Well my ex was bein reli horrible and he isnt now. He sed to one of my friends that it wasnt jst me in the relationship who messed up. He said he still cares for me and thinks about me and def doesnt hate me but he just wants to be friends but it will take time but he doesnt want to get back? I really would love him back but what can i do ?
2006-10-01 03:49:30 · 14 answers · asked by moi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
love him w/o expecting him to reciprocate, if he loves u, he will be bak. Love is like a handfull of sand, the more u tighten yr grasp the more u lose, u have the most of it with a losened grasp. al the best
2006-10-01 03:59:46 · answer #1 · answered by fantasyland 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breaking up with a love is worse than death. With death you can grieve and move on, with breaking up that person is still around and a reminder of what was. Especially if YOU are the one getting dumped! Time is the thing you need to get over someone and keeping yourself busy so you are distracted from thinking about him so much. It is the rare couple who can split, get back together and make things better than before. ( Just to much baggage in the way) If he was horrible to you before what makes you think he will change his ways? If a guy is an abuser he will most likely need counseling to help deal with this and surly you don't want to be his punching bag the rest of your life! Be thankful you are out of a nasty relationship and find someone worthy of your love.
2006-10-01 11:03:37 · answer #2 · answered by Judy K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he was horrible in your relationship because he didnt care about you the way he should have. And now, he realizes that you are a good person and feels guilty for the way he acted and somehow wants to make up for that. But he doesnt want to get back together. You cant change that. If he was bad to you, why would you want to?
2006-10-01 10:52:14 · answer #3 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...dont even bother being friends. Any guy that says they "just want to be friends" has usually just lost interest or found someone else. Don't fool yourself. Save yourself a lot of heartache in the end and just forget him. Dont wait around for the whole "friends" thing just so he can see if it works out wih the other women 1st. trust me...I know...
2006-10-01 10:57:15 · answer #4 · answered by drknessembraced 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl if he was horrible back then he'll go back to being that way. They allways do. Be friends with him. Because he was probably pretty nice when you first started dating but then he became that way...you have no assurance he won't do it again. He wants to be friends...be friends until you can make sure he won't hurt you again.
2006-10-01 10:52:42 · answer #5 · answered by Veronica K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might need to take a break fromt he friendship... it happened to me and it helped a lot with me getting over him... now it would be a lot easier to be friends with him and not feel a lot of attatchment... just take some time apart and see how it turns out.
2006-10-01 10:51:20 · answer #6 · answered by Leigh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know. I miss my ex too. Of course I have 3 reminders of him(our children)!If he doesn't want to get back with you then there is really nothing you can do.
2006-10-01 10:59:37 · answer #7 · answered by day dreamin baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does he have a new woman if not think about the reason y u broke up/divorce once u have thought about it think about if u want to risk what ever broke u up before if so go for it if not forget about it and find someone else its up to u
2006-10-01 10:59:52 · answer #8 · answered by cutie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just wait give him some space to realize how much he misses you and take some time out for yourself do some things you wanted to do wait for him to make the decision
2006-10-01 10:52:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i mean it's truly up to u. i mean i know that it's hard to get over the past but i mean it depends on what you would like to do. If it's tru then it will happen so how.
2006-10-01 10:51:21 · answer #10 · answered by polobaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋