we broke up 6 months ago and she started dating this guy right after . . im talking like a week after . . but anyways i tried to get her back the first 2 months then i went NC since the middle of june. . .she has called or texted or left me a voicemail like 10-15 times since then and i havent answered or contacted her back. . .she just recently got into an official relationship with this guys and i noticed she tried to get ahold of me the day they started going out . . . she calls about once every 1,2,3 weeks and she called me drunk last weekend 3 times , 2 texts and 1 voicemail in 1 night and she said she doesnt understand why we cant be friends. . .even though ive told her atleast 20 times that i cant. . . after we broke up she insisted we were going to get back together sometime . . . and she also is the type of person that cant stand to be alone and always has to have somebody. . . if she is completely happy and everything then why does she try to call me all of the time?
2006-10-01 03:22:02 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
also we were together 2 1/2 years . . . when she started dating him she even admitted it was just because he was there and that she cant stand to be alone . . i just dont understand why is she calling me all of the time like this just to be friends when she knows we cant because ive told her 100 times. . does she want something else? also what i really want to know is its been 4 months since ive talked to her and she keeps calling . . . .if she just wanted to be friends wouldnt she get the clue by now that i cant b/c the way things ended
2006-10-01 03:22:42 · update #1
She obviously wants you back but I would question if her feelings were genuine or if it was a "possesive" thing and she can't "let go".You did all you can do by telling her repeatedly to leave you alone.Maybe tell her one more call and you will place a restraining order on her.
2006-10-01 03:26:17 · answer #1 · answered by drokk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people try to keep damaged relationships available just like some people keep broken possessions . . . just in case they might need it some day and can fix it up then to work properly again. Some people just don't know what the frig they want and are unwilling to make a clean break.
I think, the most important thing is what you really want. If it is in your best interest to sever contact with her, that is what you must do. It can not usually be done to everyone's liking and often requires simlpe non response, just like a telephone which has been hung up. Decisions need to be made and acted upon.
Perhaps what you shared was wonderful. But just as wonderful as it may have been, there truly are many many others out there who may be more wonderful for you and make her seem like wasted time. Get your nose up a bit and forge ahead, you'll feel empowered and vibrant by going forward. She is not your responsibility.
2006-10-01 03:31:00 · answer #2 · answered by Bob G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously by what you have written she is still hung up on you. She got together with this other boy because she has a hard time being alone as well as distracting herself from the pain of your break up.
If you start having contact her again she in great probability will try to start things up again. It really is up to you as to whether or not you want to facilitate such a thing.
Personally I wouldn't do anything with her until she breaks up with her current boyfriend. You might want to allude to that in any contact you might have with her.
It seems like you are a ways away from where she lives so you better be serious before hooking up again or else it will just be more suffering for you both.
Best of wishes on this matter. I'm sure you'll figure out the right thing to do. Just know yourself and from there the rest is easy.
2006-10-01 03:30:45 · answer #3 · answered by Love of Truth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If as you said she is the type that doesn't like to be alone and you have been together so long she may be having a hard time letting go. She may miss some parts of the relationship that she may be hoping not to have to give up even though you guys have broken up.
Sounds like she wants to have her cake and eat it too.
2006-10-01 03:26:35 · answer #4 · answered by DownAndOut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 07:24:20 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact her one time, and say if you keep calling, I am going to call the police, because you are harassing me, so stop, and hang up, you do not have to engage in no long conversation. or you could have her number blocked, but why should you have to pay for her stupidness.
2006-10-01 03:31:46 · answer #6 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your mobile number. Period. As to your landline, if you are living with parents, tell them to tell anyone who calls that you are out.
2006-10-01 03:26:57 · answer #7 · answered by Calculus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋