I met this girl at work and one night i saw her out. My friend and her friend were both there. We all went to her friends house about 1am. I kissed and cuddled with her. Then she told me she had a boyfriend. She told me that her boyfriend treats her bad and doesnt know why she is still with him. Ok thats cool. I have been talking(just talking) to her for about 2 months now as a friend and the only thing she talks about is how her boyfriend isn't the one for her and how badly he treats her. She is moving in together with him in January. Her boyfriend lives about 4 hrs away.
If her boyfriend is treating her so badly why is she still with him? Why is she always telling me about it? Do you think I will always be just a friend and our night of kissing and cuddling isn't going anywhere?
2006-10-01 03:56:39 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She isn't too sure what she wants by the sounds of it. It seems like she is holding on to you and the boyfriend so when things go wrong with her boyfriend she has someone to comfort her. If she is unhappy she shouldn't be in that relationship but sometimes relationships have ups and downs so in this case she may be talking about how he isn't the one for her but feels that she would be making a mistake if she left him. There still might be a little bit of love there and she's not sure what to do. She may change her mind and want to be with you. Just sounds like a friendship right now.
2006-10-01 04:28:48 · answer #1 · answered by cutegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
question her. Just ask her what the deal is. It's obvious she likes you or she would have not kissed you. Tell her you can be better for her then her current man. Show her too. Some women stay with men who treat them bad cause they are afraid of them or afraid of being alone or afraid of change. I think her telling you all the stuff about her boyfriend is a silent cry for help. I think she is waiting for her knight in shinning armor to come and sweep her off her feet. Don't let this be the ONE that got away. Go for it and don't give up to easy. Good Luck
2006-10-01 11:07:30 · answer #2 · answered by highrange101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she obviously likes you and is dropping hints that her relationship isn't going well with her boyfriend. Try asking her why she is moving in with him, because surly if she doesn't want to be with him and he treats her badly this is a stupid thing to do! Let her know how you feel about her. She maybe waiting to hear it from you that you like her before dumping her boyfriend. A friend of mine is in a relationship that she knows isn't working or meant to be but she wont leave because she doesn't want to be alone, maybe your friend is the same. If she does move in with her boyfriend even after you talk to her i would forget about her being anything more then friends it obviously isn't happening!!!
2006-10-01 11:06:09 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, your just a friend. If she were really interested in you then she would have asked, or suggested that you guys start going out when she broke up with the first guy that supposedly treated her badly. A lot of girls like to "air" their problems to people that will listen, especially members of the opposite sex. What this does is makes them the topic and subject of conversations. Your assumptions are correct. She's not into you.
2006-10-01 11:02:34 · answer #4 · answered by bigbadwolf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your situation reminds me of how I hooked up with my first girlfriend.
She too had a boyfriend who mistreated her, that was al she talked about with me. So I gave her my ear and comforted her and talked reason in to her. After a while I developped a liking for her and told her, "If you were my girlfriend I would never do that". I sensed she liked me, she was talking about relationships and we did cuddle and kiss occasionally
So yes, this girl obviously likes you seeing as she repeatedly confides her problems to you. The cuddling and kissing shouldve been a dead give away too. Take it a step further and tell her how much better off she would be with you
2006-10-01 11:19:03 · answer #5 · answered by jojo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's with someone who treats her badly...or he doesnt but she was in a bad mood with him. She just wanted to explain her "**** mode" and tell you point blank that THIS is all there is. It wasnt a "come-on" for you to fix her situation, it wasnt telling you that she likes you better. She just knew that she was being a trollop and needed a good reason for her to be behaving badly.
Take it as a sign that if you ever ticked her off...she'd be telling the next guy she fancies, the very same thing. She has bad coping mechanisms for relationships.
2006-10-01 11:04:54 · answer #6 · answered by Scully 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she will be a future girlfriend, she tells you the bad to reel you in and keep you there as a back up plan, if this man treats her so bad she would not be moving in with him would she, I am sorry but you sound like a friend.
2006-10-01 11:01:48 · answer #7 · answered by trouble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Steve if u care for as just a friend or more you need to let her know how u feel about her and how u feel about her moving in with her boyfriend. You seem to care about her alot and it seems that she cares about you too. If u dont tell her how u feel then u may never get your chance and she may make a very bad decision. Only thing left i have to say is that if you care for her tell her how you feel, especially about her moving in with someone that treats her bad. lata bro and best of luck to ya
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2006-10-01 11:16:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it looks to me like she wants more than a kiss and a cuddle from you I think maybe she wants you to make the first move and the reason she is moving in with her bf is because she is too frigtened to leave him because she would be single and alone again.
you should tell her how you feel if she doesn't feel the same way then just be friends with her and don't bring it up in a conversation with her again.
2006-10-01 11:03:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋