What should a mother do if her child feels she doesn't love him anymore after she has another baby?

Answer 1

have a special time ... special day.. where you spend one on one time with that child so they know that you do still love them and care about them just as much.. after all they were your FIRST baby and no one can take that place! and just let that child know that!

Answer 2

I am the mother of twins so this was a question that came with having two children at the same time and not knowing how to make sure each one felt as loved as the other.

I worked really hard to make sure I was giving each child the kind of attention they needed at the time, but one little trick that I still do is that I told each of them that I loved them best.

I told them not to tell their sister but I loved them best, I told them this at the same time, so if they were ever to question each other all they would have is that I had told both of them that I loved them best. The truth is that I love both of them with equal passion but differently because they are different people and have different needs. When they got old enough to have good self esteem,, I told them I loved the dog better than either of them.

Your older child will always be your first born, you can also incorporate this into your reassurance of your love for him/her. You can say the same thing about the baby when the baby needs to hear that. Middle children can be made to feel special in the same way, just think of something special about them that sets them apart from the others.

I think the hardest part of parenting is making sure that your kids feel that they are equally loved and important in your heart.

Answer 3

This is a tough one.. Expecially if your child is young.. My daughter felt this twice because I had 2 other babies besides her. and it was hard for her because everyone just wanted to hold the new borns..

You should definitly let your child help with the new born.. Have your child feed it sometimes. or spend time with it. have it push the stroller if your taking the new born on walks...

Also, have some one on one bonding with just you and your child that is feeling left out.. Take your child to the zoo or a amusment park for the day.. Your child will feel special.. Even so might ask if the newborn can come to.. if your child does ask that .. Respond with only if you want the new born to come along..

Having a little party for your child being left out is a good idea to have people come and just give that child the attention..

But also have a talk with that child.. Tell your child that they are no longer the baby of the family.. But also, that he's not forgotten and everything along them lines..

And if none of that works. Let your child figure it out on their own.. They might as well just being selfish and jelious... it happens..

Answer 4

Make sure you plan special time for you and your other child. Let him be a part of the baby's care--don't make him responsible for it, just active and make sure you tell him often how much you love him. Let him choose which outfit to put on the baby, pick out some toys for the baby, something to make him feel important and needed.

Answer 5

When my sister was born, my father said that I just needed that extra attention or when he had her in his arms I needed to be too. So that's what him and my mom did, and I never remember an issue. How old is he? He may be stubborn or playing that sympathy card, kids are so smart. Although the baby is more work, your li'l guy sounds like he feels discluded, have him help with the baby. And last but not least, my pops always said "My love wasn't cut in half when we had your sisters, it multiplied!:)"

Answer 6

Just be sure to give lots of verbal love and praise, and be sure to let dad have the baby EVERY day, t give your first born some alone mommy time, even if it is 30 mins, he needs to know he is still special. I also told my son every day that he was my favorite boy, and now I tell my daughter she is my favorite girl. They like knowing they are my favorote, but because I specify which favorite, there is no competetion. If your kids are the same sex, you could tell them that , you are my favorite 4 year old, and you are my favorite 1 month old, or something.

Answer 7

Your obtrusive stupidity and trolling aside. No, in reality atheist moms could love their toddlers better then Christians. in spite of everything why will you want youthful ones once you're in heaven? Is eternal bliss better pleased in case you spend it with one or 2 better human beings. yet at the same time as atheist die the only component left to undergo in recommendations them by skill of is their toddlers. those toddlers are their legacy, their each little thing. the only information that lots of them existed will be of their baby's minds and eyes and thoughts. obviously this suggests they are going to love and treasure their toddlers better proper?

Answer 8

Give your child time to adjust, he/she will eventually. Involve him/her in the baby's care, make sure you spend time doing things with him/her alone.

My 31 year old has finally adjusted :), but sometimes - sarcastically - he still says "I wish I was an only child".

Answer 9

Ignore the baby and pay attention to the other kid till the other kid falls asleep, then go back to the baby.

Answer 10

Keep reminding him and mentioning to him that U love him very much, and that the new born needs the same special attention to survive as was given to him when he was younger.

Good luck ...