i am in a long distance relationship, have a stunning gf who does like to party she gets chatted up all the time, she tells me not to worry that she is safe and wouldnt do anything or kiss anyone or go with anyone, but i cant help worrying cos i love her what should i do??
2006-09-30 20:38:36 · 30 answers · asked by johnny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She has reassured you and now you have to just trust her. Long distance relationships can work out if both parties are willing to work. If you both love each other, then don't worry so much. If you start questioning her every move, then you'll irritate her and that will drive her away. Just relax and remember that you ought to trust her. Afterall, she's having to trust you not to be unfaithful with this long distance between you too!
2006-09-30 20:43:24 · answer #1 · answered by diamante_sheeny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya know, you could be in a not long distance relationship & still have the same problem. Worry about what she Doesn't tell you. Tell her how much you love her & how much you worry. Not about trusting her, but trusting the guys she's around. Some guys won't take "I've got a boyfriend" for an answer. They may still try to pursue her, which could cause her problems as well
2006-10-01 03:47:04 · answer #2 · answered by yobaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.... stunning gf, goes clubbing, gets chatted up -- these are clues from your own description from where it seems that its a thing to be worried about.
but there is a possibility she's telling truth.
still, the only person who could give you the best answer is you yourself. in long distance relations - lot of times you know the right answer but you don't want to listen to yourself. most of the times you are running from truth cause of the virtual part of the relation.
but trust me, in case u feel like testing her ------- do it. does not matter how hard it is on you - does not matter how much you love her. just test her. cause when she would stab you in ur back(i hope thats not the case) it will pain way more than you doing it urself.
2006-10-01 03:56:10 · answer #3 · answered by i don know y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound very insecure, if she has told you that she won't cheat behind your back then you must take her word for it or in the end it could cost you your relationship, so you have to push all your feelings aside and trust her, no relationship can last if there is no trust. Ring her tell her that you love her, try arrange time off work to surprise her at home, occasional send her flowers and gifts but not all the time as she will be come suspicious of your motives. Be cool and everything will be fine and trust your girlfriend.
2006-10-01 05:42:47 · answer #4 · answered by GaryUKB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in the very same situation. actually living in another country, which at times was really really difficult. we both got chatted up frequently, but if you are truly in love this shouldn't be an issue,
it's so easy to get paranoid about the other in a long distance relationship as you can't see their facial expressions when ur on the phone!!one piece of advice i will give you is to not go on to her about it as you most certainly will drive her away in the end. i know i nearly did! enjoy it for what it is don't sit at home festering about it, get out and enjoy yourself too! long distance relationships do work. i have been with my partner nearly 9 years and married for 3 of them. good luck!!
2006-10-01 04:08:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but there's not really much you can do. You can either trust her or not. If it's too far, you have no real way of knowing, unless there's someone you know who lives there and is a good enough friend to do some digging. That's one reason long distance relationships don't work. But if it's meant to be, it will be. If not, then hey, you just have to move on.
2006-10-01 03:42:33 · answer #6 · answered by t.larae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do really is trust her, and follow the maxim "innocent til proven guilty". A relationship is all about trust, and although in your situation it must be very difficult, you just have believe in her. One thing though, is there a genuine potential future if you're miles apart like that? Have either of you thought about how you could take this relationship to the next level (and the same city) should you want to? Would be worth answering that one first and foremost.
2006-10-01 07:09:53 · answer #7 · answered by Quilps 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
while in a long distance relationship you have to trust one another otherwise how in the world would you make it? really you don't have a choice you trust each other, do right by each other and stay together or you end it and be with someone who lives a lot closer
2006-10-01 03:42:23 · answer #8 · answered by chevy*gurl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very difficult to be away from someone you love and I also understand your insecurity. But, has she ever given you a reason not to trust her? If not, then you have nothing to worry about. Take comfort in the fact that she loves you and is faithful to you. Best of luck.
2006-10-01 03:51:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust her, and try to live closer if you can, so you can be with one another more..It is hard having a long distant relationship and expect the other one not to notice others..It is just natural for her to be a woman, but if she tells you all is OK, believe her..
2006-10-01 03:44:33 · answer #10 · answered by shea_harriet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋