I'm a shy girl, and I like this boy that I've known since last year. We share some unique interests. The problem is, he's even shyer than I am! And he talks to me even less than he talks to my girlfriends.
One of his friends teases us about each other, but that may just be because we're partners in class. And when someone asked him who he likes, he just blushed and kept his mouth shut. He remained this way when asked if the girl was me. Hey, at least he didn't say no! But I think he's already aware that I'm hoping for a boyfriend. Does he like me but is just too shy to say it? Or is he just not interested?
I'm curious about how to know this without coming right out and declaring my feelings for him (I'm an old-fashioned kind of girl). I've already asked his friend, who isn't sure. Please help me with at least one of these questions; I'm lonely!
2006-10-01 02:46:38 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The first thing I need to say is a boyfriend will not take away your loneliness......You need to build your self esteem and get involved with things like volunteer work....It will give you confidence and help you become a leader and not a follower.... so on with your question.......
Shy people should not be pressured or put on the spot, and you know this... So you are partners at school, and you share some unique interests... that is where you should start.... A realtionship is built on friendship and trust, so slow down and take it one step at a time...Suggest getting together to share your common interest, and don't make it seem like a date.....Don't do it with other people around... Relax and just ask....he can only say yes or no.. Whatever the answer is... deal with it.....
Don't drive yourself crazy with what-ifs....You sound like a wonderful and sensitive person.....
ASK THE QUESTION ......
2006-10-01 03:00:13 · answer #1 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think you should definitely meet him privately and ask him out or something. Some guys have a really bad confidence problem and your waiting will do nothing to help the situation. Try to make conversation at the very least, and make him feel like you are interested in him! Everyone is at least a little shy, but guys like this have a very hard time gaining the confidence to take action. Start hanging around him too, no matter what other people say. You like him don't you? If you have trouble making conversation, just ask questions at first (not questions that can be answered yes/no, though). The only way to overcome shyness is by talking to people. And I think you two need to talk to each other. Have some courage! You will both feel better after you begin talking and hanging around. Good luck!
2006-10-01 10:03:32 · answer #2 · answered by anonymous 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was definitely the shy boy in your question back in my high school days. If you want to have a relationship with him, or just try to have one, you will have to be less shy and make the first move. Arrange to go with him, his friend, and maybe one or two others to the movies, bowling, or something fun he likes. Hang out with him in a small group, but you'll probably have to invite him to participate in the group. Then after a few times hanging together, when he is more comfortable, you need to get more aggressive and just ask him to do something fun with you--don't pressure him to kiss or anything like that, just be friends first and then work into seeing if a relationship is possible. No matter what, if he is as shy as I was, you'll need to take the initiative, don't wait for him. I can attest this worked for me, and my wife was the girl who took the bull by the horns and we've been married for 26 years.
Also, shy guys are a lot more comfortable putting things in words than saying them, so you may also want to try to get him to talk to you via emails and the such that weren't available back in my teen years. I think it would be a great tool.
2006-10-01 10:01:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im quite certain from what i'm hearing from you that he likes you. Why ? Because he reminds me of well, me. I blushed and couldn't ask the girl up to the point where she used a fake Chatting nickname posing as a 'friend' to ask me if i was playing with her/scared to ask/etc (I eventually found out).
Eventually i did ask her, but after 2-3 months ? Yes, i was a major coward. Insecurities flying about. Im gonna guess that he prolly doesnt get much attention from girls ?
My advice is, if you want to, try to get him to ask you, but dont leave it to him entirely cause shy boys like that are just like that - shy.
2006-10-01 10:14:54 · answer #4 · answered by Dabidu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi is shy but there can be many reason.
if he dont say that he is your bf in front of every one this doesnt mean that he dont love you.
i sujjest you a very good way ask him go go for a date and you talk with him frankly there .
go to a beautiful and some place where only you two are available
trust me he will change after that
2006-10-01 09:52:34 · answer #5 · answered by ravi s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well some boys are like that... they're too shy to tell a person how they really feel about them.. don't worry.. from the looks of it he's just too shy to say how he feels about you...
and how to know it without him knowing how you feel for him why not try talking to him by just the two of you.. then get to the topic where you can talk about the people you like.. maybe then he'll tell who he really likes..
2006-10-01 09:52:48 · answer #6 · answered by Chito 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he likes you. It sounds like me, actually...
2006-10-01 10:10:12 · answer #7 · answered by WolfMage 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋