I didn't even realized that I had it but it was recently pointed out to me and may be ruining my relationship. Please help if you can.
2006-10-01 03:14:26 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To me Jealousy is insecurity....I believe if you really love someone and know that they love you then there are no jealousy issues. I`m just giving my opinion, I don't know the whole story
Maybe talking with a therapist would help you....Good Luck
2006-10-01 03:24:11 · answer #1 · answered by Sandra♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, let me tell you. I was in the same boat. I am very jealous but I also believe a lot of it has to do with how we were brought up and what our ex boyfriends were like. Did they cheat on you? Did they make you feel undesireable? A lot of factors go into play in this question. I think I had a good guy but I broke up with him anyway, not only because of my jealousy that he couldn't tolerate but also because he woud go to sites on the net that were just bound to have him looking and probably finding someone else. He couldn't understand my jealousy in that. And I feel that if a b-friend knows that you have an issue with jealousy due to past relationships or in your upbringing and he still doesnt want to or even try to understand that...then he isnt worth it in the 1st place. If a guy really loves you, he will do whatever he can to NOT do things to bring that jealousy out in you. it's like I told my ex when he would go to those sights that girls would message him on, I said" mischief only finds mischief. If he continues to do it then get rid of him. I know its hard...believe me I do. I thought him and I would be together forever. If you find a man who truely loves you, he will do whatever he can to qwell those feelings and fears you have and be understanding about it. I feel so sorry for you though because I KNOW 1st hand how hard it is in a relationship with trust issues. I wish you the best hon and remember...if he loves you he will treat the situation very delicatly and he will NOT do things to MAKE you feel that way in the 1st place. Remember the old saying about a womens intuition AND gut instinct is usually right. Best of luck and I hope things get better for you. Oh...and maybe some counciling would be a great thing to, too find out where the jealousy actually stems from.
2006-10-01 03:33:52 · answer #2 · answered by drknessembraced 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to me carefuly. Your jealousy will definetely ruin your relationship. As much as your partner loves you, there is so much they can take. If your reactions are abusive..he will run. My ex gave me 100 chances I never changed. I realized once he was gone the stupidity, the immaturity that I was. Be confident in yourself that your partner is with you and enjoy the time you have together. Jealousy is just getting in the way of simplicity and ruining a good thing. is very unhealthy of you to be this way. if you need to seek help from a counselor it is wise. I'm telling you know, when your partner will have enough of it he is GONE. Nothing you can do will make him come back. No matter how good of person you are.No matter how much you invested in the relationship.Your partner is GONE for good. Deal with your problem now. Need to bite your tongue. Reflect about the good things about you which is exactly why he is with you. I can help more believe me. I know exactly the consequences jealousy will cause...learn from my mistakes...
2006-10-01 03:22:17 · answer #3 · answered by jovy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't look at what could make you jealous that way. Look at it from a friendly point of view...it's not what it looks like and as long as he loves you it doesn't matter when he talks to someone else. When you see him with someone else just remember there's a reason you're his girlfriend and he's not doing anything wrong..(unless you actually see him doing something with another girl, then go over and kick his ***)
2006-10-01 03:18:11 · answer #4 · answered by Veronica K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Self confidence is very attractive. If you cannot love with open arms, then it was not yours anyway. If they are yours, they may look but always return to you. Seek that kind of person, whether you have them now or not.
2006-10-01 03:24:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
uve gtta talk 2 him and im sure hell let u kno ur d only 1 he wants..after that uve just gtta convince urself thats true
2006-10-01 03:18:03 · answer #6 · answered by f91 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust! If you are jealous then you feel that you can't trust the other person to be faithful to you.
2006-10-01 03:18:25 · answer #7 · answered by mr. Bob 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its easy... everytime you accuse of cheating... whether he is doing it or not... go out and cheat on him... you will feel MUCH better... until you find out he is NOT cheating and you are just a physco!!!!!
2006-10-01 03:17:57 · answer #8 · answered by Ken J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to do the contract of what you feel
try to be oposite of being jealous
try to feel goog when it is hard to be good
2006-10-01 03:29:55 · answer #9 · answered by elmeesk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jealous of who!?
and admitting it is really the first step so your already progressing
2006-10-01 03:17:03 · answer #10 · answered by shheeyya mann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋