my daughter is 4 months. she cries mostly all day. anyone have secrets or tricks that will calm her?

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HELP!

Answer 1

My son now a year old would calm down when I put music on and sang to him. He also loves his swing and BARNEY and ELMO. You could also ask your doctor about your baby girls milk.My son screamed so bad I thought that he had a broken bone or something.His Dr. put him on alimentum formula. (costly) But after the stomach X-ray and test , we finally got a diagnosis of acid reflux . He's doing much better now. Good Luck it'll get better.

Answer 2

Definitely have her seen by a pediatrician. The doctor can rule out any infections the baby might have, like an ear infection. The next thing you want to look at is the baby's formula. Has she cried like this for quite some time or is it something "new"? It could simply be colic. Have you tried Mylicon drops to see if she's crying because of a gassy tummy? Is she constipated? Are you stressed or upset? Sometimes babies can pick up on a parent's emotional state and react to it. Hope she feels better soon. :)

Answer 3

Your first step should be a checkup with the pediatrician to see if there is a medical reason to explain the crying. Babies cry for a reason- even if we adults don't understand or agree with it. She may have colic, her formula may not agree with her, or she may simply be an anxious baby. If you are a new mom, you may be tense and nervous about caring for her. She will pick up on this and cry. Also, if she feels like she is alone, especially while she is awake, she is more likely to cry. Babies seem to know instinctively that they are helpless, and if there isn't somebody trustworthy close by they will cry.
When my children were still small, I used to carry them in a snuggly carrier. They would often sleep, while I went about my business. If I were busy in the kitchen, I'd put them in a swing where they could still see me. If they weren't in the swing, they were in the infant seat. We put the infant seat on a chair or on the table while we ate our meals, so they were included in meals with the family. Until they were of crawling age, I tended to have them close by me, or by dad. I discovered they did not cry nearly so often, or so much.
I am not of the school that agrees to just let a baby lay and cry. I think it is extemely cruel, as the baby depends on you for everything- and all they learn is that you are not dependable if they need help. A baby cries for a reason. Even if you can't figure out what the reason is, or fix the problem immediately, holding them still offers love and comfort. If you were hurt or sick, wouldn't it be more important to you to have somebody at least try to soothe you? Would you like to be just stuck in a bed and left completely alone to suffer? So why would you do that to a baby?
Some other tricks I had to calm an upset baby- a nice warm bath with mom, complete with soft singing, cuddles and massage. Rocking and lullabys. Walks out to see the world, peeking out from the snuggly, and later on the backpack. Warm oil massages. Gentle play to distract and amuse. Rides in the car if possible. Setting the dryer on and sitting in the seat on top- the hum and vibration sometimes do the trick- you can save electricity by using the "air only" cycle if you don't have wet clothes.
Just hold your daughter and try different things. Different things work better on different days- so you'll need to have a fair selection to try. Try to keep yourself calm, talk to her with a sing-song voice, and eventually she'll learn to calm and follow your cues.
Hope some of these ideas will help. Just don't get frustrated- lots of us have been in your shoes, and can promise you it does and will get better.

Answer 4

You poor thing!
Here are some tips i can think of:

Dummy

wrapping and patting to sleep

rocking

put in pram and push back and forth over a bump (like a little bump in floor where the floor covering meets the carpet)
bath and soothing baby massage (you can get inexpensive
lavender baby bath soaps

making sure she has had enough milk

natural colic remedy

a walk in the pram

a drive in the car

checking to see if she is lactose intolerant (try a soy formula - both my kids had soy formula and they are very healthy and tall for their age too)

a break for you eg. get your partner, mum or friend to have your daughter for a while so you can have a break.

put to sleep before she gets overtired otherwise it can be a real quick time before they are overtired and more difficult to get to sleep

check with your doctor too

All the best

Answer 5

I know how difficult it can be to have your baby cry all day long. What worked for me was putting my son in a baby swing. He was happy there for hours at a time. Also, he would quit crying if we went on car rides, for a walk in the stroller, or if I carried him around in a backpack, or when I lightly bounced him on my knee or in my arms. He liked the motion. It made him feel better. Also, he hated being wrapped up in blankets. Everyone said he needed to be wrapped up tightly so he would quit crying, but it would only make him worse. He hated it. He would get hot very easily and that made him more fussy. You'll probably just have to see what works best for your own child. The baby swing was a life saver for me though. You might give it a try.

Answer 6

Take her for a ride, sing to her, give her toys, play the 'peekaboo' game. The game is where you cover your face with the palm of your hands, take a peek at her between your fingers and then boo! WITH A SMILE if you look scary. I'm sure it'll help. It works with most childrens.

Answer 7

have you tried running a vacuum? taking a drive with her in the car? a pacifier? try also to sit down and lay her across your legs on her belly and gently bounce your legs while you rub her back... that worked for my daughter..
have you changed formula or do you bottle feed?
The best thing to do is call her pediatrician.... just to make sure...

Answer 8

It can be hard sometimes. But pick her up and reassure her. Lots of cuddles. A warm bath. Take her outside for a change of scenery. Be patient, it gets better.

Answer 9

Try carrying her in a sling. The motion will sooth her, and the closeness will sooth her.
She will be able to see what sgoing on around her which will help her learn lots.

http://www.hotslings.com

Answer 10

How long has this been going on? Have you spoken to a doctor to rule out ear infections, etc?