In this day and age, is it still the brides' family that should have to pay for ALL of the wedding expenses. What if the groom has as many desires and plans for the day, and his family makes more money than the brides????
2006-10-01 02:20:56 · 27 answers · asked by jenniferkoukla 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My oppinion is the bride and groom should pay for the majority of the wedding, and then if the parents want to help fine.. u seem to appreciate it more, and theres less arguements if u pay for it urself ..
2006-10-01 02:56:01 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really does vary tremendously. I know of situations where parents on each side plus the bride and groom paid for 1/3 each (most equitable) to where one side of the family (usually the side that has more money) pays for everything. I think if there is a bias as far as expectation, it does fall to bride's side of the family and as such, some family specifically plan for that though that appears to be less common now than previously.
I will say that all of this should be worked out quite specifically in the very beginning and that all parties should stick to the agreement. I know of a case where the groom's family said that they would pay for 1/3 to 1/2 and then backed down when they recognized that the bride's family was well-off enough to pay for everything.
2006-10-01 03:35:42 · answer #2 · answered by Duckie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of it has to do with couple's age and taste.
Sometimes the bride's family pays for the wedding and reception and the groom's family pays for the rehearsal dinner or alcohol/beverage tab at the wedding.
However, it is more common these days that the bride and groom pick up all the wedding costs.
2006-10-01 02:50:55 · answer #3 · answered by treday25 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now a days the Bride and Groom pay for the wedding and reception and attire. Most parents are willing to help out but today most couple want expensive affairs. If you want a small or private wedding and the Brides' family can afford and are willing to pay, then by all means except it as a gift.
2006-10-01 02:34:31 · answer #4 · answered by yourdayscoming 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you make your announcement to be married the families decide to step forward and decide what they would like to contribute to. Most of our families at our age decide to try and both partake in the event splitting the costs based on what they would like to see at your wedding. Reason being is neither side wants to come off like they do not approve or like they can not afford it.
If the groom would like to see added things to the wedding more then what the brides family has agreed to then the grooms family pays for it.
There is tons of things to think about get a wedding planner book to help you see ahead the expenses. Also look into package deals and all inclusive ideas to cut the cost for your families. We got married on a cruise and rolled out honeymoon into one and had the reception a few months after we were married to celebrate out union. It was fabulous. We also saved so much we bought our first home the same year!!! Ask your friends for great tips, I have given my friends tons of ways to save and some were even able to help me out. Work a budget out is the best way and ask around from your married friends how they did things too. Congrats!
2006-10-01 05:04:21 · answer #5 · answered by Destiny2dy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this day and age it seems that the bride and groom pay for most of the wedding although as far as I know - the brides parents pay for the wedding reception and the grooms parents pay for the cars and flowers (i think) whilst the bride and groom pay for dresses and suits etc.
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2006-10-01 02:25:52 · answer #6 · answered by kristine w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the country. For instance, in Syria and Egypt, the groom pays for the wedding, unlike India for example where the bride pays for it. During some circumstances and in some countries, both the groom and the bride's family decide that both will contribute in the expenses.
2006-10-01 02:38:52 · answer #7 · answered by Confused 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's more common in this day and age for the parents of both the bride and groom to pay a portion and even for the bride and groom to pay a portion of their wedding themselves.
That being said, talk to your parents, talk to his parents and see what they are both willing to contribute. Then, talk to your fiance and see if that covers everything that your wedding will cost or if you two need to contribute as well.
2006-10-01 03:39:41 · answer #8 · answered by ms. teacher ft 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typically I think the brides family would pay for the bulk of the expenses, but now adays with the economy being so tight, most couples are paying for the wedding themselves, and the parents are just helping out where they can.
2006-10-01 03:04:43 · answer #9 · answered by sally b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bride and groom pay for everything unless family members VOLUNTEER to pick up some of the costs. The key word being: volunteer!
2006-10-02 16:45:11 · answer #10 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋