My exboyfriend who was so kind, loving, caring and would have done anything for me has abandon me. I am pregnant due in 5 weeks. He is now hooked on cocaine, alcohol and a 34 year old married woman. He says it is weird having sex with a pregnant lady. He is a totally different person. Is he just afraid of the responsibility and wanting to live it up? This change was literally overnight. have you done this and why? What was the outcome?
2006-09-30 18:51:18 · 13 answers · asked by JB 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Did you ever feel guilty or regret what you had done?
2006-09-30 18:54:13 · update #1
We would bicker but nothing out of the ordinary. I would do anything for him and took care of him the best I could. He said it was weird having sex with a pregnant woman.
2006-09-30 19:13:18 · update #2
Drugs are bad ...if he has chosen this path that's his lot not yours you have a new baby to love soon and this will take up a lot of your time....if you take him back you will have two babies to look after....one will be him ....you will have enough to cope with your new baby will be depending on you so tell him to get lost. This is a big world and he is only one of many people ...you and your new baby deserve better ....move on time will change things ....my mother was faced with the same challenges you are now and I am glad she chose me over my father this happened in 1950 so nothing changes over the generations....GOOD LUCK
2006-09-30 19:05:43 · answer #1 · answered by mick cas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men who do coke and alcohol do not feel guilty about anything. When men hear he "pregnant" word they leave when they are getting it free. A little one would mean he would have to start paying for it. No marriage certificate, no hubby or daddy when the child arrives. You lose.
I kinda wonder why ladies like yourself don't read the questions and answers of other women about what happens when she gets pregnant and they are not married. If you did, you would have been on birth control. The outcome is always the same in a shack up situation. Sorry.
2006-10-01 02:00:33 · answer #2 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody is in your situation, so no one can give a true answer. So, you were the sweetest woman to him, and you'll didn't argue, and everything was so perfect, and he just left?
If so, then I'm sorry for what is going on with you, and you should not worry about him. The outcome has already happened. You two are not together and you need to find someone else.
2006-10-01 02:05:13 · answer #3 · answered by Nep 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got my girlfriend pregnant back when I was 18yrs old & she was 16. I stuck with her, we got married, & we had a beautiful, healthy intelligent son. He is now married, & we have a beautiful granddaughter, who is over visiting with us this weekend & is sleeping in the spare room upstairs right now.
I didn't freak out, get hooked on drugs or drink, or go off and have an affair. I lived up to my responsibility & have had few regrets.
I am glad to see that you consider this loser to be your EX BF.
Too bad you couldn't have learned that BEFORE you started carrying his baby, but sh*t happens right?
It doesn't matter if he's afraid to live up to his responsibility, there are ways to MAKE him support this child.
2006-10-01 02:03:17 · answer #4 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, this change did not come overnight. He has been an irresponsible, immature jerk all along, you were just too much on Cloud Nine to notice it. Now the glow has worn off and you see him for what he is. Get yourself and your unborn child away from him as quickly as possible and move on with your life.
2006-10-01 01:53:35 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It wasn't overnight, you just were too clueless to notice. People don't just become alcoholics and drug users overnight. He's a loser. You are a loser because you chose to have a loser's child. What a great way to bring a new life into the world.
2006-10-01 01:55:48 · answer #6 · answered by 101pupil 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't let him get near you while he is messing around with drugs and other women. You are putting yourself at risk.
Encourage him to get into rehab and stop having sex with him!
Just make sure you file for child support.
2006-10-01 01:55:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could possibly be that your pregnancy has freaked him out, and maybe he doesnt want the reponsibility of raising a child. sounds like you are better off without him anyway, just remember two words CHILD SUPPORT!
2006-10-01 01:56:59 · answer #8 · answered by smitty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like my father... he's now hiding from the police, not paying child support, trying to take my social security money, and breaking my heart.
2006-10-01 01:54:53 · answer #9 · answered by dratsum_blonde 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drop the crack head you n your baby dont need that not now not ever u r better off without him in your life..
2006-10-01 01:55:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋