Screaming,pulling hair,hitting???

Question

my 17months old son screams at the top of his lungs as if someone is turturing him or something, he does that in public and at home. He screams so his veins pops out, I'm seriously worried. Also he pulls little girls hair and sometimes just hold their hair and scream, whenever I try to ask him to stop, he would turn around and hit me.last night my father took him outside that house with him just for a quick minute, he didn't want to come in anymore and started screaming like a maniac, my father was so embarrassed and came in to tell me that his is worried that he might pull something while screaming and people would think somebody did something to him, and he said I'm never gonna take him with me and that I need to teach him to STOP that.. Please help me!

Answer 1

my nephew used to hit and pull hair when anybody would pick him up. Everytime he did it we'd tell him "don't hit/pull on whoever.. love them" and gave him a hug and said "hug like this" after a little while he stopped. As for the screaming thing you might have to ask a professional. I've never seen a child or heard a child do that so badly, I should say.

Answer 2

Um, he's a toddler. He should grow out of the tantrum phase into full maturity in about 30 years. Boys are a little slow.

In the meantime, you should Tell him, rather than Asking him to stop. Tell him in a very angry and stern way, then remove him from where the people are- try his room and close the door.

Babies scream because they don't know what else to say. It's how we react when they do scream that makes all the difference in how long they continue acting out like that.

Answer 3

Ok, first of all you need to not show him any attention when he screams. If you tell him to stop and he hits you, grab him by the hand and make him sit somewhere and call it the 'naughty spot' and tell him that he can't move until you tell him. I know he's 17 months and he's young, but it's never too early to start disciplining your child. If he screams tell him that he will go to the naughty spot if he carries on.

The naughty spot will be in like a corner somewhere, where you can see him, where he CANNOT watch tv or play with anything, and you won't speak to him until you say that he can come off of the naughty spot. After you tell him to get off of it, talk to him and tell him why you put him on there, tell him what he did wrong and if he does it again, he'll go back there.

It's an excellent way of disciplining a child, because he'll soon realise that the naughty spot isn't good. It's a mental way of disciplining your son.

Answer 4

Sounds like a smart little boy who has buffaloed all the adults he comes in contact with. Isolation and ignoring these tantrums will generally stop this behavior in fairly quick order...but you have to be consistent in your discipline. Screaming at him, hitting him, or rewarding him to stop the tantrum will simply enforce the bad behavior.

If after a week or so and the behavior continues - then take him to a doctor and get a referral to a child psychologist who can evaluate him for autism. Probably not that - probably just another smart brat.

Answer 5

Pull his hair back. Sounds harsh but he's gotta learn that it hurts and it's not okay. Next time he hits you, smack him back. (Of course not hard but any little tap to a baby is going to make him feel like he's been murdered). And as for the screaming- if he's just throwing a fit I'd put him in a pack n' play with no toys in a room where you can shut the door and he can scream away. These tactics worked for me and I have a wonderful almost 7 year old now and a 14 month old and they're very well behaved and share nicely now. I know they all seem very harsh but sometimes you've gotta be harsh and you want to cry when your kid does. Good luck.

Answer 6

This is nothing more than tantrums. A good hard smack across the butt will stop it.
My nephew use to do the same thing with his mom anytime she tried to make him do anything he didn't want to do, he would also make his self throw up. He knew she would give in if he behaved like that, and she always did. I tried to tell he what he was doing but she didn't listen until I watched him one day and he tried that with me and I busted his little butt. After that, anytime I told him to do something he did it, without the tantrums. She was amazed!
Kids are a lot smarter than people give them credit for. They know what they are doing and what does and doesn't work.
You don't ask a 17mo old child to stop, you demand it! Why would he stop? Its getting him what he wants. One or two little smacks on the rear when hes doing this stuff, and he will quit this behavior. However, you have to do it when he's doing it and not give in to him or be worried about what people will say.
Ask your dad what he would do if he was his kid, I bet you get the same answer! Good Luck!

Answer 7

Welcome to the "terrible twos". Now you know how it got it's name. First of all if you don't have one, invest in a child gate. Put it up in the doorway to his bedroom. When he is at home and starts his screaming fits put him in his room, tell him that when he can behave appropriately he can come out of his room, then grab a pair of headphones and let the screaming go on. Part of the reasons he does it is for attention, remove the attention and he will have no reason to scream. Plus you will also be letting him know that his screaming doesn't mean he will get his way. It puts YOU in control, rather than him. If he acts like this out in public REFUSE to take him with you. If you have to, get a babysitter but do NOT take him even to the grocery store for a quart of milk. Believe me they learn quickly that behaving properly allows them much more than not.

Answer 8

Stop reacting to it.

You need to be firm with him and tell him he is not allowed to act like that. Keep an eye on him around other kids and if he puts a hand on them, you need to stop it. Don't ASK him to do it, TELL him firmly "You are NOT allowed to hurt anyone!", pick him up and remove him from the child but first make him say he is sorry to the other child. Do not EVER accept him hitting you. You can punish him by distancing yourself from him by using a naughty or time out chair or space. You are right there, but he has to remain in the space. Put him back in it a million times if you have to, but be consistent and firm.

He's got you trained to react to his screaming. Tell him he is NOT allowed to scream and put him in his naughty chair, or naughty place and keep doing it until he gets the message. Make sure you tell him that his behavior is not acceptable and why its not. Be firm but don't yell at him.

You are going to have to do this repeatedly until he matures enough to "get it". Ask his doctor for some information on behavior in children this age. While he sound perfectly normal, this is were you need to stop him in his tracks with this kind of acting out. Do it now or he will completely control you in a year.

Answer 9

Start by talking tio him and telling him NO! that is not good behaviour, he is going thruogh the terrible two's early it sounds like and this is the age where they are going to challenge the parent and you have to let them know that you are in control and not him. After telling him no, resraining him, giving him timeout or removing him from the store or whatever, and when he calms down, make sure you hug him and tell him you love him. Encourage all good behaviours! Ignore the bad ones as much as you can but don't let him get away with hitting you or anyone else. Good luck!

Answer 10

Welcome to the wild wacky world of tantrums! My son had them all the time. The best thing you can do is make sure he is in a safe place and let the tantrum ride. It's hell to watch, but he will calm himself down and then you two can talk about it. They grow out of it, so just hold on, you'll get through it. OH! Make sure he knows not to hit or hurt other family members and people. You can tell him when he's calm that it hurts our bodies to hit and pull hair. Just a suggestion.