Folks: With all your fairness can someone tell me at what age you say " This is Enough" to stop your birhday parties. I realise that each day of our lives is a special " Birthday ". But when you are grown up and you are in your 50's and near 30's you expect someone to give you a party.
Most important of all people force you and expect you to give you a birthday and be there for a birthday party. To me each day is a special day and each day is my birrthday. I do not celebrate my birthday, so is this wrong of me not to attend someone's birthday.
Should people show some sort of respect to my belief and personal feelings ? or Should they expect me to be there for their birthdays?
2006-10-01 05:07:44 · 12 answers · asked by US 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
tell them your belief. They should understand.
2006-10-01 05:10:07 · answer #1 · answered by day dreamin baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always celebrate same birthday anniversary lets say you at the age of 40 say i am not getting older so your birthday party will be always 40th birthday party. As far as other people are concerned most likely your relatives or friends you should respect their wishes and celebrate what they celebrate. I agree with you that each day is a special day worth to celebrate.
2006-10-01 12:36:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of it this way--you're not showing up for a "birthday", you're showing up for a friend. Isn't that what friendship is all about anyway, being there? As far as your own birthday, let your friends know you don't want a party, but if they wish to honor you anyway, be a good sport.
2006-10-01 12:13:30 · answer #3 · answered by Angela B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When people don't listen to what we are saying then you need to change your tactics. I broke this same cycle in my family by taking a trip the week of my birthday. I told my friends and family when I turned 50, I'm off to Hawaii with my two daughters. The next year it was off to Vegas. They caught on.
Now they just ask me where are you going for your birthday this year?
Best wishes!
2006-10-01 12:35:06 · answer #4 · answered by easinclair 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is fine for you to not want to celebrate your birthday. But it's fine of others to want to celebrate their birthdays. And if they like you enough to want you to celebrate with them, then it's fine for them to invite you. Extending you an invitation is not disrespecting your beliefs or personal feelings on birthdays.
You don't have to go. Just politely decline. But if, in your refusal, you lecture them about how they shouldn't be celebrating their birthdays anymore, then you're being rude.
2006-10-02 09:46:02 · answer #5 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
21 should be the last birthday party, I guess you can't stop people from throwing you "over the hill" parties at 40, 50, 60, but one should NEVER encourage it.
2006-10-01 12:11:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't go. You dont have to preach your belief on anyone. Soon enough they will know it. Soon you wont be invited to things anymore. Soon you'll also have no friends because you don't know how to compramise and respect other people's beliefs. Your belief is one thing, but to dismiss their belief as much as you want them to respect yours? What do you think will happen? its great that you celebrate life everyday...its too bad you haven't lived it.
2006-10-01 12:15:01 · answer #7 · answered by Clock Watcher 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
should a catholic wish his jewish friend a happy hannokah? ( sorry to anybody who's jewish if i've spelt it wrong ) yes if they're a friend then you respect something that they regard as important to them. people regard birthdays as a specialday so go along and wish them well.
as regards to your own party then your friends should respect your choices and give you the same respect that you gave them.
2006-10-01 12:14:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So your question is should YOU participate? NO!! If someone wants a party, just don't go...leave them alone!
2006-10-01 12:09:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey clock , I meant to give you a thumb up and hit the worng button and it won't let me change it sorry.
2006-10-01 12:35:06 · answer #10 · answered by harold p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You talking about family members ? Or just friends ? .. Either way, if you don't want to participate.. just don't go. Good Luck !
2006-10-01 12:11:08 · answer #11 · answered by tysavage2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋