Anyone ever been adopted by their grandparents? If so, Have you noticed your raised very strict, almost to strict, that it makes you feel like you can't do anything right, cause what you do is not good enough for your adopted mother? I was a result of a rape, adoped by my grandparents..If anyone has been adopted and feel so alone, and really not
wanted? I would love to have some feed back
please..Thank you..Have you felt you are imprisoned in inviable bars?
2006-09-30 20:39:51 · 7 answers · asked by shea_harriet 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I've seen 2 instances where kids (my cousins) were adopted by grandparents. I think they are strict on them because they don't want them making the same mistakes their parents made. I am NOT saying your mom made a mistake. Just giving my opinion about this based on what I've seen in my family.
Another person said he (or she?) was raised in a strict home, a lot of people are. You don't have to be adopted to be raised by strict rules.
2006-09-30 20:50:55 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry about your situation.
Your grandparents are not extra strict with you. I am sure they are like that with their children too. They just come from a different time-frame and have a different set of mentality.
You cant blame them for being like that. They didnt come from a time of nightclubs, internet, parties, etc. Strictness means disciplines and disciplines means they just want you to be someone better.
It really depends on how you look at it but remember that there is always two sides to a coin.
2006-10-01 04:21:25 · answer #2 · answered by tanpanjang 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was adopted in by aunt, i think its better to still have some of your roots than none at all ,yes at times you feel badly done to but think of the children that are with strangers all alone,
all children find that they are restricted at some point ,some parents restrict them more its all part of growing up & depends on the parents moral values,
i think you will come out a better person for it all with values &morals,
at times you will think all the world is against you but it isnot & it does not last forever,
2006-10-01 03:51:29 · answer #3 · answered by quasar 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on your environment. There are countries where sisters will adopt there brother's children (or other family members) as their own and they are treated as such. My brother (adopted) was a result of a rape but he was raised as my brother and I don't see him as anyone but my brother.
2006-10-01 03:47:28 · answer #4 · answered by simvils 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear about your situation
i was not adopted but i have a friend who was.
Let me ask you this, maybe it is your perception that you are not as loved as much as those who are not adopted.
I grew up in a strict environment so its not only those who are adopted.
Maybe you should be grateful your grandparents cared enough to take you in?
Just a thought
2006-10-01 03:44:48 · answer #5 · answered by d2pain 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
am really sorry you feel this way. I wouldn't try to be in your shoes only to ask you to strong, think positive, focus on the stuff you do well. take care of your body, health, study hard.
Also talk to someone, its sometimes nice just to talk to someone, they won't provide answers but they sure can be there for you when u feel low. I see 'luv animals' asks you to get intouch. Please take up that offer and see how it works. Take care.
2006-10-01 04:51:24 · answer #6 · answered by jackbauer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no i am not adopted but i would love to talk to and get you though whatever your going though i would like to help and talk i'm serios
2006-10-01 03:47:04 · answer #7 · answered by Yeah,, 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋