as a girl grows up her parents should try to let go of her cause she will get married soon.. but, my parents are trying to control my life more.. the older i get they try to pull me towards them and try to control everything i do... i can't leave the house to see my friends or just go for a walk... i can't say in my room and lock my door....i can't even talk with my friends on the phone.. what am i to do?? how do i get them to let go of me?.. how do i handle them?? they are making me go crazy..
2006-10-01 03:54:30 · 28 answers · asked by anju 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
guys please be serious...
2006-10-01 03:58:00 · update #1
in my life i have done nothing wrong to give them any reason not to trust my... my friends get mad because i have always been doing everything that my parents asks me to do.. and they never let me do anything i want to do...
2006-10-01 04:08:04 · update #2
don't worry about it...I'm having the same problem with my family.. I'm 16 and my parents knows everything about my life.. they know my Friends and everyone that i communicate with but, still they think I'm hiding things from them.. I'm guessing you're Indian.. so am i.. and my best friends are girls, they know them.. and still my parents don't let me do anything with them... i can never get why.. cause we never do anything that Desi parents are against.. except for little pranks.. and those are nothing.. everyone does it.. its harmless... but i used to cry about it every time my parent would scream.. and sometimes they would hit me.. i was very close to reporting them to the cops but i realized that no matter what happens they are my parents if it wasn't for them i won't be here and everything that they do makes me a better person.. now this is how i look at it.. i go to school and study and have fun with my friends.. try to get home a little later everyday... when I'm with my friends forget about my parents and whatever they yell about.. just don't do anything stupid.. when i get home I'll deal with my parent... i messed up so badly in school because of them.. but i realized the only person that got hurt was me... they didn't know and didn't care... but do this for yourself now and you'll be thankful that you did in years to come.. just go along with whatever they want you to do... soon they will get tired of it... good luck...
2006-10-01 05:38:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're just being parents. That's what we do. It coukld also be a culture thing - I don't know. Anyway, the key is talking, not yelling. You want to go to amovie with friends and no parents will be there (except to drop off/pick up). You folks say no. You say (not yell) I understand your concern for me and I appreciate that. However, how am I ever supposed to grow and learn to be strong on my own if you never let me go? I know right from wrong, and I don't make stupid mistakes. I need you to trust me the same way I trust you.
See what happens. If they let you go, by God tyou had better do everything you said you would, no matter what your friends do or say, or it's over. If you need to, don't be afraid to call and ask for a ride home early if things get out of hand.
2006-10-01 04:01:10 · answer #2 · answered by Jim C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What have you been up to that makes them feel as if they can't trust you?
If you have been on the straight and narrow and have not given them any reason to question your behavior, then perhaps you need to talk to them about gradually giving you a little more responsibility and freedom.
Tell them that they have been supportive and encouraging parents and have instilled a sense of character and integrity in you already. Reassure them that there is nothing that you would do to hurt or embarass them. Explain that if they give you a bit of freedom you will prove to them just how much you deserve their trust.
Good luck!
2006-10-01 04:01:36 · answer #3 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost , you should be sure that you are a major.Over 18 years of age. If so, you should be aware of your rights and protection. If you have a brother or a cousin , confide in them and tell them your problems. let them try to speak to your parents.If they dont help seek your friends` help.
In your heart of heart you must be ready to have a temporary place where you can live till you make your parents see the realities and come to take you back home. have a time plan. And then take action.
If your parents are doing this to you it is for sure they have some internal fear or insecurity
2006-10-01 04:01:26 · answer #4 · answered by YD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider your parents were your age once too.. they think of everything they did at that age, and what they regret i life, they are trying to keep you from having the same regrets. Telling them you will someday soon be married only makes it worse!! Agree to keep them informed, make better choices and stay away from sex. Maybe there is a reason they have lost some trust in you... ?? Talk to them and be direct and honest.
2006-10-01 04:13:52 · answer #5 · answered by WifeandMom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi..first of all i would like to suggest u to plz relax..and then just once try to think from ur parents point of u as to y they r doing this with u.U believe this happens with almost 90%gilrs. U r not the first to face this problem...and ur reaction is also normal. Everybody wants privacy in life...The reason for this is the present condition of r society. The type of exposure this generation is getting...it is all very scary.Parents r ur only well wisher in this world,they r trying to b as protective as possible for u,they dont wanna take any chance.Plz do not misunderstand ur parents.Wish u good luck in life..take care.
2006-10-01 04:04:22 · answer #6 · answered by rani n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are holding on tighter because they see you growing up. Its a difficult thing to go through as a parent (something the kids dont realize). However, they do seem to be going overboard. The best thing I could tell you is to talk to them like an adult. If you *****, yell and whine, that only proves to them your immaturity. Tell them where you are going, what you are doing, and who you are going to be with. Be home at a decent hour.All this may seem extreme to you, but hopefully in time, they will loosen the apron strings and let you go.
2006-10-01 03:58:31 · answer #7 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to man up and buck the system which means do what you want if your under15 then follow the rules but your 16 and over you can do what you want confront your parents and try to come to an agreement of what you can do and not do if that doesnt work then when you become 18 move out and find a party friend so you can catch up with the rest of us i hate parents that locks their children in the house its just stupid!
2006-10-01 08:06:57 · answer #8 · answered by dfizzgurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont say how old you are but I would guess you are a teenager. parents do things because they love you and want to protect you. you take as trying to control you. they are responsible for you until you turn 18 but that doesnt mean you dont have negotiation rights. sit down with them when you are not pissed off by something they did and try negotiate some of these things they are controlling. remember in negotiations its a give and take
2006-10-01 04:18:26 · answer #9 · answered by toyloy27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try introducing them to your friends slowly .Invite a friend over for a couple of hours a week and let them get to know him/her. Then they will most likely get a little more comfortable with your friends.And start off slow .Don't ask if they could stay over right away. Work your way into it. Baby steps
2006-10-01 04:11:43 · answer #10 · answered by Andrea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋