This story is long so im gonna sum it up, About 5 months ago I was visited by the most beautifull mormon girl I have ever met..she was a missionary..I am not mormon at all infact I am athiest...so I told her if she promised to come talk to me more about other religions then I would come to her church...so she came over and as time has passed she has started to realize that she doesn't want to be mormon anymore..and we have developed a really strong liking for each other..she is now afraid of the reprocussions of her leaving the church...he family is furious, and her fellow missionaries have come over "threatening me" to stay away from her..and that im corrupting her mind...I never intended her to stop believing, I just showed her other points of views...what should we do? She is 23 and she is smart enough to choose for herself. We are literally gonna have to run away to escape the crazy people at her church. But I think what we have is amazing! and she does too...what would you do?
2006-10-01 02:44:17 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I Won't leave her...I feel such a connection to her...I wouldn't risk going through all this drama if I didn't think she was worth it.
2006-10-01 02:57:18 · update #1
I envy you. It doesn't matter what religion she ends up with. She will end up believing it, whatever it is. Or reject them all.
2006-10-01 02:48:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Many of the previous answer above are right on if you ask me. I would echo the same thing about where is her companion . And, yes she would have been transferred. In fact, she should have been there only for a few months. So, I’m sorry, I have a hard time believing this too.
I well say this though; although very rare, some missionaries do stray and find out the church isn’t right for them and leave. I’ve known this to happen from personal stories I heard.
That being said, although a mission is primarily to teach and bring in people, it’s also an opportunity for the missionaries to “grow up” and experience the world on their own. So many times confusion and doubt sets in. that is what makes being a missionary hard. But, that’s also the reason for companions; not to “rat” each other out, but to help each other during the tough times. Although we are encouraged to learn about other religions, we are cautioned. And some members do find the feel better else ware.
If your story is true, I don’t blame you, although I do think your taking the “threats” out of context (what could they do?). However, I do have a couple of new questions. Did you fulfill your promise and go to church? And, what are your thoughts about the church, especially from what you learn from your “friend”?
2006-10-04 13:38:29 · answer #2 · answered by Coool 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mormon missionaries are not supposed to date while they are out on the mission. If they do, then they usually get reported by peers or members. If they start questioning that the church is the only true church, they usually are reassigned. When the elders came to visit me once, I had one go east and the other go west in the space of a week. If you are talking to her still, then this is a variation in practice!
2006-10-02 08:07:41 · answer #3 · answered by Buzz s 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
The sad part is, she made covenants in the temple before she went on her mission and by leaving the church she is breaking those covenants. That's too bad because they are serious.
The church isn't going to "do" anything to her, she can be excommunicated if she wants or just quit going.
It sounds like maybe she did not have strong enough testimony before or during her mission and maybe was trying to "find" her testimony....
Yes, she is old enough to choose for herself...but please consider, WHY is she wanting to leave the church, and I am not suggesting she doesn't have any reason...but is it just to be with you? Has she done something that would jeopardize her membership? Has she no testimony?
I don't know what I would do...good luck.
2006-10-02 12:46:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
"Get in line?" "Join the club?" That's the idea, sucker. The odds of her leaving the morg for you and very very slim. The odds of you joining the cult for her is really high.
But I don't believe you. Not a bit.
If it was true, her companion would have ratted her out the same night she started losing her testimony and she would have been transferred. You would have never seen or heard from her again. If, somehow, you two were absolutely in perfect control of your emotions and nuances and her companion never caught on, then how do you know anything about her feelings? How do you know anything about her family? They're either in another state or another country.
Nope. I don't believe a word of it.
2006-10-01 10:30:27 · answer #5 · answered by claudiagiraffe 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Haha, I dont believe it! Being a LDS member myself, I know that a missionary wouldnt come and listen to you talk about other religions and then suddenly decide that she doesnt want to serve her mission!
Where was her companion during all this? You will never get one missionary to come by him or her self! As for the other missionaries threatening you, that is the biggest load of rubbish I have ever heard!
....and if it really did happen, she would be sent home off her mission! she wouldnt still be serving her mission in your area, sneaking off to visit you!
I dont believe a word of your pathetic story.
2006-10-01 22:19:10 · answer #6 · answered by Jessica :o) 3 · 12⤊ 1⤋
The chances of this relationship succeeding are slim. What exactly do you have? If you love her insist that she show some integrity and fulfill her obligations faithfully. If she still loves you when she is done, be ready and waiting.
2006-10-01 16:13:30 · answer #7 · answered by whapingmon 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hi.
that is infact quite fascinating.
It is fairly rare, that a mormon opens their heart long enought to listen to reason. I do hope though, for your sake and hers....
that you can come to a rational and logical conclusion together.
The fact is God exists.PERIOD.
HOWEVER...... God infact, may have used YOU to show here the fallacies in her belief.
THE TRUTH IS THIS. The afterlife is real, and will be ETERNAL.
*I suggest that "if" it was God infact that blessed you with a beautiful and caring lady here, that you BOTH START SOMETHING NEW TOGETHER.
JESUS- IS ALL ABOUT LOVE/FAMILY/ALL THAT IS GOOD.
*start attending a christian bible only based church KJVERSION USED, and just maybe you are here can have a happy and healthy, vibrant live with true meaning and eternal salvation from a soon coming judge for those that would reject his gift of salvation.
hey if christianity was a lie, i would not care to type sooooo much , ya know?! =) seriously though, think about this.
Godbless you AS you seek the truth-LIVE4TRUTH =]
2006-10-01 10:01:19 · answer #8 · answered by LIVE4TRUTH 3 · 0⤊ 5⤋
You go boy! Love is stronger than religion.
I had a little crush on one of the missionary boys one time but the first time I made a pass, he ran and never came back.
2006-10-01 10:00:07 · answer #9 · answered by WhyNotAskDonny 1 · 0⤊ 5⤋
Don't go dumping her now that she gave up her faith for you. She will need you to help her through this. Act responsibly and lovingly.
2006-10-01 09:54:47 · answer #10 · answered by AuroraDawn 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
In your dreams. Very inventive fantasy.
2006-10-01 18:13:25 · answer #11 · answered by Isolde 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋