To dump or not to dump, this is my question?

Question

Ok my boyfriend and I have been dating for about a year now, and we have really fallen for each other. I thought everything was going well until he told me that he doesn't believe in God. I was devisated because I was brought up in church and I have a religous family, especially my mother. I don't want to just up and leave him cause we are both kinda going thru hard times right now, but I am I suppose to just let it go and act like everythings normal? And to complicate things even more he is the father of my unborn baby boy, and he sometimes takes about marriage. Which is confusing to me cause the last time I checked you got married before God????? How am I suppose to be with someone who doesn't believe in the most powerful person in my life? What is one to do?

Answer 1

It seems like you had really good relationship till you brought up the religion issue. It is really up to you how important it is to you. My parents happily lived together till death parted them. My mom who is Christian decided that they can work around this issue. She talked to my dad and they decided on something that works for both of them. Namely, my mom goes to church all she wants, she invites the priest to the house when necessary, but she doesn't drag dad with her to church. My dad was always respectful if mom needed to pray in the house or anything like that. She alway respected him on his decision not to join. There was a question on what to do with kids - baptize or not baptize. Dad said no, but then he smiled and said to her "But of course you can always do it secretly from me". He grew to be much more acceptive of religion. My mom never pushed him to change, he just kind of grew towards it. Oh, yeah, they never got married in church because it was unnacceptible to my father at the time they were geting married. Years later, he offer to get married in church, but mom said what's the difference now, you are mine and I'm yours. As long as the two can respect each other's needs and views it can totally work. Good luck.

Answer 2

If it's an issue that you aren't willing to give in on, then don't marry him. You'll never be happy.

Think about how you want to raise your son. If you were raised in church and in a religous family, will he stand in the way of you raising your son like that?

Good luck. One more piece of advice - don't make any huge, lasting decisions while you're pregnant. Your hormones are so totally out of whack!! Wait until you've had the baby and things have calmed down. Don't rush into marriage just because you're pregnant.

Answer 3

Has he alway been an athiest or is he just dissolutioned at the moment? Since he's the father of your unborn, you might want to try to make this work. But don't bend in your beliefs and raise your child how you thinks is best. If you two are young, it's natural to have doubts and push the envelope on your beliefs.
Besides, aren't believers supposed to witness to others in hopes that they, too, may have salvation?
It's worth a shot for the sake of your baby.

Answer 4

have faith. the power of what we believe in and the hope we carry is more than someone who hasn't truly been introduce to GOD.
Don't push or insist. Just keep your Faith.
There is a book I believe called What is your purpose. When one has a tragedy either directly or indirect we often question and at times are looking for an answer we cant find.
We have no right to judge what one believes in or not. GOD will always be in your life and the life of your child.

Answer 5

Having a difference of opinion / views on something as fundamental as your faith is not a good start for a marriage. I would suggest couples counselling for the both of you to work out whether you can come to some sort of compromise on this, especially when it comes to how your child should be raised. If no compromise can be reached, you may be better off finding someone you are more compatible with.

Answer 6

I am mostly a fair person. I would say that everyone has his/her own believes and you should not force that person to belive in the things you believe (I do not believe in God either, but would I dump a girl just because she is religious? Probably not.). As long as he is not stopping you from worshipping God you should not dump him.

Answer 7

Coming from a person who was with an atheist before, I would not recommend marrying someone who is an atheist; it can put a MAJOR detour on how you practice religion, and you got to bring up your child with Christian values. It won't, however, be possible if you marry or co-habit with this guy.
I can't talk to my son about God around his father. I had to cut off my relationship with my son's father. I mean, h-ll forbid if I "PRAYED" in his house! He once said to me, "I don't want you to pray to Jesus in my house!".

Answer 8

If he really loves you, he can believe in God, can't he?
Ive seen many couples who either of them have converted just to please their gf or bf.
If you marry him, I don't think you guys will have a good relationship.
If I were you, I'd talk to him about this serioulsy and if he doesn't care about God or your beliefs after our conversation, then I'd dump him.

Answer 9

Wow!!!
Sorry dear but only you can fix this ..
Talk to him and let him know how you feel about all this ..
Maybe there's a reason why de doesn't believe in God and maybe you can help him with that ...
Best of luck to you !!

Answer 10

Try to compensate if you bith are really in love with each other, but if you don't feel like that you can get the hell out of that chaos.