For the last few months he has been a ********. I try to organize to go out and catch up with him but he always 'doesn't know what he is doing' or 'can't be bothered.' During this time he has been hanging around with some of my other, not as close friends, and makes up stories to me about why he didn't tell me what he was doing or why he didn't reply to my messages. I have caught him out lying multiple times and he just says that the endless coincidences aren't his fault. One time I invited him to go to the movies, he didnt want to, he was tired. Two days later he messages me and says that he went to the movies with two of the other guys and he didn't let me know because there wouldn't have been enough time for me to come. Yesterday we went to our mutual friends engagement party and he was already drunk when he got there with the other guys, I went seperately. He was behaving like a 15 yr old, following the other guys around and jeering along with them, teasing my best mates girlfriend
2006-10-01 00:35:03 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
saying how ugly she is and how he 'will take her off his hands' for him, like he is god's gift to women. I felt ashamed of them all, they were being absolute bastards to the engagement friend, one ate a chunk of salmon worth 15$ in one bite and they all chuckled about it after. He is just being a sheep, trying to be cool with dumb, crappy job losers, when they so aren't.
2006-10-01 00:35:22 · update #1
Ooh yuck noway are we lovers, I have a girlfriend.
2006-10-01 00:42:17 · update #2
Dont know if you guys are lovers or friends. Either way you dont need to rely on him make other friends.
2006-10-01 00:40:34 · answer #1 · answered by saturn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever hear of the expression "friends grow apart"? I think that "friendship" has reached a fork and each one should take a different path. It happens. It's OK. It won't make YOU a bad person. It's simply the pains we deal with in life... as we grow and mature.
Don't let it upset you. We've all been there. Yes, it saddens us a little but... what can you do? You certainly can't live by his standards any more than you can force him to live by yours. Stop calling him. If he calls you, play it off and say that you've been invited elsewhere and you do not feel comfortable inviting someone else (do not mention where).
He's not a friend; he's an acquaintance. Don't let that bother you any more. He may even cost you a friend you've yet to meet with his childish and immature behavior, consider that. Good luck and best wishes.
2006-10-01 07:50:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, so basically these guys are complete losers, and you are not at ther level, but the question is, can you stop hanging around your friend? It sounds like you still try and maintain contact with him, but the truth is that these two other guys offer him more than maybe what you can offer him and that is an immature good time. My suggestion is to find people you actually want to hang out with until these guys grow up a bit. It may be shi tty not having friends for a short while but its better to have no friends that friends like those guys
2006-10-01 07:41:26 · answer #3 · answered by drea6996 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes as we get older, we realize some of the things we used to do with our friends aren't things we would do now.
People change and some people don't change as fast or change in different directions than each other.
My advice would be to take a step back and meet some new friends. Still stay in contact with these people, but if they are acting this way, and you are embarrassed, then I doubt that will change any time soon.
2006-10-01 07:39:35 · answer #4 · answered by anabele6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i absolutely understand why you are feeling so fed up. your friend might be going through some sort of phase, as you made it sound like he hasnt always been like this. you might want to try talking to him, and if this dosnt work, just forget about him and move on. you seem like a good guy, and will have no problem making new friends. chances are, one people start realizing what an a**hole this guy is being, they will find some new friends as well. good luck! best wishes.
2006-10-01 07:42:01 · answer #5 · answered by Aviana L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a w*nker i agree, i wouldn't make any effort with him anymore you done ure bit as a friend but he obviously doesn't realise what a good friend he had so leave him to do his own thing, it's his loss! If ppl don't meet me half way then i don't bother with them b/c i don't need to waste my time on someone who doesn't appreciate me as a friend.
2006-10-01 08:32:37 · answer #6 · answered by missy minx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you call these guys your friends why? Doesn't sound like a bunch of great guys to me, sounds more like they need to do some growing up. If you're uncomfortable with them or tired of their antics, move on and make some new friends, I know it's not easy, but it sounds like you need to. Sorry.
2006-10-01 07:42:44 · answer #7 · answered by Laurie K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately life is ever changing and people can change too. It is possible he is just going through a phase, and I hope you will still be able to be friends after he's done with it. It is also possible that it is not a phase and you two will only drift farther and farther apart.
2006-10-01 07:39:13 · answer #8 · answered by greenguy415 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest for you to avoid hanging around him and for you to search for new friends.
Good Luck !
2006-10-01 09:20:19 · answer #9 · answered by embassydiplomat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To much to handle
God Bless You.
2006-10-01 07:42:03 · answer #10 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋