt to fill the void with alcohol. Some people attempt to fill the void with sex. Some people attempt to fill the void with adrenaline rushes. Some people attempt to fill the void with work. Some people attempt to fill the void with drugs.... And finally, some people attempt to fill the void with violence and/or by killing other human beings. The bottom line answer to your question is that people murder because they lack a personal relationship with God.
2006-10-01 12:27:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
They think this is normal and they don't know how a real relationship is supposed to work.
2006-10-01 12:22:29 · answer #6 · answered by Ashley 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋