PEOPLE SAY THAT IN LOVE LOOKS DONT MATTER.THATS JUST TO SOOTHE THE UGLY LOOKING.ASK A QUESTION 2 U'RSELF.WOULD U MARRY SOME1 WHO IS UGLY, FAT,BLACK ETC. IF NO, IS IT FAIR? WHAT IF U WERE BORN NOT SO GOODLOOKING? I DONT LOOK THAT GOOD, I HAVE BEEN REJECTED SO MANY TIMES BY GIRLS.IS THAT JUSTIFIED?
ALSO THE WORLD IS RULED BY THE GOODLOOKING. MAY IT BE ANYSECTOR. A PERSON WITH CERTAIN QUALIFICATIONS, ACHEIVEMENTS AND BAD LOOKS WILL NOT BE PREFFERED OVER WITH SOME1 WITH GOOD LOOKS. WE ALL KNOW THAT?
DO WE HAVE A SOLUTION? LOVE IS BLIND IS WHAT THEY SAY BUT IT HAPENS ONLY IN 1% OF THE CASES. A BEAUTIFUL GIRL GETS A HANDSOME GUY. AND A FAT GIRL GETS A UGLY GUY. HOWS THAT? NOW I WOULD LIKE U TO ANSWER IT HONESTLY.B IN THE SHOES OF SOME1 WHOM U KNOW ISN'T GOOD LOOKING. AND THEN ANSWER.
NO JOKES PLEASE. ONLY PEOPLE WHO SERIOUSLY WANT TO ANSWER DO. ELSE GET LOST.
2006-10-01 02:44:37 · 46 answers · asked by rishi17del 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Looks do matter - it is a proven fact that good-looking people usually fare better in school and in the world of work. Just because someone is fat doesn't mean they can't also be beautiful. And, what I found even more offensive is you mentioned black along with other examples of what you thought was ugly. Have you not seen people like Halle Berry, Denzel Washington, etc... not to mention just average black people on the street? They are every bit as beautiful as any other color on this planet. Good looking people may have an easier time on this planet, but I tell you who won't - people with UGLY THOUGHTS AND STEROTYPES LIKE YOURS.
2006-10-01 02:49:31 · answer #1 · answered by applebetty34 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all, I completely disagree with you...
The world is not ruled by the goodlooking--seriously, have you seen Donald Trump? I think he's the ugliest guy I've ever seen, yet he's very rich. Also look at bill gates--he's not very pretty himself.
Look at the past US presidents--most of them have not been the best looking people in the world.
Hell, even Monica Lewinsky was ugly and she nailed the president.
The people who rule the world are those who have confidence, and who can convince others of their abilities, and those who have brains and use them--looks do not necessarily matter.
People who think they are ugly and who have poor self esteem display that to others, and that is why those people do not get ahead in life.
Even a "beautiful" person with poor self-esteem will lose out on a job. Employers want confident employees.
Also, the opposite sex wants confident lovers.
Not many people I know want to date someone who they have to constantly reassure about their looks and personality.
The reason that women are probably rejecting you is because of your attitude.
If you changed how you feel about yourself and others and displayed a true confidence, I think you'd have better luck with people in general.
Although there are some people out there who base their decisions one the outward appearance of others, in the end they will lose. In the end looks fail us. It is personality that is important.
2006-10-01 02:53:23 · answer #2 · answered by anabele6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.. here's a story. I am considered pretty good lookin & have never had a problem attracting the opposite sex. I don't dig what most people call good looking guys. I've been told many a time that I am a freak and not normal though for this reason. They just don't do it for me.. seriously! To me, they look like cardboard cutouts and I am more attracted to different features. Now, that can be as individual as the person. Sometimes I dig someones big nose, their weird teeth, fat, skinny, red hair, hell i've even liked a guys acne scars before. Point is, that there are women out there that like difference and don't have a particular type. Some of us like PEOPLE for who they are.
I am in love with a guy who says he was never considered good looking and I think most women probably wouldn't find him attractive but I just DIG him big time! Not just coz he's a funny, intelligent, sweet man but I honestly think he is dead sexy too! I love the way he looks seriously.. to me he is absolutely the hottest thing around. It took him some time to believe that I really do think this but he can tell by the way I look at him.
He is 42 years old and says he had to wait his whole life for me to turn up.. but i did. Just stay cool and have confidence in yourself.. that's a good looking guy as far as I'm concerned.
BUT.. i guess in saying all of this.. looks are still important for me, its just that i'm not attracted to the same looks that the majority of people are. Beauty truely is in the eye of the beholder and all that so you may find a girl who finds your looks to be just the ticket.
2006-10-01 03:14:44 · answer #3 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i tried to set my girlfriend up with a guy. She is a narcossistic drug addict with problems keeping a job and has now resorted to *********. She is absolutely gorgeous. Great body beautiful face. The best boobs you've ever seen. He is an average, almost nerdy looking guy who is so sweet and respects women. His aim in life is to be an amazing husband. When they first met she said not a chance in hell. He said , wow, she is out of my league. Sad but true. Even i notice a difference from when i'm all dressed up for work or when i'm in my daggy clothes on my day off. The service i get at the corner shop is so different. I don't agree with it (i've seen my male friends heart broken too much) but it sure is true! I had a bad haircut once and died it black. People in shops were so rude to me as if i was going to steal something. Appearances do matter!
2006-10-01 02:52:54 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems as though you have allot of aggression inside you. If you are not confident in yourself, believe me, no one else will be. It will take a special person to do so.
I will say that I am an attractive person, however, as I get older, I start to look for different things in a guy aside from their physical appearance. I believe looks play a role in society, However it is up to the individual to not let it dominate their way of thinking. Don't get caught up in the hype!
Would you rather marry someone who is gorgeous, abusive, and insecure. Or someone who is ok looking that loves you unconditionally?
As long as you believe in yourself and stay true to yourself, you will go along way. Take pride in who you are and people will notice that. But, most importantly, it is not what people think. And if they are that shallow, who needs friends like that anyway!
I have seen plenty unattractive people with good looking partners. So may be beauty is in the eye of the beholder!
2006-10-02 02:27:33 · answer #5 · answered by prettychestnuteyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You Know Rish, Life is not fair! Life doesn't only suck for ugly people but for beautiful people as well. We didn't ask God what to make us, or how to make us. In his eyes we are all beautiful! While you are young looks are a factor, but as you get older you start to realize that looks are not that important, sure you have to have some kind of attraction, but what is attractive to me might not be to someone else. The world is not ruled by good looking people! Who is the ruler of the world anyway????? In my opinion God rules the world! You might find this hard to believe but good looking people get turned down also, also good looking people get used all the time! You think you have it so bad?????? Ok try looking good and look for real love and see what you get? I will tell you all you get is a guy that wants one thing from you for a short time and then is ready to move on to the next. Good looking people also have friends that stab them in the back just to get ahead, or just to make them look better. Good looking people have a lot to worry about as well. No one is perfect, and life is short, so short that you shouldn't be worried about how you look you should be woried about today and just enjoy life. They say there is someone for everyone and I believe that, you need to have more self esteem, and quit feeling sorry for yourself, and grow up!!!! I mean we can talk about anybody if we wanted like How hard is it being a single Parent and trying to find the man/ woman who can love you and your child? How many problems does that person have, we could talk about people in wheel Chairs and how bad their life is, I mean come on it never ends!
Quit feeling SORRY for yourself and do something about it!
If you are going to talk about good looking people and how you think they have it so easy, think about the whole world and how many people are different, then when you can see through someone who is in a wheel chair, or someone who knows they are going to die, or someone who has cancer that has no hair, or a girl who is 15 that just had a baby and the father is no where around, I could go on forever, but when you can tell me how they feel then you will understand that we all have problems not just you! So get over it. **** Happens and life goes on!
Always Amy
2006-10-01 03:07:30 · answer #6 · answered by heart2heart27958 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch! Next time, don't use the caps lock!
As far as the question itself goes: Looks do matter, at least in some significant ways. But you have to be realistic about it too. Unless your looks are celebrity-like, you will get rejected and need to reject many times before you succeed once. That is true even if you are average-looking, and even more true if you are below average. The solution is to be patient and realistic and try to understand things from other people's point of view. Good luck!
2006-10-01 02:51:41 · answer #7 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks should never matter in a relationship. You should love someone for their personality and if they happen to be good looking then it's a bonus.
You can't love someone just because they are gorgeous. After all they could have the personality of a wet rag or be as thick as a door stop!
I met my partner on the net and got to know him before I knew what he looked like. We already had a relationship before we saw one another which I have to say has worked out better than any other relationship I have ever had.
2006-10-01 02:49:49 · answer #8 · answered by sarah k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me being young and not really looking for love I would pick a fine person over a ugly person anyday. I think anybody would do that my advice to a not attractive guy is to just be friends with your crush and then ask her out so she will have to look at your personality not just your looks because if you ask her out before she really gets to know you the only thing she can base her decision on is looks.
2006-10-01 02:50:52 · answer #9 · answered by et_2012_luvs_u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks should not matter. Dont get me wrong everybody wants somebody thats easy on the eyes. There are also a lot of people out there who are in endless relationships, because they are looking for the wrong thing. If you love someone it shouldnt matter what they look like. Thats where the unconditional part comes in at. Just always be yourself, and never be afraid to love. There is truth to there's somebody for everybody.
2006-10-01 02:53:41 · answer #10 · answered by MrsJClair 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋