ok so heres the deal. i asked out my friend a year ago and she said no. she wanted to remain friends. i asked her this 5 days after she got out of a serious relationship. we have hung out since then. we go to movies, dinner, and picnics alone together. she NEVER calls me to do these things i always have to. we have long hugs and i kiss her on the cheek. woould it be a good idea to ask her out again or maybe kiss her next time we hang out? the reasonn is i dont hang out with my other girl friends liek i do with her. its like we date without calling each other every night or having sex like couples do so thats why im confused. so i wanna know where i go from here. being her friend knowing nothing will happen is extremely hard for me to deal with.
2006-09-30 21:23:46 · 15 answers · asked by cronaldo17 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She's not into you. If she wanted more then you would know it. She likes your attention.. but, doesn't want a realationship.
2006-09-30 21:26:04 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a girl sees you as a friend it is almost impossible to get her to see you as a lover. Notice I said ALMOST impossible. It can be done, but it is not likely in your case because you are doing every thing wrong. You asked her out too soon after she broke up with her boyfriend. Most girls need a little space and time after a break up. Your chance with her at that time were zero. Now you give her hugs and little pecks on the cheeks which only reinforces the thought in her mind that you are just a friend. The only way you are going to break out of this is to take drastic measures. Call her less...much less. Start hanging out with other girls...lots of other girl. When you do talk to her make it clear that you would like to see her but that your love life has really gotten busy. My best advise is don't get hung up on one girl. Play the field. You'll know when you meet the right one and so will she.
2006-10-01 04:47:21 · answer #2 · answered by astral 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is just wanting to be friends then you need to get a way from her. As long as you have a women that you are seen with all the time the other women look at it as you belong to her. Meaning you can't date anyone else.
So just stop making contact. Don't avoid her but don't encourage it at all. If she wants to be with you (or maybe just likes your money like most women) she will call you. That is when you tell her that you don't think you can be close friends anymore. Let her know you need more from her or you want to slow things down and You are willing to stay friends but just not as close because it is holding you back from dating others.
She will get the point and either come after you after a few days or a week or two or she will just fade away. Either is a good thing. You win either way.
2006-10-01 09:20:52 · answer #3 · answered by Don K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since yall are such good friends you should talk to her about it. It seems like yall already go on dates. Once you talk to her and see if she has any feelings it will help out the situation alot. If shes still only interested in being friends respect that and move on from it. You just need to make a move. Maybe kiss her or be flirty and see how she responds. If shes interested shes probably waiting on you to take the net step. But she could just really think of you as a friend and enjoys your company because you really pay attention to her and respect her. But thats mainly because you like her as more than a friend and are always trying to impress her or make her feel important. But youll never know until you do something about it. Lifes too short, tell her how you feel.
2006-10-01 04:34:02 · answer #4 · answered by amtech33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me like she doesn't want a relationship but she enjoys her time around you. Maybe you should casually mention that you have feelings for her. If she cringes, then just give her some space. Find someone else to spend time with for awhile. But don't try to hide that fact from her. If she really wants you to herself she'll call. But if she doesn't then just accept it. I've been down that road, and there is nobody else who is going to help you but yourself. Good luck.
2006-10-01 04:31:57 · answer #5 · answered by RIDLEY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u don't want to date her under these circumstances, you would get her on the rebound and it will back fire down the road. just be there for her, do stuff to get her to laugh it will help her get over the break up. she needs a friend rt now. if its going to happen then down the road she will see what a good guy u r.
DON'T PUSH IT she will not respect u. be a gentleman and show her u can be there for her, and care for her needs. other wise it looks you r only concerned about ur needs.
2006-10-01 04:44:25 · answer #6 · answered by jesse james 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah. it's always hard to tell if she's ready to take that step with you. mayb she's not ready for a serious relationship and likes it if the two of you just hang out, and the reason that she's not calling you is because she knows you like her. i guess the next step for you is to tell her how you feel without making it seem like you're obsessed with her, and show her how much you like her.
2006-10-01 04:29:05 · answer #7 · answered by kristyb872001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel otherwise its gonna do you in! She probably just wants to remain friends after finishing from serious relationship as she doesnt want to commit again just yet and wants her own space. But tell her now!
2006-10-01 04:32:40 · answer #8 · answered by Darren G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say that if she kisses, hugs, and hangs out with you alot then just go for it and next time you guys go to hang out just kiss her....i think she'll get the picture after that
2006-10-01 04:32:57 · answer #9 · answered by muthafaka8o8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then it's time to cut the cord and move on there is some one out there for you get out there and find her . well go . are you still here find your new love partner who will love you every day
2006-10-01 04:28:26 · answer #10 · answered by dalecollins64 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Queen to C4
2006-10-01 04:25:05 · answer #11 · answered by Chris O 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋