when i break up with someone i act more clingy and stalky than ever - how can i stop doing this and can i ever get them back?
what can you do when you wnat to call them all the time still?
2006-10-01 03:02:18 · 11 answers · asked by danielle_in_luv 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Acknowledge that you have insecurities and are allowing yourself to be unstable when you break up. Respect yourself and expect more of yourself and for yourself and of the people you choose to go out with. Learn your lessons and apply them to your life appropriately. Always focus on the person you want to be, not the person you wish you were. Don't lose your own identity in your relationships or your breakups. Allow yourself the dignity to let go gracefully when necessary. All this makes you more attractive naturally.
2006-10-01 03:12:10 · answer #1 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 59 years old and am going through a bad one myself! I called/emailed/text messaged him and all it did was make him angry at me! I finally decided that I would try to stop. After a 4 year relationship I don't think he will ever come back and that saddens me but I have to go on. It's been 6 months since we broke up and just last month I made that decision. Now it has been 2 weeks since I've gotten in touch with him. What I do is take it one day at a time and cross off each day on a calendar. I'm not ready for another relationship but I have made a few new male friends who are helping me through this. But I still love my ex. Just try to keep busy, make some changes in your life. I went from super straight hair to a spiral perm. I feel like a new person! When you think you want to call him call a girlfriend instead. It helps...good luck!
2006-10-01 10:10:15 · answer #2 · answered by ctryhnny04 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know for a fact its due to lack of self confidence because trust me honey I've been the same and its awful.
The best thing to do is not to call at all, you'll look much more "together". How to do it is much more tricky! Have a sit down and think exactly why you do it...Is it for attention? Is it because you feel lonely? Is it because you really feel they will come back if you pester them?
You'll be able to answer your own question that way. But the best thing to do is round up your girlfriends or take up a hobby and get your mind off of these guys who obviously aren't worth the time and effort.
2006-10-01 10:07:26 · answer #3 · answered by *Care Bear* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well..its up to u actually..it takes time to recover..just be patient and always think positive..just make sure u always make urself busy..like have a new hobby or go to shopping or get a part time job like baby sitting or whatever..makesure u hangout ur close friends..time is the medicine to cure this..
good luck!~
2006-10-01 10:08:34 · answer #4 · answered by rayna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find someone else to call. it is hard to move on after a breakup and thats why on average it takes about half the time that you dated someone to get over them. what you need to do is start cutting down, gradualy start calling him less and less until you really dont need to anymore.
2006-10-01 10:07:33 · answer #5 · answered by Sasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out and about. Go out with friends and try to enjoy yourself. Delete the phone number from your phone, if the person wants to contact you they will.
2006-10-01 10:08:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you even want him back? You can continue to evolve and find someone new (And Better!)
Just repeat to yourself over and over again, "I refuse to call that b@st@*d Ever Again!!!" You CAN Do It!!! Good Luck~!
2006-10-01 10:19:49 · answer #7 · answered by lkjjkgjfj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is very hard but you have to be patient and time will hal any wound...I am currently going thru this now. but mine landed up with me and my ex-girl getting in a fight.
2006-10-01 10:27:15 · answer #8 · answered by aquamarine003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call someone else, like a friend..
2006-10-01 10:09:30 · answer #9 · answered by kibbles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats naturalllllllllll..............but u can think abt something else.........indulge in something that keeps ur mind away..thats not 100 percent relief but ya dont let ur mind go back to him that ll weaken u
2006-10-01 10:06:25 · answer #10 · answered by ping 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋