I am totally miffed by this one and I really don't know if this is a common occurance...but there is this woman I have been dating a few times now and been with constant telehpone conversations with almost nightly. Well, last I talked with her was on Thur night when she was just heading into the gym and she was going to call me back after she got out of there. Well, she wasn't distant or acting strange at all while talking and in fact seemed in a good mood....well it is now Saturday night and she hasn't returned my calls I made on Friday night and this afternoon. Is this a sign that she is done with me or am I looking into it too much ...it just seems weird after talking everyday she can shut me off just like that...when all I have done in that time was leave a message on getting together possible tonight or Saturday...im confused here and very upset
2006-09-30 19:35:43 · 16 answers · asked by chewey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am sorry to say that you may have committed the sin of clinginess which is a sure fire female replants. Do yourself a favor and don't call for a couple weeks. If she is interested she will call you back if she doesn't don't waste your time or energy with her. Use this time go out and meet other people and don't let yourself get so hung up on one person until you've been out on a few dates and they have hinted that they want a relationship with you.
2006-09-30 19:43:50 · answer #1 · answered by DarkWolf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cooperate do not acquiesce. Once a woman changes you to what she wants she does not want you any more. If you showed any weakness in confidence, she has already passed judgment on you. Never ever look to a woman for strength! Get support from men. Don't call her, don't sweat it. As far as your concern you are nothing but a Rock. If you remember anything, remember Men will never be a part of a womans Domain"relationship" only a VISITOR So be only a cooperative visitor. Stay focused on your life. If she calls you don't be upset if you do you loose! If no truth comes out of the conversation become disinterested and get off the phone.
2006-10-01 02:48:30 · answer #2 · answered by mikey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first sentence states the problem and answer. You will never figure out women. She probably heard some crap about you at the gym or got picked up by some brainless muscle head and is feeling guilty. Something changed and if you do get her to talk again and ask her what's wrong, you'll hear "nothing". Bummer man. Hope I'm wrong.
2006-10-01 02:39:46 · answer #3 · answered by m-t-nest 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gotta say, I'm guilty of that too from time to time. Thankfully my friends know how busy I am due to the long hours I work & my bad memory which doesn't seem to improve til late at night when it's too late to call. If you're really worried/bothered by this leave another message telling her your concerns. Let her know that if she is interested in you, then She needs to call you, otherwise you're not going to call her anymore. Then stick to it.
2006-10-01 02:48:34 · answer #4 · answered by yobaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're being too clingy. :-| Perhaps she felt suffocated and decided to stay offline for awhile to get her bearings.
Perhaps you're also moving too fast and she doesn't feel comfortable with it. Just lighten up with her okay? Don't worry about it too much, i think you're just making a mountain out of a molehill. Go get a hobby or something. Keep yourself occupied.
If you keep harrassing her, she'll only pull away further. Take a breather.
2006-10-01 02:59:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
very upset...?
Dude chill okay?
You don't even have a real relationship yet...She's not even your girlfriend and if that sort of thing has you "very upset" maybe she's better off...sorry...
I know I get busy and it's not about the other person. Don't personalize this okay? She's probably just busy or had an emergency or maybe you left her a stalker message and she decided your not the one for her.
Give it time and try not to be so tense about it.
Good luck :)
2006-10-01 02:39:52 · answer #6 · answered by Ponderpink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look, you should leave one more message, and then if she dosn't call you back don't worry about it. Maybe she didn't think the relationship is serious. Just give her time to figure out what she want's. If she's kind at all, she'll tell you what's up.
2006-10-01 02:44:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might not be about you at all. Is she safe? Is she in the hospital from an accident or attack? I am sorry if I am causing you to worry unnecessarily, but I would be concerned enough to go over to her place, or contact someone else who knows her & can assure you she is free from harm at this time.
2006-10-01 02:41:03 · answer #8 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps, something occured? in any way, do not call her back, that will symbolize that you don't trust her, play it out, be prepared for the worst but hope for the best
2006-10-01 02:39:19 · answer #9 · answered by candy_freak999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are being too clingy?
Don't call her for a few days. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. :)
2006-10-01 02:38:41 · answer #10 · answered by PJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋