2006-10-01 02:44:23 · 16 answers · asked by sally b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
What you can afford and your emotional connection to the couple.
2006-10-01 02:48:22 · answer #1 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from giving money gifts if you can. Who's business is it really how much you spend as long as the gift is wanted and appreciated? Take the time to know the couple your congratulating. Make it personal and easier for yourself.
If your married reflect on some of the unique gifts that you received.
We always like to get something personalized or symbolic of the union. Engraving a gift can make it that much more special without having to spend a fortune or get caught up in the did I spend enough. How can you put a price on sentiment? Most people do not.
If you have no idea really what to get them, odds are your not close and your just going because you think you need to. Then does it really matter get something simple and traditional from their list. That is why we register isn't it?
If you still decide on money give what you can and do not worry about what you can not give. Odds are their is someone always that is closer and who will give more then you.
Remember if they are your friends they will be thankful for whatever amount you give and surprises either way.
Good Luck!
2006-10-01 04:55:18 · answer #2 · answered by Destiny2dy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that it can vary tremendously but I think you need to strike a balance between what you can afford to give and what the food (or wedding festivities on the whole) is costing.
The reception venue and style of wedding invitation are two indicators as to whether the wedding will be a simple affair or much more elaborate. If there was a shower, stag, Jack & Jill or other pre-wedding celebrations, they can also guide you.
I live in a big city and many of the weddings I attend are at the nicer hotels or golf and country clubs. Therefore it is not uncommon for the minimum per person to be $100-$150. Having said this, a single person who is a student and living in a basement apartment (just as an example) would do well to be able to give $50.
2006-10-01 03:27:13 · answer #3 · answered by Duckie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Traditionally, you should give enough to "cover your plate." If it's just you going and you're not that close with the couple, $50-$75 is good. If you're closer with the couple, you should consider covering your plate and then a little more, so somewhere around $100. If you're bringing a guest, double what you would have given just for yourself.
If you've already been married, you can always give back what the couple gave to you. If only one of the couple was at your wedding, double what they gave to you if you are bringing a guest!
Remember, though, that the bride and groom don't expect you to bankrupt yourself for their wedding. If you can't afford to spend more than a certain amount, than only spend that amount. The bride and groom will be grateful for whatever gift you give them.
Have fun at the wedding!
2006-10-01 03:34:30 · answer #4 · answered by ms. teacher ft 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The basic rule is to cover the cost of the meal. However, in this day and age, a meal could cost $100. In our area, the average is approximately $50 in a banquet hall with a sweet table and open bar. No one can be expected to dole out that much cash if they bring an escort (hubby, wife, signif. other) and that makes it double the cost of one plate. Just give what is comfortable to you. Do not try and look fabulously wealthy if you need the bucks at home. No self-respecting wedding couple would expect that from anyone. It isn't the cost of the gift, but your presence that they want. Just be yourself and give what you are able to. Nothing more. I know a couple who give extra-generously to friends, but very cheaply to family. And, they can afford to be generous to everyone. But, they like how they look to a stranger, and don't really care what the family thinks. Go figure. Good luck and don't worry.
2006-10-01 02:59:48 · answer #5 · answered by wilhelmenawiem 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've attended many weddings, and while it's typically taboo for a couple to REQUEST monetary gifts. If you choose to gift them in that way, you should consider your relationship to the couple and what you'd like for them to be able to do with the gift. I use this as a basis: Most gift cards come in increments of 25, 50, 75, and 100 dollars. A monetary gift at its most menial state, should be in the range of $25.00/$50.00 from a couple. That's about what it would take to select a useful gift from their registry. As the relationship is closer to you, increase the amount of the gift. If the bride or groom is a close family friend of yours, gift them as you would expect for their parents to gift your son or daughter.
2006-10-01 02:55:18 · answer #6 · answered by Tori 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are attending alone then a $50 to $75 gift is good. If you are attending with a guest then $100 dollars is more than appropriate.
2006-10-01 03:09:35 · answer #7 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Going by yourself: $25 for not too close friend or family or $50 for close. Going as a couple: $50 for not too close friend or family or $100 for close family and super close friend. Or you can buy them a gift (wedding/couple appropriate) from Bed, Bath and Beyond using a 20% off coupon - they come in my mail every other week. You'll pay $80 for a $100 item or $40 for a $50 item.
2006-10-01 03:57:00 · answer #8 · answered by Mum2Boys 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
properly, how a lot are you able to manage to pay for? How close are you for your niece? My hubby and that i have been married a pair weeks in the past. We received typically economic presents. the most we were given develop into from all and sundry individual develop into $500 (my sought after uncle). The smallest volume develop into $50 (my sought after aunt, unmarried female, won't be able to manage to pay for a ton). maximum presents were in the $one hundred to $2 hundred determination. the better economic presents were from aunts and uncles who were a touch extra smooth with their monetary circumstances. in reality, provide what you're smooth with. in case you sense like that's breaking your monetary corporation, then that's too a lot. if you're no longer very close with the female, then truly do not provide previous your skill. good luck!
2016-12-04 02:26:05 · answer #9 · answered by finnen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no less then it would cost for you to have the meal, is usually the way it goes. So if its you and your significant other going to the wedding, and the meal is and they average $25-30 (could be way more depending on how fancy its is) a head, i would give them $60. If you close to the them some people give more, but its just polite to give the amount you think would best cover the meal.
2006-10-01 02:50:53 · answer #10 · answered by kibbles 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whatever you can afford. When I was married a little over a year ago, we received as little as $20 to as much as $1000.
2006-10-01 02:53:00 · answer #11 · answered by tw0cl0n3m3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋