1) when I see her, I say Hi, and do I hug,shake hands, peck on cheek ? I dont want it to be awkward and I don't want to blow it either. If I don't know what's natural - what do I do- any ideas/suggestions
2) whwere do we go on a 1st date- do I ask her
any idea/suggestions- just dinner ?
or plan for more ??? b/c its only a 1st date ?
2006-10-01 01:44:42 · 6 answers · asked by don;t know 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ANd one other question- should I wear
cologne or do most guys now a days
2006-10-01 01:46:48 · update #1
Calm down! Take a deep breath.
Sounds like you really want to make an impression!
I think if you calm down, and realize she is probably just as nervous as you, you will do fine. Be yourself.
I wouldn't ask for suggestions, I would come up with a nice place on your own, then maybe ask if that is alright with her (if its a specialty place).
After dinner, it really depends on the type of people you are, and what you enjoy. The truth is, if you can't take her someplace you both really like, you might not be compatible from the start.
2006-10-01 01:50:50 · answer #1 · answered by K . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh no - I don't know what you should do!!!
But I'll give you some advice based on zero exerience:
(1) Act relaxed as much as possible - this should then help relax her. I think if your act really nervous it will make her uncomfortable. Read the newspaper etc before hand and try and find some interesting stories so if you run out of conversation you can always ask her opinion on something - eg, what do you think about "Celebrity X", is she a good role model for girls, etc....
(2) Maybe just briefly touch the top of her shoulder/arm when you first meet while saying hi - I think it might be risky to immediately invade her space with a kiss.
(3) Maybe dinner, or an activity you can do together. You need to be able to talk, so cinema is NOT a good idea. Also, don't go anywhere noisy, and don't take her anywhere that another guy may try and chat her up.
(4) I would meet in a bar for 30 minutes prior to walking to table/restaurant (close by) - then maybe finish up in a quiet bar where you both sit on the same seat (like a couch), but play it by ear.
(5) During the drink after try to lightly touch her every now and then, like touch her hand, shoulder etc, if she responds ok to this the touch her hair and if she is ok with that go in for the kiss - good luck.
2006-10-01 11:31:11 · answer #2 · answered by Young Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some of the best first dates I remember have been lunch dates. They leave you with plenty of time to get relaxed and talk. You also have all day together if you hit it off well. I'm against movies at first because you don't get to talk much and touching in the dark is awkward among strangers and better left for later.
Have a plan for the whole day ready or you might look stupid thinking up nothing. Be ready to cut it altogether or change it to her ideas. Ask what she would like to do and if she says "whatever", you're prepared.
Outdoor public places are more relaxing and safer. Usually cheaper too if you're working within a tight budget.
By the way, cologne shouldn't be smelled unless you are pretty close. It's not a body wash.
2006-10-01 09:20:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow speed dating.... what has this world come to when you go to a bar and pick a date like you would a dog at a pet shop???
All that aside. I think a peck on the cheek is appropriate when you first meet her. As for the date itself dinner in a quiet restaurent is always good, You can also find what what she likes before hand and then do that with her. This way she'll feel comfortable doing something she likes and she'll open up more.
Good luck to you.
2006-10-01 08:50:01 · answer #4 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
From a womans' perspective, just shake hands and say HI and smile. Dinner and a movie is good, but you could do just dinner in case it doesn't work out and then go from there. Or instead of dinner, find something that you are both interested in and think up a unique place to go that would impress her. Cologne is good, just not too much so it's overwhelming. Most of all, just be yourself and have fun.
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2006-10-01 08:48:15 · answer #6 · answered by d d 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋