my gf is vert tight and i have hardly had sex with her as it really hurts i dont know y she is so tense, i love her but its driving us apart and i feel i am missing out on our physical relationship and i might actually end up cheating if things dont improve cos i cant handle the rejection we have been together for ages please help
2006-09-30 21:30:31 · 35 answers · asked by johnny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think if you re read your question it might indicate why the poor girl is so tense...have you tried being a bit patient? Love her, be gentle with her, don;t pressurize her and think yourself lucky that she doesn;t have one the size of a bucket...also if she is a bit dry as well as tight try a lubricant. This girl deserves love and kindness and someone to reassure her that actually sex isn't everything. She isn't rejecting you, she is obviously tense cos she feels pressured.
2006-10-01 01:20:51 · answer #1 · answered by widow_purple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is her hymen completly broken? if it isn't which is possible in really tight girls this could cause a lot of pain for her. Try lube that stuff works wonders, use one finger to stretch her a little bit and than try but very slowly try two. Make sure you are gentle with your petting if your rough with her this might cause her to become tense and tighten up even more. Discuss this with her ask her what she would like you to do to help her become more into love making. There is also a disorder that isn't common that could cause her pain during intersourse. Don't cheat is my last words to you that's shitty she'd be worth frustration cause you love her.
2006-09-30 21:38:59 · answer #2 · answered by Redhead with love 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try using a lubricant , that will help. and also concentrate more on the foreplay so she is much more relaxed and responsive. use a vibrator before you yourself insert yourself inside her, most of all get her relaxed, this has become a mental issue for you both now, and you are both thinking far to much about what is wrong or can go wrong rather than concentrating on fixing the problem. these things take a bit of time but set a nice atmosphere , a relaxing one and as I say lots of foreplay and things will improve, if not then a visit to the Dr may be in order for both your sakes.
2006-09-30 21:35:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You CANNOT force this sort of thing. If your only thought is "I should cheat" then your not ready to be in this relationship. Your ridiculous. You think she isn't suffering? You are NOT The only one with needs! Do you have any idea that once relaxed, your girlfriend will also relax "THERE" too and the right mix of secretions and desire and you will be in heaven. However, if you make it tense, you will only cause it to be WORSE. And then, you might cheat, but some other guy will get her to relax enough to "go to heaven" with her and you will have a nothing more than meaningless relationship. And lost the girl.
2006-09-30 21:58:02 · answer #4 · answered by Princess 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your g/f is so tense with sex she obviously is feeling a little uneasy about something. This doesnt mean uneasy about you. If you are having an issue about her being so tight she will since this and be even more tense about having sex because she know you will be thinking about it.
Why dont you trying to have some fun with her. Sex isnt supposed to be serious is supposed to be fun.Try getting some things to help lossen her up and to relax, if you go to places like ann summers you can by lotions and dips you can pour on to her and lick off that taste really good, and they have some for her to lick off you to. Play games lots of foreplay be gentle with her to start with make sure you have got her relaxed before you actually enter her. By doing some of these things might help her to relax and for you to relax to. Remember sex is fun not serious play around abit with each other.
Have fun
2006-09-30 22:11:50 · answer #5 · answered by Secretguk 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
not sure of an answer for that one apart from using a lubricant but wotever happens please don`t cheat on her as that will destroy her and make the situation a thousand times worse. communication is the key thing i think. i think if she`s tense then pamper her and tell her not to worry. don`t try having sex wiv her. just keep doing that and after a few days she might start relaxing a bit
2006-10-01 01:01:59 · answer #6 · answered by graham f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is she just tight coz of problem between you?you really need to sit and talk about your relationship? sometimes after a while people do drift apart and they can use this problem as an exscuse to not have sex, if you both still feel the same about each other talk it through if she really does have a tight problem encorouge her to see a doc, not just moan on about getting no sex, be thoughtfull about it she will think of you as a nicer person if you help rather than moan.
2006-09-30 21:35:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your option is to cheat on her because you can't stick it in, then maybe thats why God put a tight girl in front of you to mess with you. You are an ***. Break up with her. Obviously you don't know that a woman can tighten up down there and lock you out. I bet that is what she is doing because you sound like a real jerk. Smarten up. Women can have babies and I doubt your member is anywhere near the size of a babies head.
2006-09-30 21:36:32 · answer #8 · answered by l'il mama 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
first of all your anxiety may be making her more nervous thus it ends up not being a comfortable experience for her.. she may have issues from the past, she may not be as ready for the sexual encounter as you are.. you may need to slow down, try gentle foreplay and caressing first.. you could both seek advice from GP.. but if she is having problems and you are getting restless, this will only make the tension worse.. sex is a tiny part of a fulling relationship..
2006-09-30 21:35:01 · answer #9 · answered by dianafpacker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should reevaluate ur relationship like is sex really that important to u it might but to her it might not i think u should really talk to her and if u just can't wait then break up with her and u move on so she can to cheating is most definitely not the answer good luck
2006-09-30 21:43:58 · answer #10 · answered by murkymom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋