I don't know what to do. My boyfriend, was cheating on me and now dumped me for the same girl. I love him so much, and he says he still loves me. I want to be there when this, "girl" break his heart, but it kills me to see them together. We have remained friends. I don't know if i shuold just go, and leave, and make him figure **** on his own, or if i should, just, stay by his side. I love him more then i love anything else, but God, and because of it i'm torn in two. My heart says stary and my mind says leave. I don't know if i can move on. Please help me. Please!!!
2006-09-30 19:38:34 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am in your exact position. First, are they having any problems? If no, then let go. It's not worth it. it'll take way too long to get them apart. But! if they are having problems, just be a good friend. I know it'll kill you, but it pays off. After three months, mine finally did! I was in the same situation as you, It's just when she left me, she started to get into fights with the other guy all the time, so I stayed, and it killed me to do so, but I was a good friend; it's imperative that you abstain from all duplicity(don't try to break them up) during their hard times; they want someone to blame, and if they even think they see your fingerprints on their problems, youre done for. I wish you all the luck in the world!
2006-09-30 19:43:38 · answer #1 · answered by theshrabster 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One rule you must live by is to don't love anybody more than you love yourself. If this man has taken hold of your affections and your sanity, you should by all means forget about him. Since he dumped you for another girl, plus he claims that he still loves you, he's obviously a player; and you shouldn't let a player like him play your cards for you. You should also listen to your mind before your heart; because the heart is the most deceiving and hurtful part of you, but at least the mind thinks before doing. So, try to forget about him and go on with life. Besides, there are so many other nicer and faithful guys out there.
2006-09-30 19:43:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cheats ONCE he will cheat again.
Can you really stay with a guy that you can't trust?
If you do take him back when he comes around, what will prevent him from making you feel everything your feeling now, Again?
He dumped you. That should be a big clue he doesn't care as much for you, as you do for him.
There are plenty of guys in the world looking for a female to love them more then anything else, and they will treat you way better then this guy your heart broken over.
Move on, he will either come chasing after you to wrap you around his finger again, or not.
If you let him walk all over your feelings he will.
2006-09-30 19:58:55 · answer #3 · answered by blackbirdphelps 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him !!!! No Question about it. Move on !!! He is a worthless piece of crap for cheating on you and even lower for asking to you stick around. Maybe this girl he is seeing with rip his heart out and make him feel like his life isn't worth living and maybe then and only then he will understand what he put you thur. Honey is it wrong of him to ask you to stay. Move on and find someone who can make you happy and love you and who won't break your heart in the process of it all .. What he has done or is doing to you isn't love it is just a head game from a little boy who can't make up his ming as to what toy he wants to play with
2006-09-30 19:44:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him, lose his number, and forget about him. Are you forgetting he CHEATED on you?? He disrespected you in a horrible way, why would you even give him the opportunity to be your friend? He doesn't respect you, he doesn't love you, and therefore isn't worth your agony. Someone who loves you wouldn't hurt you like that. He will be kicking himself later, and you should just be happy that you got out of the situation, and having a good laugh.
2006-09-30 20:13:52 · answer #5 · answered by Nooshi G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, being the rebound girlfriend does not mean he loves you still. You can lie and convince yourself that, but you'll become that much more obsessed with him once he breaks up with you again. Leave and if he comes back, no matter how hard he pleads, listen to what your heart is yelling in your face and take it, oh and one more thing, "love like you've never been hurt before"
2006-09-30 19:43:31 · answer #6 · answered by candy_freak999 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are doing a thing that is called "Being a doormat".
It is very unhealthy for you to do that to yourself. He dumped you, & that should ne that. He is NOT your friend, he is only looking out for himself, & very well I might add, since he has you around as a spare, for just in case.
Stop loving him & start loving yourself. Your best chance for survival is to listen to your mind. Look where listening to your heart got you.
Of course you can move on. Aren't you worth it?
2006-09-30 19:48:56 · answer #7 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him, and move on. It's a hard decision, but the right one. If he's cheated once, he'll likely cheat again. Why risk putting yourself through that again, for someone who apparently didnt care enough about you to be faithful in the first place?
You're better than he is - Find someone who is worthy of your companionship.
2006-09-30 19:41:34 · answer #8 · answered by Jared Bachman 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was religious at one point in life and in that phase i found that GOD taught me that my body is a temple and to respect it...and that includes your heart...and staying with this guy, is doing it damage....stay true to your mind and be good to your self and stay away....You will move on eventually...
2006-09-30 19:45:11 · answer #9 · answered by Jvana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't love someone and mean it if you cheat on them, break their heart, and leave that person for another girl. You'll get over him, realize what he did to you. Let him crawl back to you... you're not the one who needs to follow him around. What he did to you was his decision and if he wants you back, he's the one who needs to chase you.
2006-09-30 19:43:30 · answer #10 · answered by Goose Feet 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋