I am getting married in 6 days and at first I understood that my family and my friends weren't going to be able to attend the wedding due to the location. But the more i think about it the more pissed i get and hurt. I am fron Ohio and I move to Canada with my fiance (been together for 4 years) It is an 6 hour drive. And I just can't get over the fact that my own parents refuse to drive 6 hours to see their oldest daughter get married but will drive 2 days to go to some freaking church crap or some other event . Who knows .. I am trying ot be okay with it but I just can't shake this feeling of resentment for them. Even my best friends whom I have known since grade school aren't coming. I had to ask my soon to be sister in law to be my maid of honor cause my friends aren't coming to the wedding. I keep thinking back on all the crap I have done for them and never once ask for anything from them and now when I need the the most they can't do it .. Am I allowed to be PISSED at them ???
2006-09-30 20:24:20 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Thanks for the response. Funny how stranger are more supportive then the people I know. And to answer a few questions . Yes my family and friends do like him. They are just lazy people who only think about themselves
2006-09-30 20:40:33 · update #1
You go girl! Yes of course you are entitled to be PISSED! Who wouldn't be?
How much notice did you give them?
Okay...and...I want you to call them and express this to them.
Otherwise you will be at the altar with your hubby to be and in your heart
there will be anger
and resentment
towards all those who aren't there
and you DESERVE to only have
LOVE in your heart on this special day.
Use "I feel" statements.
When you _____, I feel ______ would you please (say what you want).
Lastly, if they aren't big enough to either
A. Show up
or
B. Apologize
You have to find it in your heart to forgive them anyways because after all it's YOUR wedding day and YOU are the only one who can control YOUR feelings.
You can do it! Good luck babe :)
Best answer...anyone...anyone? Bueller?
2006-09-30 20:31:20 · answer #1 · answered by Ponderpink 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi there! If I were you, the situation will really make me **** at them all but hey! Let me show you the other aspect of this whole thing. According to the details you have provided, I am feeling that something fishy is going around you. Let me explain, see, you are saying that your parents are not coming, and your very old friends are not coming too, so there is good chance that you will have a really big surprise on your wedding ^__^
For the time being, don't feel depressed coz hey! It’s your wedding in 6 DAYS!
Let's hope for the best ^__^
God Bless ^__^
2006-09-30 21:28:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-03-27 00:37:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes !! Yu are definitely allowed to be pissed at them .... I feel the same way ..do u want to talk to them about it and get into a drama ...???which I 'm sure it will turn out to be?? Just get married happily ( i know its difficult when yur family isn't there) but focus on your soon to be husband and all the joy and happiness you get and will get from him ... Your family and best friends can sometimes break your hurt more cruelly and painfully than a lover ...seems like yur the only one who rembers all the 'crap' you did for them ....just roll with the blow ....(If it makes u feel better, if u were my buddy I'd be there :) ....even tho i live the other side of the world)
2006-10-01 00:42:46 · answer #4 · answered by localblue10866 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are allowed to be PISSED !!! But, don't let it get you down. Focus on your new life, the one you are starting with your new husband. HE will be your family now and any children that may arise. I had a lot of issues with my own family and friends, I moved to Illinois from Florida. My children never see their Grandmother, unless I go to Florida and she never calls. But regardless, I am happy in my life because I have a husband that loves me and my children !! Be pissed, vent, get it out of your system, then be the happiest, most beautiful bride your husband will ever see !!! I hope you have a lovely wedding, best wishes from Northern Illinois !!!!
2006-09-30 20:29:37 · answer #5 · answered by Michele A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you have the right to be mad. You are their family, their daughter, and they won't come to your wedding. That is pretty messed up. If they can drive 2 days to some church event, they can come to their daughters wedding. You should tell them how you feel. Let them know.
2006-09-30 20:29:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel really hurt knowing that my friends, let alone my parents wouldn't make it to my wedding!!
As much as it hurts, you might want to tell them, just so that you don't have any grudges during your wedding. If you've already done so, and they still refuse, then "F" it! It's your day, you have fun! You get married to the man you love, at least you can depend on him!
Best of luck and Congratulations! I wish you two much love and happiness!
2006-09-30 20:28:40 · answer #7 · answered by marypaz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure that's the only reason they're not coming? Do they support your wedding? Only two members of my family came to my wedding (they drove 10 hours to come), but some didn't come because they didn't support the wedding totally. If they do and they're just too lazy to come, it is certainly understandable why you are mad. I'm sure you feel like you do not think they are taking your life very seriously.
2006-09-30 20:28:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all I feel that you have every right to be pissed off! But, that will not help your attitude on your wedding day, so getting it out now will help alot b4 you say "I do" .Do your parents know him/ do your freinds know him ? i mean like you know him? maybe they dont feel he is right for you? or maybe they are just upset because you moved so far away from them, there are too many things that i dont know personally to understand it all, but just to let you know its okay to be pissed! i would feel the same way exactly!
2006-09-30 20:33:01 · answer #9 · answered by Electric 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are allowed to feel that way...I would feel the same way. I would tell them you feel this way. As far as shaking the feeling just concentrate on the reasons your getting married and the big day. Try to keep your head up.
2006-09-30 20:30:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋