Well my baby is 6 months old and still don't wants to hold his bottle..he tries sometimes but gives up really fast, he always wants me to help him holding his bottle. I have friends that tell me that their babies hold their own bottles already and they are only 5 or even 4 months..I know evry baby is different but..can this be my fault for spoiling him so much? Once again i don't want a lot of negatives answers..my husband is deploy to Iraq and my baby is the only person i have..so i try to give him just the best while his daddy is not home.
2006-10-01 01:26:12 · 18 answers · asked by Yaya 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
wow a big compliment for you when he want that you hold the bottle
stop thinking about iff he could or should do it. i have 3 kids and they all were lazy with holding the bottles. they just loved to be in my arms and have their " dinner" you have so much tocare and worry about... try to be happy that your little son gives you a break from thinking to much.
enjoy it to snuggle with him while he drink his bottle - see it as a break
and its a great thing to have a few minutes just you and the baby and the time is still standing..
iff you really want that he take the bottle alone - try a little game
show him the bottle and hide the bottle after a few times he will have the bottle in his hand and try to get it .. and after a few days he will be able to hold the bottle - ot try it with a ring bottle ..
but for me - when i think back - it was always a great moment to rest when one of my kids needed a the milk or tea bottle
enjoy it and take the time for yourself to relax
good luck and the best for you and your husband
2006-10-01 01:46:30 · answer #1 · answered by knuwulienchen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not worry. I have 3 children and pregnant with my 4th so i know all kids are different. None of my children held their bottle at 6 months, that is still kinda young. If by the time your kid is 9 months and won't hold the bottle then maybe he's spoiled but i really don't think you have to worry. You and baby are just fine and normal!
My prayers are with your family and hubby in iraq!
2006-10-01 08:42:14 · answer #2 · answered by busy mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason in the world that your baby should be holding his own bottle!! You need to hold him and feed him and sing to him and look into his eyes while giving him the bottle. That is what he craves and what he should get. My children were breast fed for 2 years each and never had or held a bottle. My nephew is 14 months old and is still rocked to sleep with a bottle held by his mom or dad. What's the rush. He's a baby!!! Treat him like one.
2006-10-01 10:04:42 · answer #3 · answered by mab5096 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Laura, I wouldn't worry about it too much. My daughter never held hers, she found it easier if I did it for her. She was so lazy as a baby that instead of picking her bottle up she would let it fall sideways and turn her head and drink it that way. I'm glad you know all babies are different but I also see that you are allowing those other moms to make you feel that your son is behind on things. Don't let them do that, just tell them, "well good for you" or something along those lines. Spoil him, we only get 1 chance to do that. Love him as much as you can and give him your all, if that means holding his bottle for a year then do it. it really won't hurt him. My husband did his basic and ait while I stayed home and took care of our daughter so I do understand to a degree how you feel you need to be. You are playing mom and dad right now and it's not easy so whatever you find you think is for the kid or a better way to parent, do it. It isn't hurting him at all. Tell your husband we are proud of him! and remember you are taking care of a hero's son so spoil him as much as you can.
2006-10-01 09:26:46 · answer #4 · answered by ~*~frankie~*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm gonna say what you already know, there all different. Stop listeneing to your friends saying all this and that - he's your baby and he'll do things when he's ready. It will drive you mad if you spend the next few years comparing him to other babies/children. Mine weren't holding their bottles at that age but then my second baby was walking at 9 months!!! See what I mean - it really doesn't matter.
I know it's difficult being a mum with your other half being away but your doing a great job and just enjoy Mummyhood.
2006-10-01 09:11:21 · answer #5 · answered by aza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep encouraging him to hold the bottle by placing his hands on it. Every baby is different so don't judge your son by what other babies are doing. Holding the bottle isn't a big deal. Feeding time is a good time for you to interact and have quiet time with your son. He is going to benefit more from that time together than he would holding the bottle himself.
2006-10-01 08:37:44 · answer #6 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want to why push him?
Children that are breastfeed are not going to hold the breast at 6 months old right? many children who are breast feed are so untill they are close to a year old and older. So it isn't natural for them to hold bottles at 6 months. If they can that is great but if not it isn't a bad thing.
There is nothing wrong with spoiling your children with attention and love. This is attention and it gives you a reason to cuddle with him.
Take advantage of him letting you give him his bottle... The next thing you will know he wont want to cuddle or let you do ANYTHING for him!
Sorry to hear about your husband.. *hugs*
2006-10-01 09:12:37 · answer #7 · answered by FerymayGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not your fault. Why would it be a "fault" ?? All babies develop at a different rate. He will hold his bottle when he is ready. Remember that this time is very special! Enjoy the holding/feeding/cuddling time now, because when he is ready to move around you'll rarely get this feeling of "togetherness" back. He needs it and so do you.
All other chores can wait.
2006-10-01 08:37:43 · answer #8 · answered by Ajayu 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow, that's a lot on your plate, a baby and a bye-bye daddy...okay, he's not spoiled and it's actually much better for him if you keep holding him while he uses the bottle. most babies don't hold their own bottle till maybe 11 months or so. bottles are HEAVY for babies!
besides, if he holds his own bottle he's probably laying flat, and drinking his bottle laying flat can cause ear infections, so hold his head higher than his tummy and cuddle him and admire his cute face while he drinks, and you'll be feeding his emotional health while you feed his little self.
hugs,
cryllie
2006-10-01 08:39:47 · answer #9 · answered by cryllie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a baby boy a little over 7 months old. He still does not hold his bottle but he helps hang on to it. Like you say every baby is different. They grow when they want to, so to speak. Everything comes in time.
2006-10-01 08:36:37 · answer #10 · answered by fixerupper 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋