how do u get over a break up.... when u were not even seeing each other....?

Question

we were not even going around... now hes gone for studies... and im here crying with his thoughts... i tried gettin in contact.... but it doesnt seem like he got what i was trynna say... i like him alot... but i dont see any chance of telling him as since hes gone to london for studies he doesnt have time...or is purposely torturing me like this...

im finding it difficlut forgetting him cuz the last two months wen he was here .... we were sooo close (frnds) i fell for him...

Answer 1

the best way to do this is really tell him how u feel dont try to say o i really like u tell him how much u care about him and how u are crying with his thoughts if he likes u like that he will come around but if not just move on i am in the same situation im in the military stationed far away from someone who i dont think even thinks about me anymore just cheer up and smile i wish u the best :D

Answer 2

Here's an answer I gave just a few mins ago to a girl that had a similiar issue. The guidelines still hold true:

"First off, sorry you have to go through this. It may not seem like it now, but in a few months you'll be looking back and you'll be glad that this guy is out of your life. Now to me "cheating" only occurs when both parties have sat down, talked about expectations, and both AGREED not to date other people. So many misunderstandings can be avoided if more people would just do that. When I date a woman I always assume I'm not the only guy. But hey, that's just me.

I know u r hurting, but in a way u should be happy. If this guy cheated on you then he has shown you his character. Don't let your feelings for him cloud your judgment. In fact, u should be very proud of urself for dumping his *** for cheating on you. When I tell a woman we are only seeing each other and we both agree to it, I never see anyone else. I've caught more than one g/f in bed with another man and I used to get hurt and mad.

But I've actually conditioned myself to smile when that happens because right then and there I know this person is NOT the right one for me.

I know it's tough that u r seeing him everywhere. But I want you to do the following to help you get over him:

1) Get rid of everything that reminds you of him. Music, pictures, clothes, everything.

2) Stay very busy. Whether it's with school stuff, hanging out with friends, and going out a lot, working out, doing hobbies, etc. Keep ur mind occupied. This will help you let nature take it's course. Time is best healer.

3) Meet other guys. It won't be easy, but honestly, if he's already found someone else, then so should you. He's moved on and you should do him the same favor.

4) When you see him be polite, nice, but also be indifferent. Don't LET HIM SEE YOU SWEAT. When you see him, just act like it's no big deal. Though you may not feel like that now, I promise you by next year you WILL look back and you will think it was silly of you to feel this way. And that's OK. It's a very huma experience.

The biggest thing you can do is move on and continue on with your life. Life is way too short. When you wake up in the morning start thinking about and focusing on the great friends you have, the kick *** family that you have, you have your health, and focus on the good things in life. Chalk this up to a learning experience because I guarantee it, this will not be the only time u will have ur heart broken. I've had mine broken dozens of times and looking back I'm glad I did. It's made me the man I am today.

So keep ur head up high and realize this is just another stepping stone to becoming the woman that ur going to be.

Luv ya,

Rod

p.s. I love the idea of pampering yourself. Get a full set done, get your hair done, and if u can swing it..get a full one hour massage. It wont' cure ur pain but it sure does help! :P"

Answer 3

first of all it wasnt even a break up cuz u werent going out. second of all he'll probably come back and still want you. are you guyz still talkin on the fone, or onaim, or myspace, or email. i know how you feel to lose somebody that you were close to, i been there many times but sooner or later you'll find the right person like i did. just remember your not alone alot of people have to go through this so dont be afraid or ashamed to share your feelings with other people because there are many people in this world who are going through or have gone through the same oredeal that you have been through

Answer 4

Vague relationship, like you didnt know where you stand anyway. Was it a break up? Did he say, Let's breakup? Sounds like one-sided love...something that you sought and was not fulfilled. If he gone on and decided to forget you then you may just do the same eventually.
It takes a while to get over lost dreams or hopes.

Answer 5

Keep yourself very busy. Journalize all your feelings to yourself, let yourself cry if you feel like it. Write him some letters about your feelings without mailing them, and keep them in your journal.

Write about what you both did in the last two months. Remember things that were said and how you felt when they were said. Remember this also, he didn't make any promises and you didn't ask.

University-life can be very very busy, especially in the beginning of the year.

Take some time for yourself and ask yourself loads of serious questions.

Answer 6

I know it hurts, believe me, but it is better you get over him now then keep hurting, wondering
what is happening..Do things you like to do, and remember the time you were together
was a time that brought happiness....Where he
is now, and where you are, so far apart, that will only bring sadness..Remember good times, and move on..You have too!!

Answer 7

well i agree with many points of the answer i read before i started to answer this question....one thing to get rid of all the things that remind you of him....another is stay busy with things you like to do and other friends....a long distant relationship does not hardly ever work...he is far away and yes he is going to be busy over there...the thing is you keep yourself busy and put him out of your mind...this of course will take time...you should of tried to keep your feelings just on the friend level if you knew he was leaving...but now you just have to bare the pain and go on with your life....try to meet new friends and go out and live your life...do not keep trying to reach him if he does not get back to you...just move on.....
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Answer 8

now, if u feel dat he is deliberately torturing u, then forget him & move on. there is no point being stuck to a guy who doesn't really care bout you.
be cool & just chill. life will find you better options!

Answer 9

Grasshopper, when you fall off a horse you get back up and ride again even if it's a different horse!

Answer 10

Seems to me that he is not worth you love and attention, and i would suggest for you to forget him. Don't waste your time on a person that is doing this to you.