I've had a confusing relationship with my boyfriend. I cheated on him at the early stages of our relationship with my previous boyfriend of 3 years. I knew it was the worst mistake, I learned from it, and have moved forward.
9 months later, he still can't get over it. He's still getting moments where he tells me off and can't take it. He's extremely stressed about it some days.
He talks about going out separate ways, but doesn't want to lose contact with me. So, we break up, get back together, break up, get back together... all on the account that he loves me one moment, then is so hurt by me the next.
I want him to be happy. But I'm losing sleep over this too. Do I stick around and wait for him, or go and force him to let himself be?
2006-10-01 00:07:11 · 13 answers · asked by apple_girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is a hard decision to make and sometimes he has to vent. In my personal opinion if after nine months he is still hung up on this then he might not ever be able to get over it. You need to sit down with him and tell him to get whatever it is off his chest and either bury it or let you go for good. You can't go on like this you made a mistake. We all do it. You can't have every mistake held over head forever or you can never go on. I wish you the best of luck in this and do what is best for you.
2006-10-01 00:13:35 · answer #1 · answered by Dcham81 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is hard to stay in a relationship after one of the partners cheats.The one cheated on wonders where you are,who you are seeing and some people just can not deal with a partner that has cheated.He may love you,but you created a toxic relationship that was doomed since you slept with your ex.Things are not going to improve and you 2 will end up hating each other.Do you want to spend part of your life in a relationship that is going to end(and believe me it will end)?This is seen by the breaking up and making up you descibed.Can you live the next 30 or so years with that type of relationship?? It would be a waste of time and we are only given a short amount of time on this earth.
2006-10-01 00:17:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would it be better to try to fix the fallen petals of rose or go for a fresh one?
Life never gives you second chance move on and importantly learn from the lesson.
You need to sit with him and ask him what is it that you can do to make him forgive you and forget the incident
2006-10-01 00:25:32 · answer #3 · answered by alexlmon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love ain't easy, but it seems like he is really stressed by this... And since this has been going on for so long, it doesn't seem like he is getting over it! This relationship might not have a future if you 2 don't sit down and talk about this! Maybe you 2 are better off apart!
2006-10-01 00:20:01 · answer #4 · answered by Angelina 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Once you betray someones trust its nearly impossible to rebuild it. I hope you have learned a valuable lesson here. Unfortunately you are going to have to break it off with this poor fellow. He has been through enough emotional distress. Having you around is a constant reminder of pain to him.
2006-10-01 00:47:45 · answer #5 · answered by sshazzam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask the question if he will ever be able to trust you again and if it is possible that you could make things work? You need to know because, even if there was early altercation, you need to move on, be it with or without him.
2006-10-01 00:11:11 · answer #6 · answered by rob e 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he wont change...and you will never change him....in my experience, if this is still an issue almost a year later....it will always be the issue...and it would not surprise me if he was making such a big deal about what you did, because he payed you back, and you dont know about it...his own guilt. dont waste your time girl, it isnt worth it...he either forgives you or not...and if he did, he wouldnt still be talking about it...find someone special....he will just bring you down!
2006-10-01 00:13:55 · answer #7 · answered by sexyfairy4u79 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he is older than about 22 or 23, forget it - he won't. Stay away from the other ex too.
2006-10-01 00:11:54 · answer #8 · answered by Sanmigsean 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that was a bad mistake now hell never trust you
so if he hasn't gotten over it he probably never will you should go your separate ways cause he's stressing you and you're stressing him and its bad for you two
2006-10-01 00:11:27 · answer #9 · answered by mystique 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is up to you! You created the problem!
2006-10-01 00:10:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋