we have been together for 8 months. i saw us together for a long time. i am worried there was never really a connection we were just both infatuated with each other. I am wondering if we are bored with each other. we talk but not about important things (serious conversations r a no no...why). I feel like we are polite roomates sometimes other times i feel like the luckiest woman alive. Not boyfriend and girlfriend or just a different kind of relationship. what? why? we argue about who loves the other more, he says he will keep me around for as long as I'll have him he never wants to lose me, sometimes i don't know about his sincerity because of his tone. Maybe he just feels like a goober when he says it or something. He is super masculine i love that about him. we r both super cuddly and always annoy each other with insecurity questions. we crack each other up and play constant pranks on each other. we have never fought ever???bad good??? we talk it all out and its fixed. simple. ????
2006-09-30 23:06:20 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Perhaps your expectations about what is a successful relationship are unrealistic.
It does sound a bit like you are overthinking. Chill. All relationships aren't dizzy, dancing, aviance days and nights, you know.
Enjoy what you have and quit borrowing trouble where it doesn't exist.
2006-09-30 23:11:24 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
RUNNNN!!!!! LOL...well, there are some important information you didn't give. Information I feel makes the world of difference.
1-how old are you two? anyone under 25 should not be in a serious relationship
2-do you two live together? you two should not live together until you are serious about marriage.
3-do you two love eachothers family like your own? that is important if you have a close family it does matter
4-do you have a supportive network, ie family friends etc? some people often act totally different around others than they do alone with you. those that do often have issues.
5-most relationships are tested around other people do you two network with friends together?
the two of you should be able to talk about any subject at length. If you two were stuck in a car for 8 hours driving with no radio could you two hold a conversation the entire time. that is important.
those are the questions you need to ask yourself before thinking about long term relationships. before anyone can share their life with anyone they need to know who they are first. that usually means being be yourself for a period of time or at least not in a serious relationship but dating to explore your options to see how you as an indivisual feel around different people. If you want to say you have fallen in love you still have to apply the above b/c even a person you fall in love with can be the wrong person if the above questions don't apply.
Good luck!!!
2006-10-01 06:09:54 · answer #2 · answered by sslender9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋