Why do I fight / verbally with girls ?

Question

I tend to criticize pople i lov n admire... !

I know...this is opposite of what I should be doing...but i'm kinda helpless at this...

Help Please ! how can i get over this ? its become a habit ...

Answer 1

You fight verbally with girls, because it is a control thing. You do not really like yourself, and that is why you try to bring others down, to your level.
You need to work on you, try and be a better person, what you was doing was also immature, it is good that you realize their is a problem, and you are willing to fix it. You need to read books on self esteem. Sometimes it also has to do with how you was brought up, home life, so work on you, I hope you are able to take care of you!

Answer 2

We tend to do what we have learned.... I think there might have been some verbal confrontations at home that you have witnessed.......or been a victim of....
It is a self worth issue for you... Maybe you don't think you measure up, so you have to bring the other person down to your level to make you feel better.......
When someonein ytour family that you love calls you a name, labels you or disrespects you verbally. it does alot of damage to your psyche....... Whether you know it or not, it stays and eats at you for a very long time.....
You can become the victim for the rest of your life, or you can decide to not inflict the same hurt you are feeling on someone
else.
Do not sell yourself short...... you are soooooo worth it... Take a stand and remove yourself from the negative stuff and create something new that feels good for you and others..... You will get pay back sooner than you think......and it feels so good inside....
I know you can do it..........Make a giant leap of faith.... Start new today........Watch out here I come!!!!!!!

Answer 3

Just keep in mind treat others the way you want to be treated. If you wouldn't accept receiving it, then don't be the giver.

I do commend you for your courage to ask for advice and being honest about this. Not many people would be honest about it and desire to change. Admitting this is your first step. Why can't more guys take your cue?!

Answer 4

all you can do is try to change that habit becuase later in life you might find that special someone and becuase you tend to critize the people you care about, you probably won't be able to have a long and meaningful relationship.

Answer 5

just keep shut. Don't say anything when you want to critisize her. It's fairly typical because you would want to teach her the right way...but you gotta remember to do it nicely. So instead of critizing her try agreeing with her and looking at things from her point of you. Hope this helps. :-)

Answer 6

you need anger management control,

don't you want to be a winner instead of being right all
the time, maybe you where raise were nobody respect each other

isabelle

Answer 7

well to u thats how u show someone u love them alot of ppl have this problem maybe go to tharaphy and stuff NOT JOKING but its good u cought ur self in time and u know that thats not how to love someone

Answer 8

~You sound like you have a selfesteem prob...You feel better about yourself when you are hurting others..as for girls you don't lissen to what they are telling you..you only hear what you want and Jump to the defence to protect your feeling..OPEN your mind a little and lissen Bite your tongue more..Look inside and Like who you are bad and good.~~~> ;o}

Answer 9

its just a method to get an attention from the gurl u like..

good luck!~

Answer 10

when you out of control give yourself a fist on your head, then you will not bumble again.