If so do you feel that those walls for protection are now your prison? This was my life once. "Nothing ventured nothing gained."
To know love one must risk pain and disapointment.
2006-10-01 04:14:21 · 14 answers · asked by Debra M. Wishing Peace To All 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Labatt: I can love you from here.
2006-10-01 04:28:02 · update #1
Yes. And I'm afraid to change my current life because there's security in this one. I know that if I don't venture out, I'll never gain anything, but at the same time, I'm insecure.
2006-10-01 04:18:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first the cons: You have a difficult time making and keeping friends. You can come accross as untrustworthy. Over time you can become paranoid and might become a very lonely person. Pros: You won't be hurt by others. They can't hurt what the cannot access. You are able to observe society much easier without distraction. If you are a loner type person, you will definatly have your alone time. Now the second part of your question: I believe yes, it can be different for boys and girls. Girls, for the most part, thrive on emotional bonding with others, while guys many times do not. But one could argue differently: Both males and females need emotional bonding with others, just that guys keep that inside and to themselves and girls share their emotional desires. There really is no yes/no answer and much is subjective. I was hurt by a bad relationship a long time ago, and since them I have built an emotional wall. Sometimes I am greatfull for it while other times I feel cursed having it.
2016-03-18 03:20:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometime emotional walls are a good thing. Often times, ppl need time to heal from old wounds. Why take baggage into another relationship?. The walls usually come down when someone is ready to love again.
2006-10-01 04:22:15 · answer #3 · answered by Niecy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I also had built a wall around myself, and was my own prisoner. I was miserable. Although I have had disappointments, I can honestly say that I am much better now that I have true love in my life, and I may not have realized the meaning until I was that prisoner.
2006-10-01 06:39:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I want to put a wall but I am so big-hearted that I feel guilty for shutting others out so I keep letting them hurt me emotionally.
I cry a lot when I am alone because I don't want to hurt anymore but I can't seem to grow a "thicker skin". I take meds to help with my depression/anxiety and my self esteem is really poor.
I care less about what people think than I used to but now it is more like a desire to have my affections returned to me equally...to feel desirable and wanted.
I guess am just crazy and careless...nothing ever changes.
2014-05-06 10:36:43 · answer #5 · answered by reesiecup 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is a stage that everyone goes through in their lives, a part of growing up and fearing the pain of the unknown.
let me share one of my favorite poems with you...
After a while, you learn the subtle difference
Between holding a hand and chaining a soul,
And you learn that love doesn't mean leaning.
And company doesn't mean security,
And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts
And presents aren't promises,
And you begin to accept your defeats
With your head up and your eyes open,
With the grace of a women, not the grief of a child,
And learn to build all your roads on today
Because tomorrow's ground is too uncertain for future plans,
And futures have a way of falling down in midflight,
And after a while you learn
That even sunshine burns if you get too much.
So you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul,
Instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.
And you learn that you really can endure...
That you really are strong
And you really do have worth
And you learn and learn...
With every goodbye, you learn.
-unknown
2006-10-01 04:28:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am just learning to break these habits, it is so hard, but i know that with out doing so, pain and disappointment is all i will have, and i realize that things that I've been through have been horrible but they've made me stronger and wiser to handle more challenges (which allows me to enjoy life by taking risks in love and friendship, etc) ...........it's all about the sweet and sour, ya got to have the sour to enjoy the sweet
2006-10-01 04:20:13 · answer #7 · answered by los ollie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i knocked that wall down a few years ago now thank goodness
yes i did build one and yes it was my prison in the end
2006-10-01 04:16:31 · answer #8 · answered by Peace 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At one time I had one. I knocked it down some time ago, and I've been incredibly happy ever since.
2006-10-01 04:21:26 · answer #9 · answered by . 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wanna come over my wall and love me?
2006-10-01 04:27:28 · answer #10 · answered by Labatt113 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋