Is it normal for him to be throwing such fits?
Like he'll freak out when i'll tell him no about something.He'll scream,kick,throw things,bite,hit,try to pull my hair.I really don't know what to do.I've tried everything.I don't know what to do.And it's like he'll purposly get into things I tell him not to.Help?
2006-10-01 04:06:34 · 12 answers · asked by Busy Mommy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Its called the terrible 2s syndrome, some grow out of it quicker than others. Think my son was 14 before he did LOL.
Be firm, no means no and give him time out alone from you when he throws a wobbly. In a safe place of course. Take him to his bedroom and hold the door shut until he calms down. Ignore the banging on the door, he is playing to an audience if you are with him.
2006-10-01 04:10:21 · answer #1 · answered by lollipoppett2005 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if you're concerned and that he is pulling your hair that you are justified in being concerned. Kids know by the age of two that pulling hair is not right. That has to be curbed. Read a couple of books focussed on challenging children such as your son. You may have nothing to worry about or you may glean some techniques to stop the tantrums. By the time my 24 yo daughter was 2, I knew she was going to be a lifelong challenge.
These are older books with some really good techniques for re-gaining management of the problem.
The Difficult Child: Expanded and Revised Edition by Stanley Turecki and Leslie Tonner
Transforming the Difficult Child by Howard Glasser and Jennifer Easley
Raising Your Spirited Child: A Guide for Parents Whose Child Is More Intense, Sensitive, Perceptive, Persistent, Energetic by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka
2006-10-01 04:18:06 · answer #2 · answered by hawkthree 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be firm. He's testing the rules to see what he can get away with.
Be consistent: It's confusing if he can get away with it one time but not the next.
Make the punishment fit the crime. A kicking screaming tantrum is his way of yelling at you to get a reaction. Ignore it, walk into another room. My oldest son would do that, when I left the room he would stop, follow me and start again in the next room. I would just leave again. Eventually he figured out there was no value in screaming. The biting and hair pulling is different. Now he is causing harm to someone. If he gets angry at a younger child he could hurt them. That requires immediate overpowering. In a loud stern voice looking right in his eyes "NO! THAT IS BAD!" followed by a swat on the rump or smacking his hand will usually shock him enough that the behavior will change. But be consistent. He needs to learn there are rules of behavior and penalties for breaking those rules. Good luck!
2006-10-01 04:25:51 · answer #3 · answered by sparkletina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 3 1/2 year old son....and I understand your frustration more than you know. My son is in the phase where he see how far he can push me and everyone else. I started out with time outs, then it went to time out and a toy taken away, then I added him taking the time out in his bedroom on his bed with no tv and no toys, I have tried raising my voice, I have tried spanking him...nothing seems to work. He will throw a fit if I tell him no, he will throw a fit not to take nebulizer (breathing treatment, he has asthma), he will throw a fit if we are watching tv and he wants to watch one of his shows, he will throw a fit if he doesn't want to take a bath, or doesn't like the clothes I have laid out for him to wear that day....I know this wears on the parents because you get tired of the constant arguing back and forth, and it is frustrating to a parent when you cannot get a toddler to listen to you, a toddler, this isn't like a teenager or anything, we are talking about a toddler, and it is so difficult. I don't have any answers for you on what to do because I feel like I am in the same boat with the same issues. All I can do is tell you what I am doing....trying to deal with this day by day, hope this is a phase and it will pass SOON!!!!
2006-10-01 05:34:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's part of a phase called "the terrible twos" although it can begin at 15 months and end around 5 years. Part of the reason is attention. Ever hear the old addage "Any attention is better than none"? This is where it comes from. He is getting your attention by behaving this way. Ignore it, if he can't push your buttons he will get tired of it and stop.
2006-10-03 22:38:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay tough. With my son when he does that i raise my voice with a stern NO! He now sometimes throws a wobbly and when i raise my voice he stops and thats the end of the tantrum for the rest of the day.
After awhile he should start to realise when you say no thats it.
2006-10-01 04:10:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
its normal for 3 yr olds to act like that, u jus have to be firm in saying no so that he knows u mean business, bcuz at that age they are seeing how far u will let him get away with things..so stand your ground =]
2006-10-01 04:12:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is spoiled,sorry! When he does it,take toys away,and if he pulls ur hair,smack his hand.Be strict with little boys.When he gets 2 behave better,give him toys,and be less strist.Dont worry,just take my advice.Good luck!
2006-10-01 05:23:17 · answer #8 · answered by chocolate tea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be firm with him. Don't waver. And if he hits you, hit him back. Get down on his level and look him in the eye.
2006-10-01 05:04:12 · answer #9 · answered by Cori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
use time out.. but i believe a swat on the back side never hurts either. and use praise/rewards for the good behaviors.
2006-10-01 04:10:59 · answer #10 · answered by montanamom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋