my gf and i are breaking up after 2 yrs of ups and dwns. Since day 1 shes always gone back and forth, if she wants a relationship or not. We love each other very much and are 29 and 28.
She is in a stage now whr she cant give herslf into a one and it has mostly been me pulling the weight for a while. when weve spoken about it, even this week, she said she would meet me half way, and we made plans for trips, weekends-etc.
then she started to blow me off, and has gone into a complete withdrawl from me.
we have always had an amazing time 2gether, but relationshipwise shes immature and self centered and its not healthy 4 me to be in this with her instability.
She said she's drained & has a lot going on in her life with a hard job, grad school and she recently started seeing a psychologist to deal with her issues.
we are going to have a talk about breaking up 2day and im wondering if i give it a month or a few months, is there any chance to try a fresh start, or is ths ovr 4 good?
2006-10-01
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Mike Z
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➔ Singles & Dating
maybe you should just suggest slowing down instead of actually breaking up...but some couples that break up do get back together...i hate to see the two of you break up if you love each other....things should be talked out and worked out...
2006-10-01 02:01:44
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answered by sanangel 6
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If you want a relationship but need a break, then tell her that. Say you are feeling a little drained and need some time for yourself to recharge. If she is seeing a psychologist, she obviously sees the need to change her behavior and you are probably a large part of that impetus so let her know you are there if she needs you. See how the counseling goes before you make any rash decisions.
2006-10-01 09:16:02
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answered by randyken 6
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Generally speaking, you should not take a woman back after you have to break up with her (or she has to break up with you). There will still be the same problems that there were before after you get back together, and she will have lost respect for you by the time you get back together too. Stop wasting your time and move on! My guess: you two really do not love each other; YOU love HER and that's about it. Also, it could be that she's psycho and bound to change her mind constantly. Either way, you are wasting your time. Good luck with the next one!
2006-10-01 09:06:30
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answered by anonymous 7
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2006-10-01 09:06:02
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answered by d d 1
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Sounds awful.
Go find someone who is not psychopathic and mentally diseased to hang out with.
This relationship is poison and you are only in it out of insecurity and habit. Runaway now and find a nice, sane woman. There are lots and lots of them just waiting for someone who can use words like "relationshipwise", I am sure.
And stop using that text-shorthand crap. You have a keyboard. Use it.
2006-10-01 09:02:23
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answered by Grendle 6
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i think both of ur'l need time apart to actually appreciate what ur'l have wen u 2gather so seperate 4 a while n most definetly ur'l can get back together speaking from personal experience. best of luck 2 u hope things get only better 4 u.
2006-10-01 09:14:44
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answered by babe 2
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i dont no,maybe you will go out again because you guys have been breaking up and getting back together a lot,so there is a chance you will be back together,or maybe not since she is so stressed but u probably will get back together with her
2006-10-01 09:12:01
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answered by sean 2
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Its called a break up because its broken, things will never go back to the way they were.
2006-10-01 09:01:54
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answered by kibbles 3
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how would u get a fresh start? u already know her so it wouldn't be easy to have a fresh start. it sounds like maybe it should be permantley ended if its caused u any greif.good luck though.
2006-10-01 09:09:22
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answered by Bellatrix/Jimmypants 2
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Well, they say that History repeats itself...and you guys are sure proving it to be true....
2006-10-01 09:03:56
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answered by BITE ME 4
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