How hard is it to have 3 children? I have 2 kids already, and feeling broody again. I do want to have another baby at some point, and so does my partner. But I'm really worried about how I'll cope. That's the only thing holding me back. We both work full time, and childcare is sooo very expensive. I don't wanna leave it too long, I'm 26.
2006-10-01 04:56:52 · 14 answers · asked by EMMA S 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I actually work in the nursery my kids are at!!! God you get slated if you work and slated if you don't. So it's a no win situation.
Thanks to all those who gave nice replies. Much appreciated. :)
2006-10-01 05:11:47 · update #1
Im on my 3rd now, both me and my partner work full time,we found it hard to start with but as you adapt to the new changes you soon get used to it, and if you carry on working at the nursery your children go to then the new addition will be there 2 which = more people to help with the looking after of your new baby which will mean less stress for you, and i dont know if you live in the Uk but if both parents work you can actually get 75% of your child care paid for by the government if you claim working family tax credit i find it helps HEAPS. BUT as for someone saying that its disgusting that you both work dont listen to him because we all have to provide our children with MORE than just love, children need vital everday needs like,food,water, warmth,etc etc which needs money to provide it
GOOD LUCK IN WHAT EVER YOU DECIDE !!!
2006-10-01 12:58:08 · answer #1 · answered by Spunky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easy to have 3 children! I have 3 aged 7, 5 and 2 and circumstances beyond our control prevented no 4. If your broody now then don't leave it too long. There were 22 months between my first two and it was a good gap. But having the wider gap between nos 2 and 3 made other things easier so it's all about when you're ready, although I'd go for it while you still have to work with the younger one as you won't be out of the way of nappies and sleepless nights the same way!
Child care is maybe expernsive but it'll be even more in a couple of years time.
The way you are organising your time now will completely alter when the oldest starts school, so your methods of coping will naturally alter too.
At 26 you are still very young but I think you never know what's around the corner, so if you feel broody now then go with it and things will work out, the same way it's worked out for nos 1 and 2. You probably had your reservations and worries back then too!
2006-10-01 09:57:03 · answer #2 · answered by wee stoater 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer that! I have 2 and know that I would find it hard to cope with 3 plus I would have to give things up, like hols abroad for example which we all really enjoy and can just about afford at the moment. If you feel you can cope and you can afford it then go for it. And if you also enjoy working, do but I would suggest working p/t as it is both tiring and you do not see the kids. We both work 4 days and find that works really well. So we have the kids at home 2 days a week which is a nice balance and also saves some money as nurseries and after school clubs are expensive. Good luck, do what you feel but at 26 you are still young so what's the rush? Wait a little if you like. And ignore all the sexist male comments - what do they know? I bet they are not at home with their kids!!!!
2006-10-01 05:44:46 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definatly think that only you will know what you can handle I am a stay at home mom the same age as you I have a 3 year old girl and 16 month old boy and I am considering another too so if you want one I would say go for it. I have my daughter in preschool so it will be easier in the morning when the baby comes also since your son is 4 now by the time you have a baby he will be in kindergarden so you will be paying for 2 kids rather than 3 this may help well good luck I WISH YOU THE BEST
2006-10-01 07:49:53 · answer #4 · answered by LaceyandSamsmamma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through this same dilemma myself at the moment and i can't make up my mind but that's mainly because of the financial side to it. If i knew i could afford another one then i definitely would as i can't see the point in waiting and i know alot of people have children at an older age but personally i would prefer to be a younger mum.
It would be hard work but very rewarding and hopefully the kids will get on well as they'll all be close in age and they'll be able to support each other at school etc...
So if you can afford one then go for it ( i don't mean you have to be loaded but at least be able to afford nappys,clothes food etc.)
2006-10-01 05:16:55 · answer #5 · answered by sophie-star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can cope. Only you know how many kids you can handle. My thoughts would be wait till ya 4 year old is in school. So when you do have the other you'll still only be paying child care for 2 kids.
2006-10-01 05:03:25 · answer #6 · answered by Sondra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Child Care is expensive and so is raising a child, but if you have the love to share go for it. If you already have two children one more is more money demanding, but i would think you should go for it. Dont wait to long. Besides this way you will be a young grandmother.
2006-10-01 05:01:54 · answer #7 · answered by dblakaysmom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmmmm i have 3 boys who are now 13, 11 and nearly 10...theres only 20 momths between each one...i must admit when they were alot younger i found it really hard work but now thet are more dependant lifes alot easier...but if i had to do it all again ...i would.. and wouldnt change a thing!...its really nice for them to be close in age i think so if i was you id go for it!!....all the best
2006-10-01 05:02:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friend of mine has 4, both parents work and seem to manage okay - good organisational skills required i think!
If you and your partner both want this - then go for it!
Plus, do what is right for you and your little ones - there are too many negative opinions here! Everyone must choose what is best for themselves.
2006-10-01 05:32:19 · answer #9 · answered by rainbowarrior73 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
my partner and i have a little girl of 3, we wanted more children but we weren't expecting what we ended up with, TRIPLETS, natural conception
you always find a way to cope, so go for it or you will always be asking yourself WHAT IF, good luck
2006-10-01 05:50:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋