Okay so i have an issue with my parents. My step-dad i swear hates me, everyday he comes home and yells at me sometimes for things that aren't even my fault or are just plan stupid. He tells me all the time i can't do things, and when i do go and do things when i come back i get into trouble for forgetting to shut off my t.v before i left. He tries and presuade my mother that i'm dishonest and a liar. Funny thing is half the time he can't even back up what he says. I'm still the one that's wrong and get's into trouble though. Like yesterday i couldn't go over to my friends house because i had "dirty clothes" on my floor, the truth is they weren't even on the floor, and they weren't dirty either, i was just laying out the clothes i wanted to wear. He's very assuming too, whenever something happens he automatically blaims it on me, and my mother goes along with him just because he's her husband. I feel like i'm a bad person and my parents hate me. Am i really that bad?
2006-09-30 18:39:11 · 12 answers · asked by Goose Feet 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are not a bad person, and I doubt your parents hate you. I have a daughter that does the same things as you do and I sometimes get upset but those are the little things in life that you should look past. Everyone makes mistakes so keep your head up, try to remember to turn things off when you leave and try to keep your clothes off the floor. If you do these things then your step-dad will have nothing to yell at you about. Another thing, try and be positive. Don't let yourself get down in the dumps over little things like turning a TV off. It sounds like you and your step-dad have nothing in common, if you do the three of you (mom, step-dad, yourself ) should find something that you all can do together as a team or just to get the communication lines opened between all of you. I wish you the best!! Keep your head up!!
2006-09-30 19:04:10 · answer #1 · answered by Wistall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can a person who is so true and can speak her heart out so freely be bad. No. Not at all. It is a passing cloud. The good days are waiting for you. These difficulties will make you stronger and will run your own family better than what your parents are maintainning. So common cheer up
2006-09-30 18:43:57 · answer #2 · answered by lkslalit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he hates you. just a little jealous...maybe. U didn't say how old u r sooo idk. If u r 16/17/18. it would have to be jealousy.if u r younger then i would say that he is just really a butt head and is playing mind games. when i was younger. I had a step mom that would try her best to get my dad to agree with her on anything that had to do with me. It has something to do with their insecurities.R u that bad???Hell no!! u sound like a great kid to me and yes I am a parent...hes just being a butt.Good Luck Sweetie ~It will get better.When u r young life is forever changing.
2006-09-30 18:50:03 · answer #3 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay heres the deal your step dad is mentally abusing you and you need to get out of the house call one of your close realitives and ask if they can take you for a day or 2 and maybe dont go back tell your mom that you will come back when he is gone and still keep in touch with your mom.
~~kate~~
2006-09-30 18:45:06 · answer #4 · answered by Kisses From Paris, I love you! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not the bad person, go along with what he wants to start with, make a point of letting your mum know your making a effort, if he does'nt change at least your mum will know you are trying and hopefully back you up
2006-09-30 18:46:01 · answer #5 · answered by Ian Mac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be overprotective.. not wanting u to spend time with your friends.. could also be a fixation on you so look out for that too....but do the dance ie. cover your butt..stay neat and organised and he will have to stop when your mom sees that he is lying..stay away from his wrath it can get worse...n let your mom seee the things that u r doing re your room and stuff so that she can get on your side too
2006-09-30 18:46:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you think there is an issue you had solved half the problem.
Now find a way to address it, mostly you were wrong.
2006-09-30 18:41:16 · answer #7 · answered by Rammohan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a jerk and your mother is caught in the middle.Just wait till your old enough to move out and do so.
2006-09-30 18:42:02 · answer #8 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to talk to him. Openly and honestly. If you need your mother in the room-then even better for both of you. DO NOT BE AFRAID TO STAND UP FOR YOURSELF AND YOUR RIGHTS.
2006-09-30 18:42:56 · answer #9 · answered by denny jo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not the trouble is perants are not perfect and make mistakes some large some small, you will be grown up and out of there soon enough
2006-09-30 18:45:14 · answer #10 · answered by jac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋