I have a crush on my net friend.But the truth is that I faked to him about almost everything-- my age, name, place.He's in love with that fake girl.But I love him truly now.
I hid my identity for security reasons.(girls here should understand).I did'nt know I would fall in love with him.
He has even given a green signal to our relationship.All he wants is a date with me.He showed his photo to me.But I did'nt show mine.I am afraid that my looks won't satisfy him.
He wants to meet me and call me.I would love that and I want to break him the truth.But I am afraid to lose him.What if he did'nt accept the reak me?
I want some comforting words and some advice.
No harsh words please! I am already feeling miserable.
2006-10-01 03:00:54 · 16 answers · asked by monalisa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hi monalisa(u'r hiding again!!, plz learn from u'r past!!)\
neways, what u have done cant be reversed. u can only learn from the past mistakes.u have hidden only the 1st page of u'r profile. that is u'r name,address,ph no, etc. i would say, what is in a name. what u have not been able to hide or no1 can hide is their ideals and thoughts. the substance of love! so u havent lost much. and anywayz, he wouldnt have loved u cuz of u'r name and cuz of u'r location. at the end, its u'r inner self that matters. and THANK GOD THAT U HAD NOT SHOWN HIM A FAKE PHOTO.so u havent kept him much illusioned.
confess to him. and say that u did it for security reasons. make him understand. and plz on the first date dont tell him that u love him. just give hints. so that u dont seem to be so desperate that he would leave u. and for the looks that u said. he wont like u cuz of u'r loooks, look at MY Q&A page. i had asked a similar question.and u can view the answers too!
so fix up a date. and then go have fun ith him. firt give him u'r phone no or something and then reveal the truth on the phone else reveal it when u meet. cuz if u confess bfore then he mght not ever meet u(i hope that wont happen!)
so give him u'r phone no so that trust develops. and tell him to respect u'r idientity. try make him understand. he should understand. if he doesnt, then mayb he isn't for u.
u havent commited a big mistake. if he asks for a photo before the meet, give him u'r real photo. and tell him to meet u as early as possible. 2moro if possible!!
i am a 17 yr old relationship expert, and have had many online relationships. and if u want to consult me for free, u can email me on my email id. kamalrishi@gmail.com
else call me on +919871150476.
see i didnt hide anythin!! be confident. and u will be able to hav him. i read all the previous 12 answers, and i suppose non of them are worthy to be implemented!!!
rest is upto u. and plz in a few days tell me what happened. i would be rreally happy to know if it was sucesful. if it wasn't. call me. or email me. i will fixit
2006-10-01 03:26:52 · answer #1 · answered by rishi17del 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish that we lived in a world where all it took was comforting words to make everything ok ... but alas.. we don't
realistically ... I think the word love ... is used to frequently and easily.
U r gonna lose him anyway if u don't meet him ... so u may as well tell him the truth. U r probably not the only one who hasn't been honest. Trust me.
Dr Bad
realistic agony uncle
ps .. words don't mean that much by themselves... when u meet him .. u will really know if he loves u.
there goes another 10 points
2006-10-01 03:26:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,well its really surprising coz i have gone thrpugh the same phase. However we have been friends for a lnog tme. Trust is the reason behind every relatiionship. Do not tell him the truth about yourself yet,let him know about your true identity after a few months. Your lies may seem worth at the moment. Go out for a date and look beautiful. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder/
2006-10-01 03:06:05 · answer #3 · answered by Kiran urf msa sis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with him.
You will never have him if you continue lying, but if you come clean, there may be a chance for you.
I would tell him the truth before you meet him, it wouldn't be fair to make him come and see the 'fake' you, so tell him first.
2006-10-01 03:04:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lying never works it just comes back to bite you in the backside
confess you made it all up he probably has too so will be a good time to get it all out if he doesnt want to know the real you then he wasnt worth having anyway mark it down to experiece learn from it and try again
good luck
2006-10-01 03:05:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm just tell him the truth and hope that he will understand or just go on the date and then tell him the truth there .but the picture he probably sent is not the real him lol so then ull have a reason to be mad at him .
2006-10-01 03:04:27 · answer #6 · answered by curiousgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all how old are you ? should you be thinking of meeting someone from over the net, (you said you hid your age), is this because you are young ? if you are old enough, be honest with him or wait until you meet and explain your faking, but being honest might be best.
2006-10-01 03:24:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should tell him the truth, even if the outcome wouldn't be good. you should be honest to him if you really love him. you cannot love without trust. but after you tell him the truth, if he really loves you, he will accept the real you. but if he doesn't, he loved you for all the wrong reasons and you should accept that.
2006-10-01 03:05:26 · answer #8 · answered by questionable08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ever thought that pic might not be him? he could be lying 2.
if you do meet him go with a friend so if he is dodgy she will be just around the corner to help you get away.
always have a plan to get away as he might not be who he claims he is. remember that.
2006-10-01 03:05:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this net dating thing is not good. how do you know that he has'nt lied to you to?
you may have a crush on someone that does not exist.
but i guess the best option is to be straight with him and if he lose's intrest it was'nt meant to be.
i hope you cheer up soon!
2006-10-01 03:41:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋