My friend tell me that i should start with a fresh girl meaning no kids that i shouldn t have a girlfriend with a lot of kids and my other friend say that girl might want you take care of there kids that you didn t made? I like two girl at my job the girl that have 5 kids she really like me and the other don t have no kids like me do but she have a boyfriend but she still like me what should i do?
2006-09-30 23:05:50 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
from a single mother of four....it depends on the woman and her actions. does she complain alot about having to raise her kids, about how she needs more help, about how she can't afford her life, or about how the father of the kids never does what he's suppose to. these are signals that she is very tired, and needy. unfortunatly that's TOUGH CRAP for her. because she needs to go over and beyong the call of duty to take care of those kids on her own. a man is to be her mate, her partner and yes eventually if things get serious this guy will end being a co parent to her children. but the basis of the relationship should be companionship NOT salvation from a crazy life with a bunch of kids.
i am a single mother of FOUR. i had these kids because i could have them, because i knew what i was doing and i know how to raise them. i know how to support them, take care of them and also get help from family and their father when i need a break. so when and if i'm ready to date again i wont be looking for a sugar daddy or a babysitter for me and my kids. i just want a loving man who will respect me and my children. GOOD LUCK, lissette
2006-09-30 23:13:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well being with someone who has kids isnt to smart of an idea unless you are really looking for something long term. she might be looking for a father for those kids. by being with their mother you will be intruduced to the children and the children might even grow to love you and become attached to you, In which case if you leave because things dont work out the kids will be hurt in the process too. so that is something you really do need to think about. expcially if their father is still in the picture just not around because there will most likely end up being problems.but you need to remember even if it does work out with 5 children she might not be looking to have more so if you want children of your own you would have to find someone else. But a girl with a bofriend isnt much better because if she is willing to either cheat on her bf or leave him for someone "better" then there is alway a chance that she will do the same to you if you get together.
2006-10-01 06:21:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what u should be asking urself is are u ready to be a parent to 5kids? cos if ur gonna live with someone u have to appreciate that so many kids take up a lot of time and need a lot of attention.
Its not an easy job and u have to seriously consider this as its not fair on the kids if they have men coming and going
Perhaps u could spend the day with her and the kids to get an idea of what it is really like to parent them,
2006-10-01 06:10:35 · answer #3 · answered by livachic2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get a little older without getting tangled up for awhile. This is not a good time for you. People in their 20's certainly are glad they didn't marry the one they had in mind in their teens. And people in their 30's are very glad they didn't wind up with the person they had in mind in their 20's. It is like a hill. The older you get the higher up the hill you get. The higher you get, the better your perspective. Right now is not a good time for you to entangle yourself with any of these gals. Of course the woman with kids wants a husband. Of course she will like you very much. She's not just looking at grabbing a husband, but grabbing a father and grabbing a provider. And obviously, just because a girl likes you doesn't mean you love her. You may just be thrilled with the attention. Anyone would be, but that is not the basis for love. It is the basis for lust. We desire our needs to be met; we desire to be loved; we desire to be happy; we desire orgasms. It is all about ME, I. Love is about the other person. When two people love, they mutually give and take in the relationship; they give and receive love. Many relationships, too many actually, are just a merger between two exploiters trying to suck the life out of their partners, like a pair of vampires. Two needy persons are holding each other responsible for making themselves happy. When they are not happy, the wife withholds sex and the husband goes hunting elsewhere. It always starts off fine, but real love (giving and receiving) is missing.
2006-10-01 06:29:27 · answer #4 · answered by pshdsa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
damn dawg, thats a lot of rugrats.
well hey, you kno the bytch likes to have sex.
if your lookin for someone as a booty call, why not???
BUT if your talkin about a serious relationship... HELL NO.
thats a LOT of baggage. a LOT
sh*t, when i get with a girl that i plan on stayin with, she'll have no kids. IF i'm gonna have kids with anyone i want mine to be the first.
know what i mean?
2006-10-01 06:10:02 · answer #5 · answered by rEf1eX 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would never suggest getting involved with someone that has children from a previous relationship ! I have three children.....I have been in relationships and because of my children .....well....lets just say...........PROBLEM , PROBLEM , PROBLEM !!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-01 11:41:23 · answer #6 · answered by lilbit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the brady bunch did it.
So if your willing to share your love,and your happy together
why not?
2006-10-01 06:07:58 · answer #7 · answered by GOOCH 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋